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Hi, I’m a guy “A” and thought I’d give this a try, starting with a quick background on my situation. My partner and I are in our twenties; we’ve known each other for about five years and only recently got together. My partner “B” has started working abroad while I stay here in England. I explained my submissive side to her and mentioned that I fancied trying chastity. To my surprise, she liked the idea and decided to give it a go. I’m now locked in a CB6000s for about a week. We use security tags since key holding isn’t really an ideal option for us. Things are going quite well. I’ve passed the uncomfortable stage, and the rings and spacers fit pretty nicely. That morning ball ache is terrible though, especially with the potential erections making it a painful time. “B” seems to really enjoy the control she has over me. She makes me send her naughty messages so she can get off while I sit there unable to play. She also has me sending letters and gifts to spoil her, along with doing some reasonably embarrassing tasks; if I don’t comply, she won’t let me out of my cage just for her fun. The initial period I’ll be locked up is three weeks until I see her. So, I thought I’d post here almost like a diary, mostly to see what other like-minded people think about it and are into.

Congrats 'A'! I'm sure you both will thoroughly enjoy the chastity lifestyle! All the best! A release after a long time followed by an intense sex is altogether a different experience!

Hey Linus thank you for the reply. Totally can not wait for the first time we have sex! I'm meeting "B" in Egypt in two weeks and she hasn't decided yet if I'm going to have an orgasm or a ruined one because I asked about release the other day..... Scary! Also she is wanting me to travel in my cage but I am hesitant just purely because of getting through customs in my cage. Still exciting times so looking forward to the future:)

It's been 8 full days now in the cage apart from an hour to clean up. Really feel owned. I play with the bulbed part of my cage often now wishing it was my cock. "B" has asked me to message her naughty stories for her to get off to and honestly it's hell. When I get horny now my balls really hurt as my cock tries frustratingly to get hard. She seems to quite like me being in that pain. I've been told that she won't give me anything naughty at all to think about, she doesn't think I deserve any sexual stimulation at all while she can have as much as she wants (which is fair I guess) she is a complete knockout. She reminds me all the time, even before chastity that I'm lucky to have her in my life. I'm an average size guy, but her exs have been pretty well built guys and she reminds me very often I'm the smallest guy she has been with. I'm not sure if that's to make me feel insecure or to make me aware of how lucky I am she puts up with me. "B" has told me that in the future our sex will be so much more about her than me. I'll be used to please her daily with my hands and mouth, while intercourse and my orgasms will be more sparse. This is even more frustrating when she tells me how much sex she had with her exs! Currently looking for presents for her for when I see her, hope I please her lots!!

Nine days now locked up. "B" still hasn't given me any sexual stimulation at all, no teasing messages or pictures and I have just woken up with the worst ball ache ever. I'm so horny, my cock was pushing against my cage and the pain is so intense when I wake.... Ouch!!! I don't know if "B" is proud that I'm still going through this lock up for her or if she thinks it's pathetic at the moment but I hope it's worth this pain, denial and frustration. The long and short is she will do as she pleases I guess and no matter if I'm rewarded, used or ruined I have to not only accept it but thank her for it. I am soooo looking forward to release!!

Damn she sounds rather selfish.

Yeah I don't really know how to reply to that. I honestly don't get where the fun is in giving nothing at all. The appeal for me with chastity is the tease and denial and pass of control. I've certainly lost control but I only really see that by giving nothing, even teasing is not really playing the game. I don't know I just guess I don't really see where the fun is. "B" tell me I'm not man enough in some areas so she isn't going to treat me like one in some respects, whether that's anything to do with this I don't know. All in all a bit confused and frustrated at the lack of stimulation really. In other news my balls are aching so bad. I've done a full day at work in a manual job and my cb6000s feels like an anchor hanging off my scrotum! Bring on release day!! One thing I will say in "B's" defence is she has promised me it will be worth the wait. I can only hope so

I guess the real question is where you want to go with this. If you are the submissive kind then this is probably what you cam expect. Lock it and forget it. And it will be totally one sided. It sounds like she really may not want a submissive guys (at least at this point). Outside of the bedroom my gf wants me to be the man and in charge. Maybe you two need to talk a little more about what the two of you really want and about what you both and I mean both expect from it.

I think that's a really good idea. It was my idea for sure. I'm certainly more submissive at least sexually. I've expressed what I want in a lot of respects and I guess I was happy "B" wanted to try it. I think that might be the thing. I know she like the control, as in the power trip, but after that I don't really know where she wants to go with this. I think that's got to be the step forward. Thanks for the advice.

Don't forget your needs in this. You both have to get what you want from this.

Totally, I think a good chat over a glass of wine is needed and will do the trick while we are away.... I think until them I'll have to suck eggs and take my lock up like a good boy!

Balls still aching loads today, gotta say though nowhere near as frustrated. After thinking loads about the situation and decided if its gonna be the case I'll get no stimulation there's no frustration. The belt just becomes an inconvenience really. Kind of got me thinking about the whole picture. I totally want to do everything to please "b" she is an amazing girl. But if it's going to work through chastity I think we need to have a chat when I'm released. If I'm to be made to work harder to please her, it's got to be give and take in certain ways not just one way. As in I mean I do need stimulation in my life. Not necessarily physical but feelings. Whether its teased, made jealous, humiliated a bit, anything but not nothing at all. I don't see any fun in it at all and The situation at the moment with me getting zero anything has really put a downer on the experience and left me feeling isolated and needy. Fingers crossed release will be mind blowing and the three weeks prior will be forgotten! So hope I'm not making everyone who reads this miserable!! Just putting my experience and thoughts out there

> member_97a1f912e3 wrote: > Also she is wanting me to travel in my cage but I am hesitant just purely because of getting through customs in my cage. Ok.... this is a recurring theme.... do a quick search and you will find a ton of posts on this.. and now this one too...:D **You have to be sensible** and avoid making yourself a victim of the security services. You are travelling to the middle east... don't put yourself at risk. If you go via body scanner from Heathrow they will see your device and you are bound to get taken to oneside. You remember the guy that set his crotch on fire in 2009 trying to smuggle explosives onto a plane in the USA? Umar Farouk Abdulmutallab was his name. They will look very unfavourably on you I am sure... Think how boring their job must be, thousands of people going through everyday, and then you show up with your dick locked up... If you have a plastic device on and use a plastic numbered lock you will be ok in the metal dector as long as it doesn't give a false reading and they frisk you and find your cage... I travel a lot and often with customers. The device comes off gets packed in main luggage and is replaced when I am in the hotel. Sometimes I go without. Real world gets in the way sadly.. The other strategy is walk right up and tell them " Hi my dick is locked up in a device, it might show up on your systems, just giving you the heads up" Let us know what you decide!

To be fair everything you have said makes sense to me. As much fun as it might be i think the risks are just too high. I have to say that would be a comical thing to say to a customs officer, there face would be priceless! Things have just taken a right turn. I am aching and shaking head to toe. "B" has just skyped me, done up a little bit, made me undress and play with my balls for over an hour while she quizzed me, asked me and told me naughty things. She told me that she has told her friends that she works away with all about me and that she wants them to see me locked up. completely gob smacked, i really wasnt expecting this. "B" has told me she intends to tease me for hours on the day of my release but she will be really mad if i cum quickly..... which i am very worried about after being locked away for nearly three weeks and when she is amazing in bed. Excited now and very nervous!

Take a look at this discussion. the archived conversation

That's an intriguing thread. I think it is a fascinating topic when considering exposure. Done correctly, it can be enjoyable and genuinely embarrassing in all the right ways, yet it remains risky business. B made that happen for me without asking my permission, past or present. I have absolute faith in her, though, and I believe that with such trust, your boundaries and potential enjoyment are virtually limitless. I woke up this morning needing to get hard after last night.... Absolute torture!!!

@celticqueens_sub: Has "the other strategy" actually proven effective? That is, simply walking up and informing TSA or European airport security that you are wearing a chastity device?

> Mike Bekoff wrote: > @celticqueens_sub: Has "the other strategy" actually proven effective? That is, simply walking up and informing TSA or European airport security that you are wearing a chastity device? I doubt it... I wouldn't be foolish enough to attempt it... But I am sure you caught the nuance of my comment...;)

If you recall, Dev penned a brief narrative about this exact topic. It is called "Traveling Light," and it can be found in the Fiction Forum.

That story was quite lovely; I enjoy tales that offer a pleasant surprise twist. "B", my partner, read it and really enjoyed it.

Well i am seriously ready to see "B" now. I am counting the days! (as is she to be fair we are both excited!) I feel so lucky to have met such a wonderful human being. She is gorgeous inside and out and i am truly lucky to have met such an amazing woman. the chastity thing rocks, even though it hurts but just to be next to the girl im mad about is going to make my life better! Obviously due to the lock up i cant stop thinking sexual things as im so frustrated but i am just generally so excited to be seeing my solemate and my owner!

Five days now until release time.!! I can not wait, so so excited about seeing the girl of my dreams for the first time in three months and spending a week together! "B" told me I'm the smallest of all the guys she's been with. She has told me that she treats me a lot worse than them because they are much more manly and I can't satisfy her with intercourse like her exs. She says this really frustrates her. I always ask her if she feels bad for commenting on my size and stuff and she tells me not at all. Should all guys with smaller ones in chastity or in general except that a real woman wants satisfying and if you can't because of your size you should expect to be used, humiliated and punished to make up for it?

Dude it is not the size of the pencil... It's how you write your signature that matters.. > Should all guys with smaller ones in chastity or in general except that a real woman wants satisfying and if you can't because of your size you should expect to be used, humiliated and punished to make up for it? er.. no.. a bit of a generalisation do you not think?

Yeah maybe a little carried away with the whole stereotype thing there oops!

You've been surfing too many fringe sites.

I did before joining here for sure. I did a lot of research, and generally reading to fuel a fantasy. It's different now. You see through all the bull**** on a lot of sites straight away. I like this site. It's been a really cool place to open up and share my feelings while going through this new experience. The people who comment generally seem very level headed and it's good to ground yourself by being surrounded by that. It's certainly helped me anyway.

lockedbyB: As you have now been reading these Forums for some time, I know that you have come to understand that your participation in an MC lifestyle is not an end in itself, but is only one facet (while often a very frustrating one!) of a committed, loving relationship between CD wearer and KH. The goal of chastity play should be to strengthen the bond between the couple, and while Teasing and Denial are essential elements of that play, they should always be performed with an underlying love and respect for each other. It seems to me that when "B" tells you that you are "the smallest of all the guys she's been with," that her former lovers were "much more manly," and that you "can't satisfy her with intercourse," she is being unnecessarily cruel, and is obviously missing the purpose of chastity play. There may, in fact, be deeper problems in your relationship with "B" if you feel that you are being "used, humiliated and punished," "because of your size." I believe that you and "B" should have a serious discussion when she returns, in which you state that you have been hurt by her remarks about your size and her former lovers, and you request that she begin showing more respect for your feelings. No one ever deserves to be constantly belittled or put down, and if "B" honestly cares for you and about your feelings, she will change her behavior. Your relationship must first be built upon a proper foundation in order for chastity play to succeed, and only then can it become an exciting and erotic activity for both of you.

For those of you with hangups about size, or those of you who have never seen one outside of porn, this is an educational site that shows normal (i.e., non-porn star) penises in various states. If personal humiliation is your kink, that's fine. But if you have doubts, or if you'rr getting tired of listening (reading) the constant cross-over of chastity with "useless dick" kinks, then this may be worth a look.

Hey guys thank you for the posts. Always good to see different opinions and interpretations. I must say that the personal humiliation is a kink of mine and I did tell "B" about this. She can be pretty cutting in all honesty but I really like that about her. She never lies or strays from the truth, and while I have said with intercourse I don't hit the spots her exs did I do put in a good performance. It's just not as deep as she likes. "B" compliments me so often about anything from the way I please her, ranging from anything from sending her a little note telling her how much I miss her and the quirkie things I love about her to the naughty things I miss too. On a personal level she makes me feel so special it's amazing. Truly. Obviously I have my kinks and the way she cuts me down is breath taking sometimes too. It's still reasonably early in our relationship and it's already gone long distance which never helps. I'm certain we will have many heart to heart chats down this road about all sorts not just with this subject. She is so worth waiting for and the chastity thing really does keep us close in a way. It's a naughty connection that I keep under my clothes infront of everyone I know as devotion to her, and the denial for me and control she has from such a distance is something she loves. I love where this has gone, as frustrating as it can be. I'm looking forward to the road ahead. Locked up or not we will have a lot of fun because we both rock together and we are so open and honest with each other. Things are good:) And I'm not tiny small I'm just shy of the alleged average, but I make up for it in other ways. It's just an easy target for "B" after her previous experiences. It's all good though. Highs and lows make it fun

As long as you're happy is all.