Teasing Teasers

Hi everyone:) My boyfriend and I are new to the world of chastity. We decided to try it out as we moved beyond simple femdom dynamics. We enjoy variety and like things interesting. Usually, we have sex both at night and most mornings, and our intimacy is fantastic. I feel that he wants not just a great orgasm but also that mental buzz from knowing I hold the power. On my end, I want to feel dominant, attended to, and kept on my toes. I put him in his cage four days ago for his longest time yet (12 days, maybe even longer:lol: ). We have never stayed locked for more than 7 days before now. He is totally focused on sex; he texts or messages me while at work, and I notice him staring after we return home. The attention makes my day! I’ve been teasing him by masturbating over his cage frequently, riding his face until I’m exhausted, grinding against him until he begs to cum, and sucking/rubbing him into a ruined climax. Last night, after an hour of play, I had him edge about 15 times on his own until he ruined his release. It was so good to watch. He is more horny than ever, and I can’t wait to keep teasing in ways that bring me ecstasy while pushing him toward submission. I’d love some suggestions for new teasing techniques as well as opinions on having him wear the cage during work hours. Right now, he only wears it at home; otherwise, it’s off. Thanks for reading! I’m eager to learn more from you all and other discussions here:D

Why is he allowed to take it off at work? Is his job situation the reason? When CQ makes me ruin my own orgasm, there’s always a glass involved—I’m sure you can see why!

Absolutely, keep him locked during work hours and all the time if possible; that is a tease on its own. I’m currently writing up a guide to various teasing methods. It’s not finished yet, but there are many more ways of 'teasing' than just physical stimulation. There are visual, verbal, and mental approaches too. Anything you do that arouses him when he isn’t locked becomes a tease when he *is* locked (like making him perform oral sex on you). Even things not usually linked to arousal (such as bringing you coffee in bed) can become a 'tease' if you condition him to get aroused and know the service is required for his eventual orgasm. Your clothing choices can be a tease, your tone of voice can be a tease, and painting mental pictures for him works well too. It seems like you’re already off to a great start. All you need to do is use your imagination and build on what’s working. Imagine having him take you out for dinner...you’re wearing a low-cut dress with the Key clearly visible between your breasts, perhaps hanging from a gold chain...the restaurant is dim and quiet; your hand rests in your lap, and without panties, you can easily slip a finger inside, pull it out, and have him suck on it while you casually describe the pleasures he’ll give you when you get home...

mistressjill, What kind of chastity device are you using? I agree with the others that you should go ahead and lock him up full-time (24/7) as long as he gets used to it. Make sure he really feels your control over his penis and orgasms. Unless his job makes it impossible, just tell him you want to give this a real shot. As for teasing, I think 'a mind is a wonderful place to play':lol: Nothing turns me on more than my KH/wife locking me up and saying, 'Get used to it because you won’t be out of there anytime soon.' There are plenty of threads here with ideas for teasing:D Don't forget to check the Keyholders section as well! Enjoy!

I sent a picture of the key via BBM after he left for work. It drives him crazy since he’s away for about a day and a half at a time.

First thing first - STOP letting him cum. I mean it, not even a ruined one. Want to drive him mad? Lock him up and only let him out once every 3 or 4 days for intense teasing and denial. DO NOT allow an orgasm. Keep the cage on tightly whenever you’re around to supervise; don’t give him any slack. Make sure he goes two full weeks without a single release. My wife often says she’ll lock me up for X number of days, but when that day arrives and I’m allowed to cum, she either extends it further or encourages me to 'go ahead.' Usually, I end up BEGGING her to stop playing with me so she can just put the cage back on. I’ve come to crave the teasing and denial. Being edged repeatedly then shut down is far more satisfying than that short-lived euphoria of an orgasm. It’s been four days since my last one. Not bad yet. She has threatened to make this round three weeks long.

> member_b61caec2c9 wrote: > My wife often says she’ll lock me up for X number of days, but when that day arrives and I’m allowed to cum, she either extends it further or encourages me to 'go ahead.' Usually, I end up BEGGING her to stop playing with me so she can just put the cage back on. I’ve come to crave the teasing and denial. Being edged repeatedly then shut down is far more satisfying than that short-lived euphoria of an orgasm. CAN I GET AN AMEN! (sorry, it’s Sunday):lol:

> member_56a3d51043 wrote: > > > > member_b61caec2c9 wrote: > > My wife often says she’ll lock me up for X number of days, but when that day arrives and I’m allowed to cum, she either extends it further or encourages me to 'go ahead.' Usually, I end up BEGGING her to stop playing with me so she can just put the cage back on. I’ve come to crave the teasing and denial. Being edged repeatedly then shut down is far more satisfying than that short-lived euphoria of an orgasm. > > > > CAN I GET AN AMEN! (sorry, it’s Sunday):lol: You got it! You have hit right on the essence of male chastity.

I’m starting to really enjoy just letting go. She decides when we play and when I get to cum. She also dictates how often she wants me to pleasure her. It’s quite freeing not having to worry about it all. Just roll with the punches.

Try tickling him; if he is sensitive there, it might get him aroused.

Thanks for all the ideas. We didn’t quite make it to twelve days though. Things got a bit heated over the weekend.;) I’ve also reconsidered 24/7 locking, depending on whether the cage shows under my work clothes. That is my main worry. And I will definitely skip the tickling; that wouldn't be much fun for me.

Also during our play session, she made me wear her strapon and fuck her while she teased me about being locked up. It was incredibly hot!!! Then she flipped the script and fucked me with it. It’s a really fun dynamic that I hope we keep doing regularly. There is nothing hotter than when she takes charge fully and makes me please her exactly how she wants.:D

I’m a bit late to the party, but here are my two cents. I think verbal teasing is some of the most effective type. Telling him what you’re going to do (whether you really mean it or not) can be very arousing. Lean into his known fantasies. For inspiration, check out this fictional story on Altairboy’s site that features some great verbal teasing examples: Link to the story at: Very hot!! Good Luck!