Stepping into Male Chastity

After pondering it deeply and reading every blog and forum on the web, I decided to approach my wife about male chastity. I started by sending her an email asking her to visit a website, I thought it provided a fairly concise description of the various aspects of male chastity that she might find helpful. I was out of town at the time so we did not discuss it for a couple days. I had ordered an inexpensive steel CD beforehand. When I returned home from my trip, I went into the bath and put on the CD under my clothes. As she was getting ready for bed, I began to ask her questions about what she thought of the information from the site. We talked for a little while and I provided additional information to help clear things up for her. She was intrigued by the aspect of being in total control of our/my orgasms. We also discussed her natural reluctance to deny me pleasure when she would be getting hers. (we have always had a good sex life and I have always made sure that she cums first). Anyway, after talking a while and asking her if she was interested in exploring the game, she said yes. Lucky me!!! I told her that I had bought a CD, she laughed and said she thought I might have. I asked her if she wanted to see it, pointing to my crotch. She smiled and laughed, asking if I had it on. I got off the bed and had her remove my pants, revealing my somewhat swollen dick trapped in the steel CD. She cringed a little and asked if it was uncomfortable. I told her no, it was actually pretty good, much better than I expected. I lay back on the bed wearing only the CD and we talked some more about the game, how there are different levels that couples play, games of chance to help reduce her initial guilty feelings, etc. As it was late, I asked her if she wanted me to make her cum. She asked about me and I explained that I was locked, this was about her pleasure. She said yes fairly quickly. She got undressed and lay on the bed. I moved between her legs and set about orally pleasing her. The whole while, she caressed my balls, my dick straining against the cage. Once she had cum, I curled up next to her only wearing the CD. She drifted off to sleep quickly. I on the other hand had a very restless night. Not so much because of my trapped, semi-hard cock. But because of the weight of the CD constantly pulling at my trapped balls as I lay on my side trying to sleep. So here I sit writing about my first chastity experience with my wonderful wife, by cock still trapped in the steel cage. I am looking forward to where this game will go…

It sounds like you are off to a good start. Not everyone has had your success in the beginning. My wife was alittle reluctant at first and it took some time before she knew where this was going. Now she has embraced this lifestyle and turned into a wonderful KH. From what I've read my fellow bloggers for the most part feel the same. Thanks for the link:D Keep us posted and remember BWYWF:shock:

Off to a good start! Interesting link. I was reading through it when I came across this tidbit. "In our opinion, such devices are for teasing fun, and not seriously practical for long-term uninterrupted wear. Anyone who’s ever had to wear a medical brace or cast of any kind will tell you, no matter how well they are custom fit, they always have hot spots of soreness, and chastity belts are no exception. Pressure points will create pressure sores, and urologists also agree that restraining the penis from engorging to its erect state for extended periods of time will cause damage to the erectile tissues. But for short periods of chastity, there’s nothing more definitive than that palpable “click” of a lock." What is your take on this? What do you think they mean by "long term"? I am very happy so far in my new device, but as always, safety first! Happy to hear any and all input on this.

> member_94e14bb19f wrote: > "In our opinion, such devices are for teasing fun, and not seriously practical for long-term uninterrupted wear. Anyone who’s ever had to wear a medical brace or cast of any kind will tell you, no matter how well they are custom fit, they always have hot spots of soreness, and chastity belts are no exception. Pressure points will create pressure sores, and urologists also agree that restraining the penis from engorging to its erect state for extended periods of time will cause damage to the erectile tissues. But for short periods of chastity, there’s nothing more definitive than that palpable “click” of a lock." > What is your take on this? What do you think they mean by "long term"? I am very happy so far in my new device, but as always, safety first! Happy to hear any and all input on this. I'm no expert, but I've been locked in a CB6000s since 4/2010. In that time I've been in the device approx. 85% of the time. To this day I've had no ill effects and when I'm allowed to orgasm I have an erection and ejaculation just as strong as ever, and I'm pushing 57.:D

Thanks, I had my wife look at that site because I guess I would say it is a little vanilla, less of the more extreme views of dom/sub relationships or FLR. Those are fine, just probably not the best for her first exposure to chastity. The CD is still comfortable. I can see how one gets used to it and doesn't notice it much. It is quite heavy and snug. Any thought of an erection is quickly snuffed out. Most of the time it grips my penis and I can't feel anything really. I can feel the A ring, but it is just there, not painful. I did sleep good last night though which was great as I was exhausted from the night before. Hopefully I won't suffer too much from night time erections. I asked her this morning if she had thought about when I might get let out of the CD. Her reply was that we had not rolled the dice yet (she likes games). Maybe over the weekend I will have an opportunity to find out how long it will be until I am released to play. I will post an update with the results.

I read most of and decided I don't really like it- and hey, thats fine, I'm just one guy, what do I know? I guess to me it just read like a piece of erotic fiction, did not strike me as genuine. I can't put my finger on it that's just how I feel! I am happy that it worked for you and your game loving wife, have fun you two!;) **EDIT did not intend to put the site down, I am glad you shared it with us as I like to read all types of views and experiences.

I lol'd at onlyshecums when they offered to sell me tools to "please her cliterous". I raged when it said shaving is for wimps and suggested epilating of the scrotum. I don't think so. Other than that, the site seemed okay, but kinda one dimensional. I kept hearing "him" and none of "her". I prefer forums like this because it's good to get viewpoints from both him and her. In any case, good luck with your journey. The first time my wife saw the thing, she flicked the lock and said "clink - um, no". Two years later she finally doesn't mind if I wear it. So you're off to a good start.

Last night was a play night. We agreed on a simple dice game. 1 or 2 dice First roll determines orgasm or not 1 = intercourse orgasm 6 = blowjob orgasm 2,3,4 or 5 = tease and denial Second roll or second die = number of days to next orgasm opportunity I guess on any single roll, I have a 33% chance of an orgasm. I don't know if my odds change with denial and then subsequent rolls. It's not a hard core game, but we are just starting out. I am sure it will evolve as time goes on. Maybe we will use 2 dice on the second roll and add the results together for the lockup period. She did tell me that she was a little uneasy about being in charge of my orgasms. I reassured her that it was normal and OK. The dice were not too kind to me last night. She got a 3 on the first roll. She smiled and said "No orgasm for you". She got a 5 on the second roll. This made her laugh and she said, "Sucks to be you!" Which was accurate, it did suck to be me. No possibility of an orgasm till at least Thursday. But of course she would get to cum. I pleased her orally until she asked me to get on top. She came quickly. She flipped over and we continued doggie style for about 5 minutes. I took my time as I knew I would not get to cum. When she sensed I was getting close, she told me to stop. We laid down, kissed and snuggled for a few minutes, then she told me to clean up and get back in the cage. Needless to say it was a restless night. She has teased me a couple of times today by smiling and saying, "Not till Thursday." So it looks like it will be 5 days before I can take my chances again. Hopefully things will work out better for me then. Wish me luck.

> member_31611159e7 wrote:Hopefully things will work out better for me then. Wish me luck. Just curious what that would look like. You could roll snake eyes but that wouldn't be much in the way of denial. Off the top of my head this system should result in an orgasm approx every 10 days or so.

Good point on the lockup period roll with 2 dice. Maybe we would simply re-roll if either dice showed a 1 or 2. Then the minimum lockup would be 6 days and the maximum 12 before there is the opportunity to play for orgasm or denial again. This way, a couple unlucky plays could earn 20 days or so of denial.

Sunday afternoon was interesting. We found ourselves at home with no kids, a rarity for us. We had been working around the house so I suggested we take a shower and play, and my lovely wife agreed. So we moved to the bedroom and got naked, me still in the CD. Her pussy needed a trim, so I suggested she lay down on the bed. I finished shaving her and we took a nice hot shower, washing each other. The whole time my dick struggled against the cage. After we were done, I asked how I could please her, but she said she did not want any attention. She told me to get out our recently purchased thumb cuffs, had me place my hands behind my back and locked the cuffs. She then had me sit on the edge of the bed, retrieved the CD key and took the device off. Taking it off was the easy part. She then knelt and began to give me a wonderful, slow blowjob. She really knows what she is doing. She didn't really edge me, but just got me to a very high level of arousal and kept me there. I found it hard to say anything, mostly I just made these little grunting noises as she worked on the more sensitive parts. Next thing I knew, she stopped, smiled and said, "That's 15 minutes, time to lock you back up." Sure didn't seem like 15 minutes to me, but then I would have let her do that for an hour or more! Now she was going to put the CD back on herself? It's not easy for me, and I can feel when I am pinching something. Anyway, she left me there for 10 minutes waiting for my cock to go down. She got the base ring on, a little painful getting everything through but my cock was being very uncooperative. So we waited again. She walked back into the room, saw my mostly limp dick and grabbed the tube. She pretty quickly lined it up and pushed it toward the base ring. But, she didn't see that fold of skin in the way of the guide pin. Ouch! She pulled the tube back a little, pushed the skin down and slid the tube into place. Next thing I knew, she clicked the lock shut and my cock was again straining helplessly against the cage. She had me stand up, removed the thumb cuffs, smiled and said, "No chance of cumming till Thursday." I slept OK last night, only woke up a couple times with my dick trying to push the cage off. But I had a hard time concentrating at work this morning, just felt kind of weird, all the while with a semi hard dick. I guess I can probably expect more of the same during the week.

Very Nice Jack. Love the T&D. I feel your pain about your wife putting on the CD. Mine tried once and as careful as she was she still drew blood.:cry:

Thanks, it was a wonderful tease! Today I was feeling very anxious about rolling the dice tomorrow night. My wife and I were texting about it (she was teasing me) and I found myself getting very jittery. Kind of like when you are about to walk on stage in front of a bunch of people. Since Sunday, my wife has been very busy and has essentially ignored my locked up condition. I was feeling a little unhappy about it this morning even though it has only been three days since my last tease. I really need to suck it up if we are going to play this game. But, thinking about my odds of an orgasm tomorrow made me feel anxious. 33% chance is not terrible, but it is not great either. I could easily lose again, pushing me past the 2 week mark (I had been gone a few days before we started our game). Heck I could even lose three straight rolls if I am unlucky. I don't want to even think about that right now. My sweet wife has been giggling about my predicament. I pointed out to her that she was 3 to 0 orgasms since we started last week. She said with a smile that 4 or 5 or 6 to zero would be a better ratio.

> member_31611159e7 wrote:I could easily lose again, pushing me past the 2 week mark (I had been gone a few days before we started our game). Heck I could even lose three straight rolls if I am unlucky. By lose do you mean roll a 1 or 6? I thought the point was to have a little denial. The last time we rolled the dice it was like you, just one die, but it was for the number of months without being allowed out for any play time. And that was on top of the 1 month I was already committed to. I like long lockups but I was still a little anxious about that one. Ended up only being a 2. I was a little disappointed but glad it wasn't a 6. I still have a little over a month to go on that one and that is just to have some play time for me. Not sure when an orgasm will be on the table again, could be a while. > member_31611159e7 wrote:My sweet wife has been giggling about my predicament. I pointed out to her that she was 3 to 0 orgasms since we started last week. She said with a smile that 4 or 5 or 6 to zero would be a better ratio. most of us would be happy to have our wife respond like that.

> member_31611159e7 wrote: > But, thinking about my odds of an orgasm tomorrow made me feel anxious. 33% chance is not terrible, but it is not great either. I could easily lose again, pushing me past the 2 week mark Jack, Enjoy the ride. Your wife is playing it perfectly in my eyes. If it's tomorrow or a week from tomorrow, just think how good it's gonna feel when it happens. For me it's all about pleasing my wife, the T&D and that big O I know I'll get eventually.:D

Thanks Atone and Locked4her55, I do really want her to roll a 1 or a 6. I really want to have an orgasm with her. I don't think I am interested in going a couple months without, a couple weeks fine, but not months (at least right now). We will see what the dice have in store, I may be waiting a few days until I have the chance to roll again. I have been asked by her a couple times today, "Are you Feeling Lucky?", accompanied by a sly smile. But, I may have to wait until tomorrow, she is feeling a little under the weather this evening. Oh well.

> member_31611159e7 wrote: > I have been asked by her a couple times today, "Are you Feeling Lucky?", accompanied by a sly smile. I wouldn't want to go months either but from your quote above it sounds like you are very lucky with a wonderful KH. Keep us posted:D

> member_31611159e7 wrote: > I do really want her to roll a 1 or a 6. I really want to have an orgasm with her. I don't think I am interested in going a couple months without, a couple weeks fine, but not months (at least right now). I didn't mean to suggest that you have to go months, I know that is not what interests many. It seems that a couple of weeks is closer to "normal". I didn't do a full analysis but a rough estimate came up with about 10 days, I think that is a great plan. Allows for a lot of variation too. My point was more that if you rolled two "1"'s you would get to orgasm by intercourse and have another chance the next day. Guys that are not in chastity probably don't have odds that good of having intercourse two days in a row:)

Hmmmm.... Didn't think of that.:D I don't think my wife has either. I will have to point that out to her, but it sounds like a good deal if I get real lucky!:D I have been thinking that we need to eliminate the 1,2 and 3 on the lockup days roll. That way there would be a minimum of a 4 day wait before there is another chance to roll for orgasm or T&D. Thanks for pointing that out.

Here’s a progress report on our dice challenge. My wife rolled another 3 during her initial throw last night, which means I’m still without an orgasm. What a pity! However, she then managed a 2, so my next opportunity only comes Sunday night. Since she was keen to continue the game, she removed the CD and we spent some time cuddling and kissing. Afterward, I offered to give her oral pleasure for a bit. As long as she didn’t say stop during this process, it counted toward her goal. After that, she kept me on edge with teasing for about 20 minutes, stroking and sucking my cock. The sensations were incredibly intense. Having been locked up continuously for five days, the lack of stimulation seemed to sharpen my sensitivity—though perhaps it’s just how I perceived it at the time either way. I was practically vibrating most of that duration. Then she climbed on top and performed a slow-grind fuck for roughly 10 minutes. The feeling of being inside her felt more amazing than ever before. She had to check her pace a few times to keep me from losing control, but naturally, I didn't cum. The final thing she did was smile at me and declare, "No orgasm for you." Once things settled down slightly, I managed to get the CD back on securely, and we drifted off to sleep. We usually enjoy intimacy Saturday mornings before the children wake up. This morning, while cuddling in bed—and being a glutton for punishment—I asked her for a blowjob. She agreed, took off the CD again, and had me sit on the edge of the mattress (which is my preferred spot for this). She then gave me another delightful 15 minutes of head work. The sensations were so intense that my whole body tensed up and remained pulsating like that. My wife paused a couple of times to let me recover, but it was largely fantastic. When time expired, she smiled and laughed at my state, asking if I’d enjoyed myself. I told her yes. Putting the CD back on required some effort as well; my penis really wanted to remain semi- ard. Even after squeezing back in, I was having intense sensations in my groin as I strained against the CD. It has been about 30 minutes now and things are settling down a bit. Maybe my luck will be better tomorrow night.

Jack, It sounds like your wife/KH has GREAT self control (as well as you too). My wife/KH does some of the same things to me and it starts out as T&D but alot of times she gives in and lets me have an O. Just like many of us feel here in chastity, great when it happens but a let down later. Good for you but mostly Good For Her!

Last night the dice were not kind to me (again), but my wife was. I had not had an orgasm in 2 weeks. Probably the longest stint in my adult life (I know it's not much, but it's a start). My wife rolled a 5 on the orgasm or denial roll (1 and 6 mean an orgasm for me). Then she rolled a 2 for the days until we could play again. "Awww....Honey, no orgasm for you again," she said, half serious. I resigned myself to not cumming again and asked her how she would like me to please her. We cuddled for a little while and I got on top of her and we made love until she came. She then proceeded to tease me mercilessly for the next 15 minutes until I just couldn't take it any more. Instead of asking her to stop, I asked her if I could cum. She said yes and that she was trying to get me there. I had just been fighting it. Duh! So I relaxed and orgasmed pretty quickly. It was very good! She then said she needed to roll the dice again and add the result to the 2 days she had previously rolled since I had gotten an orgasm. I said sure and she rolled a 4. So, we start over and I get another roll of the dice in 6 days. I don't think she minds the chastity game. She said that there is no pressure on her to give me an orgasm when the dice are unkind. I don't think she minds the 5 to 1 orgasm ratio over the past couple of weeks either. She also said this is making up for all the times when we could not make love but she would please me. It seems fair that she should be on the positive side of the orgasm meter for quite a while.

I thought I would post an update to this. We are still playing the dice game but we have modified it a little in order to eliminate a couple deficiencies. She still rolls one die twice, the first is the orgasm/denial roll with 1 and 6 earning me an orgasm. Anything else is denial. The second roll is the lockup roll. Whatever the outcome of the first roll, I am locked back up for the days dictated by the second roll. Atone pointed out that there was the possibility of a very short lockup time on the second roll. So, now if she rolls a 1 or 2 on the second roll, she then rolls again and the two lockup rolls are added together. So the minimum lockup time is 3 days and the maximum is 8 days before we roll the dice again to see if I can win an orgasm. The last roll earned my 6 more days. Well my luck has been pretty crappy as far as winning an orgasm. Tonight is 21 days since I last came and I don't get the opportunity for her to roll the dice again until Sunday night. My wife on the other hand has been quite satisfied during the past 3 weeks. Most of the time she waits until we roll the dice for any sexual activity, typically 3 or 4 days. But sometimes we will play in between dice rolls. She always gets her orgasm orally or through intercourse. However she has never forgotten to remind me, "You can't cum!" She seems to have no problems playing with chastity. Every time she rolls a non-orgasm number for me she says, "Aww, too bad! No orgasm for you!" Every time! She will also giggle when she says this. I will of course have a frown on my face and ask her how she wants to cum. After she has had hers and she has teased me until I ask her to stop or she senses that she needs to stop, I put the CD back on. I then present myself to her, naked except for the CD with the open padlock. She typically giggles again as she clicks the lock shut! So for the past 21 days, I have not cum but I have been teased close to the edge multiple times and then locked right back up. I am constantly having this strange feeling like urine is leaking into my penis. Overflow or precum maybe? I don't seem to have any noticeable emissions, but the feeling is there most of the time. I also grow more comfortable with the hunk of steel around my balls and encasing my dick. I have been wearing it constantly under by dress clothes at work, I don't believe anyone can tell. I still get some irritation under my balls but I am learning to deal with it. I also wake up every morning with a constrained erection. Not too painful, just irritating. My dick tries to stand erect and away from my body, but the weight of the CD always pulls it over to one side or bends it down between my legs at an un-natural angle. I have to get up in order to make it subside. I am assuming this is pretty typical for anyone fortunate enough to have a KH willing to play with chastity. I am enjoying myself, but I am really, really wanting to cum at this point. I am hoping my luck will be good on Sunday.

> I am constantly having this strange feeling like urine is leaking into my penis. Overflow or precum maybe? I don't seem to have any noticeable emissions, but the feeling is there most of the time. Usually pre-seminal fluid, you may see some blurb out when you go to pee. When you get really horny, you may feel little 'surges' and feel wetness on your leg. And when you get really, REALLY horny after a month or two, you may see actual semen spurt out either at the beginning or end of a pee- your over-full prostate getting rid of some pressure...especially if you've been aroused for a while.

My KH is an avid craps player so I can't wait to see her reaction when I provide her with the details of your dice game. I'm sure she'll be thrilled with the rules.

TwistedMister - Yes, I think my prostate is pretty full. We played a little last night and all day I have been having this odd feeling deep in my groin that then kind of radiates out, over and over. Maybe I will get used to it, but right now it keeps interrupting whatever I am doing. Allmylife4her - I hope your wife likes our game. I should have a 33% chance of an winning an orgasm but so far it has not worked out that way. I think she has rolled the dice 7 times and I have only won an orgasm once or 14% of the time. I think the odds are in my favor for some relief soon! We have also discussed making other changes to the lockup roll. A 1 or 2 could be penalty numbers that double or triple the lockup time for a minimum of 6 days and a max of 18 days. Or a 1 could be a double or nothing chance to re-roll for an orgasm. A 1 or 6 would mean and orgasm but anything else would mean doubling the penalty roll. I think we will leave things as they are for now, I have already been unlucky enough. Thanks

My wife rolled the dice again on Sunday evening and I got lucky, she rolled a 1 so I got to cum. We made love and I got some relief from my 23 days without! We get to roll the dice again tonight. I did make a fairly major change to our game last night. I had ordered an inexpensive electronic safe to store things in, specifically toys and the keys to my CD. It came yesterday and I screwed it to the wall. I then set it up so my wife could enter a combo code. Then the toys and my keys went into the safe and the door was locked. I still have an emergency key that is sealed in a way that I cannot use it without destroying the envelope. Except for emergencies, I do not have access to the keys for my CD. I must ask my wife to let me out anytime that it is required or she desires. I have been asking her to lock or unlock the CD over the past few weeks, but now, I really don't have any other option. I jokingly asked her for the combo this evening. Her response was pretty straightforward, "No, what do you need in there for?" I told her I needed the key. She said, "No, this is what you wanted, maybe later." I'm sure she was joking too. She was a little bemused by the safe yesterday, but she knew what it meant. She is now really in control of my penis. I am pretty confident she won't leave me denied for too long.... I think. At this point, she still allows the dice to dictate denial or orgasm. I will just have to wait and see if she wants to assert her control further in the coming months.

Hello, Its nice to read Ur story. Keep posting what new inventions in Your chastity playing have been made:) You mationed that getting back to cage is hard and need to wait more than 10 minutes to get soft - i have good solution, it works perfectly on me. The very easy way is make some exercises. Im doing 30 pusch ups to get tired enought, my body put off blood to other mucles:) Try it. Best regards RAKE

**Accidents do happen!** We played again last Sunday evening. I had been on a lucky streak for the past two rolls. But this time I lost again. So I resigned myself to pleasing my wife and not cumming, but, accidents do sometimes happen. After a little foreplay, I asked how she wanted to cum and she said doggie. Probably a bad choice since this is my favorite. As we made love, I quickly found myself getting a little too aroused. I was thinking of all kinds of shit, trying to take my mind off of what I was doing. I was looking at the windows and thinking they need to be cleaned, thinking about what car maintenance needed to be done, all kinds of stuff! But, as most of you know, a dick has a mind of it's own!:) As my wife started to cum, it pushed me far to close to the edge! My mind raced as I considered my options. I knew if I stayed inside her, there was no way I would be able to restrain myself. But if I pulled out to avoid cumming, I would ruin her orgasm and I certainly did not what to do that!! So, I just went with it, her orgasm pushed me over the edge and we came together. It was really great!! Once we had both regained our composure, we were giggling about it and she asked, "What did we say would be the punishment if you came without permission?" Neither of us could remember so no punishment was received. I doubt I will be that lucky the next time. The lockup roll of the dice was 5 days, so we get to roll again tonight. I do hope she has not been thinking about that punishment! Rake, thanks for the suggestion, will give that a try.