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Chastity Vocabulary Guide

member34553b26f0 wrote:(From the Is it Unmanly? thread) We have a bunch of unsatisfactory terms to try and communicate a very complex emotional process and…

member_4e3795d05d 23 Aug 2026 #1

member_34553b26f0 wrote:(From the Is it Unmanly? thread) We have a bunch of unsatisfactory terms to try and communicate a very complex emotional process and roles. … We lack a decent lexicon to subtract something rather pure, fine and loving out of the murk of porn and negativity. I love the power of words and couldn’t agree more with CQ on this one. What words or expression do you use or would like to see added to the dictionary of unfucking? For example let’s start with while Keyholder is a fairly universal term for the person who holds the keys we appear to have no similar term for the man who is locked. Anybody fancy a stab at that one?

member_feda7f789f 23 Aug 2026 #2

Happy -A

member_0fe7c9ef96 23 Aug 2026 #3

Content, confident, giving, but most importantly-mine.

member_feda7f789f 24 Aug 2026 #4

> member_0fe7c9ef96 wrote:most importantly-mine. :)

member_381064b05f 24 Aug 2026 #5

Getting serious for a moment, the expression "chastized male" really irritates my inner grammar Nazi. "Chastise" actually means to punish or discipline, and as we all know, most of us don't consider this to be a punishment. However, it's an understandable error because the words are so similar; however, they do not actually have the same root. To chasten actually means to whip, and IIRC, is related to the word castigate. I've heard someone suggest "chastitifed" which is probably a more proper use of the word "chastity," although it doesn't exactly roll fluidly off the tongue. But maybe it's better than the alternative.:roll:

member_0fe7c9ef96 24 Aug 2026 #6

> member_381064b05f wrote:Getting serious for a moment, the expression "chastized male" really irritates my inner grammar Nazi. > I've heard someone suggest "chastitifed" which is probably a more proper use of the word "chastity," although it doesn't exactly roll fluidly off the tongue. But maybe it's better than the alternative.:roll: Could not agree more. It turns my stomach at times. As I have often said, Jnuts is my husband, not my dog. I do not need to punish, or "chastize" him but he is in chastity because we BOTH want it.

member_adab360f3f 24 Aug 2026 #7

Is Chaste not the proper term?

member_0fe7c9ef96 25 Aug 2026 #8

Chaste is correct as an adj. Definition of CHASTE : innocent of unlawful sexual intercourse : celibate : pure in thought and act: modest a: severely simple in design or execution: austere <chaste classicism> b: clean, spotless — chaste·ly adverb — chaste·ness noun

member_d601666aa2 25 Aug 2026 #9

I think "muzzled male" is sexy.

member_a815191dea 25 Aug 2026 #10

Sometimes I'll say something like "How's the inmate doing today?" but I think I'm referring to my husband's penis, not my husband himself.

member_381064b05f 26 Aug 2026 #11

> tcs wrote:I think "muzzled male" is sexy. I find it amusing as well. My wife just uses the term "caged". "Chaste", in my opinion, isn't *quite *right. There's a connotation, or at least, an implied lack of sexual thought and deed which seems incongruous with our idea of using these devices as sex toys, or, if you will, devices to enhance sexual and emotional intimacy.

member_4e3795d05d 26 Aug 2026 #12

Unable Semen?:D To open this up further; what phrase would be appropriate for a lengthy period of chastification? I've always liked 'monastic' but the more correct definition would be 'monkish'.

member_4e3795d05d 26 Aug 2026 #13

How about 'retainer'? As well as the dental usage, it can be taken to mean someone kept in the service of another.

member_2eed563509 26 Aug 2026 #14

**Chaste**: pure in thought and deed. Perhaps purely in action, but when it comes to keeping thoughts pure... I can't find a single one in my head.

member_ea9a7b389c 27 Aug 2026 #15

Yeah, incredibly lucky to have a keyholder who actually cares for us

member_4e3795d05d 27 Aug 2026 #16

'cum-down': the post orgasmic slump.

member_4e3795d05d 27 Aug 2026 #17

Going off on a tangent: Wines are laid down until they become 'vintage'. Cheese is stored until it has 'matured' Whisky is 'aged'. What about us?

member_381064b05f 27 Aug 2026 #18

> member_4e3795d05d wrote: > Going off on a tangent: >> Wines are laid down until they become 'vintage'. >> Cheese is stored until it has 'matured' >> Whisky is 'aged'. >> What about us? **MU!**

member_4e3795d05d 27 Aug 2026 #19

MU? I'm reading that as 'messed up'. Hell yes! The rest of my life got corralled (there's a word that needs looking at) into normality - let me have this slice of stupidity. It isn't hurting anyone and it's even making some of us happy. Back to the topic: Pinion: an alternative for 'shackle' but what I really like about it is that it's what 'opinion' becomes when you remove the 'O'. It also works quite well as a noun and sits between 'minion' and 'pillion'.

member_6a2b8da741 28 Aug 2026 #20

I think it is Japanese meaning "nothing" or "non existent" but I'm not entirely sure...

member_381064b05f 28 Aug 2026 #21

Sorry, the questions reminded me of a Zen koan.:roll:

member_6a2b8da741 28 Aug 2026 #22

too many syllables for a haiku though.

member_5778b0d078 29 Aug 2026 #23

Screwed?

member_0b01a65d84 29 Aug 2026 #24

i suggest: nub-locked...;-)

member_4e3795d05d 29 Aug 2026 #25

Stumbled across a TLA I just had to share; ELF: Extremely Low Frequency If not all of us (compared to the average) then it certainly can be applied to those that go long. Now working on one for goblins, pixies and fairies.:D

member_4e3795d05d 29 Aug 2026 #26

GOBLIN: Gets Out Because Lover Is Needing. PIXIE: Penis In eXile Intimacy Enhanced. FAIRY: Fantasy Arouses; Isn't Ready Yet.

member_4e3795d05d 30 Aug 2026 #27

Overlock: The period of time between when the pinion desires for **chastity** to end and the keyholder grants it.

member_381064b05f 30 Aug 2026 #28

> member_4e3795d05d wrote: > GOBLIN: Gets Out Because Lover Is Needing. >> PIXIE: Penis In eXile Intimacy Enhanced. >> FAIRY: Fantasy Arouses; Isn't Ready Yet. Ah, those must be ETLAs (extended three letter acronyms).

member_a815191dea 30 Aug 2026 #29

> member_5778b0d078 wrote: > Screwed? We recently got a Mature Metal Queen's Keep with the security screw options, and I've been starting to use "screwed" instead of "locked" for when Jake is wearing his device.

member_4e3795d05d 30 Aug 2026 #30

Keyheldee/keyhelder T-D-um: when it's not turning you on. Raven: One seeking permanent denial. (From Poe: 'Quoth the raven "Nevermore!"')

member_4e3795d05d 31 Aug 2026 #31

Lifecycler: Someone who is committed to stay in **chastity** for the foreseeable future, receiving orgasms as their keyholder sees fit.

member_723530a514 31 Aug 2026 #32

Interesting blog post by the naked husband regarding the difference between **chastity** and **orgasm** denial which may cause us to coin an altogether different phrase or give an entirely different meaning to O.D.. ... stity.html

member_4e3795d05d 31 Aug 2026 #33

Dehorn: Prevent the growth of horns on certain animals. Absolutely genuine and possibly my new favourite word.

member_4e3795d05d 31 Aug 2026 #34

Weld: 'wed' & 'held' joined together. Further relevance if you are in a metal device and sounds like an olde English word for wife.

member_4e3795d05d 1 Sept 2026 #35

Onan the Barbarian: the Neanderthal that we turn into 24hrs after shooting our load.

member_34553b26f0 1 Sept 2026 #36

lol!

member_4e3795d05d 1 Sept 2026 #37

Denialware: the stuff you put on to stop you getting off.

member_4e3795d05d 1 Sept 2026 #38

McSex: Easy to get, fills a hole but not really satisfying (see McJob).

member_4e3795d05d 2 Sept 2026 #39

Bluejob: being orally teased whilst locked until the balls darken.

member_ea9a7b389c 2 Sept 2026 #40

How about keyed, simple but understandable.

member_4e3795d05d 2 Sept 2026 #41

My first thought was of scratched paintwork but it is very appropriate though to me sounds odd in use; I've toyed with 'lock' as it's short and obvious (perhaps too literal for me). I'm just seeding the ground here. What gets picked up and used isn't important to me as long as I'm not pissing anyone off by keeping on doing it. On that note: Hanker: desire stongly or persistently (and not a wanker).

member_4e3795d05d 2 Sept 2026 #42

Helding - as in 'gelding' (which is a horse that has been castrated). Sometimes the obvious eludes.

member_4e3795d05d 3 Sept 2026 #43

Subhand - it's a spoonerism of husband that you could drop into conversation just to see who notices. I bet your subhand will.

member_4e3795d05d 3 Sept 2026 #44

Found a thread in the Members Lounge: the archived discussion Which advocates the use of 'Chastify' as the word to describe the act of being locked in a device and recently I read the term 'KH and chastee' which seemed to go together well. Thrall is another word that has my attention at the moment. It's a bit slavish for most here but lightens up when one becomes enthralled as I'm sure many of us are to our Keyholders.

member_4e3795d05d 3 Sept 2026 #45

'Coq au Can' - rather than have chicken stewed in wine, why not dish up cock in a can?

member_75c78a1ec7 4 Sept 2026 #46

I found this reading on another site. **Sundome** is a Japanese word. Sundome literally means "stopping the moment before", in sex it refers to being stopped just before ejaculating.

member_381064b05f 4 Sept 2026 #47

> member_75c78a1ec7 wrote: > **Sundome** is a Japanese word. Sundome literally means "stopping the moment before", in sex it refers to being stopped just before ejaculating. Ooohh... I like this one. It's perfect for what we've been doing lately, ourselves. 8-)

member_6a2b8da741 4 Sept 2026 #48

Sundoming... much better than ruined **orgasm** or edging

member_f2d9b3801d 4 Sept 2026 #49

I'm certainly glad that no one has suggested using the word "eunuch!"

member_4e3795d05d 5 Sept 2026 #50

Celebated: The past tense of not having a **release** to mark a special occasion.

member_29b1a705b2 5 Sept 2026 #51

Due to the fact that it's a metal CD my Wife/KH calls it/me "Ironman."

member_4e3795d05d 5 Sept 2026 #52

From Twitter: **Orgasm** - the gland finale.

member_02d53d08e5 5 Sept 2026 #53

Is for the victim of the Keyholder the word 'The Belted' not sufficient?

member_381064b05f 6 Sept 2026 #54

> member_02d53d08e5 wrote: > Is for the victim of the Keyholder the word 'The Belted' not sufficient? Most of us aren't actually wearing belts.

member_02d53d08e5 6 Sept 2026 #55

Than the Penislocked?