How Long Should Submissive Partners Stay Locked Up?

I’m planning to keep my partner in the device for 130 days, with no orgasms or milkings. Since he’s based in NJ and I live down here in FL, it works out well that I get to see him this month for his release:P . Just wondering how long others typically lock up their subs while managing a long-distance dynamic?

Long distance relationships are never simple. There really isn't one perfect duration that fits everyone; what suits some doesn't suit others. I'll mention that when I went through a 90+ day period a few years back, we ran into some issues. After three months without any release at all, my semen had changed color and become unusually thick. It took several days worth of orgasms to get it back to normal. Part of this might be linked to taking frequent hot baths. Hard to say for sure, but it's something you might run into too. Currently (we're not long distance now), we allow no orgasms but permit some semen leakage. This helps ensure everything looks healthy and the equipment is functioning properly. For me, changes in how the semen appears are more common when I was still masturbating; even without full orgasms, it produces fluids that have nowhere to go. Having less stimulation generally helps with this, though we're all a bit different. Just keep in mind there may be some variation in output during a full lockdown of that length.

In my opinion, subs in chastity shouldn't ever get unlocked except for medical reasons. Once you've stepped into that beartrap, there's no getting out. If 90 days is doable, then so are 180 days, and if you can handle 180, a year is within reach too. And once you hit the one-year mark... The truth is, it makes you a superior sub; why would a dom want a less effective one? If this is a long-distance arrangement, that usually means the sub gets unlocked practically every time we meet up, which hardly seems ideal. I guess I'm lucky enough to not be either a dom (or a sub).

My current denial period stands at 60 days. That feels like a while for me, perhaps because of the intense teasing going on. I'm focused primarily on my wife's satisfaction; when she is happy, so am I.

Thanks Finn. I've noticed the semen to be off-color with as little as 45 days of holding him in chastity until my next visit. The distance is definitely the tough part for us. I make sure to tease him plenty, sending photos and erotic messages, but not being able to hold or have sexual acts performed on me physically drives both him and me a bit mad. How did you manage that situation?

Thanks Michael, I can always say he makes me happy and when I'm good, he is too.:)

I've picked up on some slight color shifts in my semen following roughly two weeks without an orgasm. It's also gotten a little thicker, for sure. I'm not entirely certain what to read into this, but I feel like getting at least one release every couple of weeks is beneficial, even when orgasms are off the table. My wife usually denies me for about 5-7 days, though sometimes we go through cycles lasting 2 or 3 weeks. I find those longer stretches really appealing.

I experienced a long-distance dynamic with my previous mistress. She maintained my chastity for periods of two weeks, then two months, and eventually six months. She really embraced it and seemed to enjoy the experience greatly. The duration always increased each time; I suspect the next step would have been around one year;) There was no milking or other interventions involved. Interestingly, I wasn't actually wearing a device; she simply commanded me not to cum. Although I am quite skilled at masturbating without finishing, I didn't think it possible for myself to last two months, let alone six! I did visit her occasionally, and we attended SM events together as well. However, she never witnessed an actual climax from me. The only drawback was that after having an orgasm, my interest in both chastity and the broader lifestyle often waned significantly, leading us to frequently lose touch afterward. But merely one week without release was enough for me to become completely immersed in the fetish once more, allowing her to reel me back into further experiments:)