College Student seeking guidance and a male Key Holder

I waste too much energy on masturbation and sex, stealing time away from my schooling. I also feel drained and weak; I need to commit more seriously to the gym if I want to build muscle and improve my health.

My plan is that locking up will steer me toward better habits: studying harder, working out consistently, and curbing my tendency to be a loudmouth.

Does this make sense?

I’m seeking a keyholder willing to help me manage my overpowering libido, keep me humble, and allow me to concentrate on education, athletics, and eventually my career. This should involve a long-term commitment from both of us.

Although I am gay, that actually supports the case for extended chastity. My reason for wanting a male keyholder isn’t sexual; rather, I believe only another man can truly grasp how a male sex drive operates. It doesn’t matter if he is straight or gay.

I hope to find him here.

"I spend way too much time masturbating and having sex, taking time I need for my studies." For me, sexual frustration leads to more porn browsing and generally less focus on things outside of sex. I'm not convinced that simply locking yourself up will result in increased study hours.

I agree with thumper. There are moments when I masturbate just to lower my sex drive so that I can focus on more practical issues.

> member_efaaeaef99 wrote: > "I spend way too much time masturbating and having sex, taking time I need for my studies." > > For me, the sexual frustration makes me browse porn and be generally less focused on non-sexual subject matter. Not sure you'll end up with more study time simply by locking yourself up. Yep, spot on.

I think (since you asked so kindly) that you might consider some community volunteer work to 'tame your bigmouth tendencies'. I've noticed that watching people with genuine life difficulties struggle quietly deflates most blowhards. It will also look great on your resume. The idea of "I need to be locked up because I'm gay" (deliberate misquote) doesn't quite work for me. If you are still burning through sexual energy constantly, turning off the engine completely might not be right. Your primary love should always be yourself; guilt is a heavy burden, especially when it's undeserved. I won't dispute your thoughts on having a male KH, but if you genuinely believe you won't develop strong sexual desire for whoever holds your orgasm release key, I suggest you read more here. Many of us are reaching an age where not much excites us anymore, and we're making quite a fuss about this!

thanks for ur responses and i gave it a thought. my experience just was: i lived under self imposed chastity for almost 3 months before. my grades went up, i did superb at the gym and it almost seemed as if my permanent hornyness and sexual frustration increased my agressivity at the gym alot, so helped me pump harder - and afterwards made me become much more balanced and calm. just made me a better person in every way. i am still looking for a consequent longterm keyholder:)