FORUM GUIDELINES - Read before posting. Yes, even you.

DO NOT ACT LIKE A JERK. That is the primary guideline in our community. The rest of it? No other rules. With that said, we focus on male chastity as it happens in everyday life, not some dreamy wanking paradise. Please respect that reality. We are usually the type who lock up their cocks and call them by many names, but strictly avoid calling them “sissy clitties.” Actually, never use that term. Head here for more info. Also, keep in mind this is a place where adults discuss adult topics. You need to meet the age of consent requirements in your region to join us. Minors get kicked out. My apologies, kids!

Hello everyone - you've received a new device and it's got all excited about it, so you want to display your prize. Wonderful! However. we have some guidelines for you. **Private Messaging** Our community is *not* a dating site. We get that you might have personal questions for other members. That works fine. What doesn't work well is sending PMs requesting or proposing sexual encounters unsolicited. Sending random sexual offers to others (particularly Keyholders) can lead to suspension or permanent banning. Also, remember that new users (those whose posts are still under moderation) cannot send PMs. We turned off the feature because too many people were registering just to spam or harass others. **Pictures - Avatars & Attachments** To be clear: **your forum profile picture - your avatar - must not display explicit or implied genitalia, sexual acts, or features that publicly identify you.** We know you want to flaunt your new stainless steel cage, but please don't take an explicit photo of yourself (locked up or otherwise) and set it as your avatar. Photos showing sheer, lacy panties barely hiding the device are also prohibited. We aim to make this forum welcoming for newcomers. Since many newbies are *women*, who often approach things with some nerves, we don't want them opening a thread and getting hit in the face by your excited display photos. Therefore, please share explicit photographs (or similar artwork) in the **Members Lounge**, adding **(pic)** or **(photo)** to your subject line. This ensures only forum members see them - not random web users - giving anyone who opens that thread plenty of warning. Edit by Schnoff: Explicit photographs or artwork are also permitted **within your own journal** in the Journey section. Note this applies strictly to photos posted inside your specific journal thread; if you interrupt other people's journals with extra photos, we'll warn you once and ban on the second offense. Use common sense. If unsure whether a photo is suitable, please message the moderators. **Keyholding services** First off, this isn't primarily for advertising your Keyholding or professional domination services. Professionals are welcome to mention their work briefly. Unsure if you're saying too much? Send us a PM and ask. **Solicitation** It goes without saying: this forum is not the place for personal ads or soliciting/offering other sexual services. Buying, selling, or trading chastity devices? Perfect; we have a section for that. Looking for a Domme, Keyholder, slave, master, etc.? Head over to one of the many specialized websites out there. **____-Lock websites** Please, *please*, do not post requests asking members to click links to external Keyholding services just to increase your locked time. Seriously. Do Not Ask That here. It's not what we are about. Instead, post those kinds of requests in other groups and return here to discuss experiences, ask questions, and have adult conversations. **Discussion** We created this group because many of us wanted a space to talk about "enforced" chastity, orgasm denial (OD), and T&D without the usual distractions from online personas common in the kink community. The discussions here won't cater to your desire to be a slave/submissive/sissy (or whatever); we don't call women "Mistress," and we won't indulge every fantasy. Instead, we encourage questions and advice given as if you were just chatting over coffee face-to-face. It's less kinky perhaps, but likely more useful. See the next section for details. **The Keyholders Forum** We have a dedicated forum specifically for Keyholders. We realize many women hesitate to post in general forums but still want to discuss chastity, T&D, FLR, etc. Please leave an introduction in the Hello World thread and identify yourself as a Keyholder. Feel free to also ID your partner if he is a member. One of our moderators will notice your post and grant you access to the Keyholders' Forum.

Regarding your personal interests: This board was established by people wanting to discuss daily life with chastity devices and orgasm denial. We wanted a spot to cover technical details, emotional challenges, how to get partners on board (or brag about it when they do), and other aspects of living with these kinks. We also sought an area where we could safely include our partners, especially if they are more vanilla. This meant an environment relatively free from heavy BDSM and extreme kink associations often linked to chastity. New members can enjoy whatever fetishes they like. We aren't hostile to specific *fetish* types; however, we are adults here and try to behave as such (most of the time). We speak as adults and prefer being addressed that way. We exchange info and sometimes experiences, but we don't expect others to coddle us or cater specifically to our preferences. Unlike other forums, we typically do not "play" into each other's fantasies here. If you are looking for others to engage with your fantasy persona and play along, you may be disappointed, if not slightly offended. On the flip side, if you seek adult conversation about real issues/experiences related to *chastity* or associated kinks, you will definitely find plenty of that here. Not everyone shares every member's specific kinks, but we respect each other's right to enjoy our unique preferences. However, respecting your right to enjoy your particular brand of kink does not mean you have the right to expect us to *indulge* in it with you. In short: We want you to feel welcome, but please do not assume members will immerse themselves fully in your specific fantasy. (Thanks to TwistedMister)

You took the plunge. You read through the boards, decided you liked this community, and registered as a member. You spent a few minutes typing up a thoughtful post and hit Submit. OMG! Your first post on the site! You refreshed your browser to find it. Hey, where did it go?! Here is how it works: The initial posts from new members are held in a queue for moderator review. This ensures you are a genuine person interested in joining us, not a troll or spammer. With moderators across various time zones, it is rare for your post to wait more than a few hours before being reviewed. Please note that while we have one or two posts from new members daily, we also receive dozens to hundreds of spam posts, usually created by spambots running scripts to generate accounts and post nonsense text with links to dubious websites. Moderators scan the incoming queue and remove these spam posts. They are often obvious just by title and username, but if a post looks borderline okay, one of us will open it for closer inspection. However, occasionally during high-spam periods, a moderator might accidentally delete a new member's post. If this happens to you, don't be discouraged. Unfortunately, we currently lack a way to retrieve your lost post; hopefully, you have saved a draft online via Google Drive or another cloud office service. Please send us a message so we can look out for your username on the next submission. It is rare but does happen. We apologize in advance if it occurs to you. Additionally, if you registered but never posted, your account might be deleted. This happens because we periodically clear out thousands of spambot usernames; any unposted account is assumed to be spam. If this applies to you, simply register again. We know it seems inconvenient, but this is our method for keeping the board from being overrun by spam comments. Note that once you have posted several times, your account is considered clear and no longer requires moderation.