A Note for Every Woman in Charge of a Chastity Man

I’m just wondering… Have you ever felt a sense of relief knowing your man is kept in chastity, so you don’t have to deal with him pushing for intimacy when sex isn’t the first thing on your agenda? Is that considered one of the perks of MC for you? Even if he’s suffering quite a bit from frustration? (That might actually be an added benefit). Michael

To tell the truth, sex is on my mind more than usual. I'm sitting here at work and guess what's going through my head? Probably time to send a sultry text message... D

Yes and no. I find myself thinking about sex more frequently now, but it doesn't trigger those stressful feelings that used to happen in the past.

That's not a straightforward question for me because we've been living a chaste life from pretty early on in our marriage. I think the difference in sex drive usually becomes noticeable after a few years, so it hasn't really applied to us much. I never felt pressured into having intercourse or that I was just doing him a favor. Interestingly though, MC has shifted how I perceive what "sex" truly is. Some activities we do now might have previously been categorized as foreplay rather than the primary event—specifically penetrative sex leading to male orgasm. This shift means we take more time, become more inventive, and understand each other's bodies better without rushing headlong into intercourse. Here’s a comparison: I really love dim sum cuisine. A restaurant of mine in South Wales focused entirely on this style with less focus on the heavy main course. God, I loved that place (sadly I moved away) - every dish was delightful independently, not just an appetizer leading up to the big meal. Honestly, I often skipped the main course because I felt satisfied and full! Suddenly, though, I feel quite peckish;-D

> What MC has done though is to alter my view on what "sex" actually is, interestingly. Some of the things we do could have previously been classed as foreplay rather than the main event - ie penetrative sex resulting in male orgasm. The impact of this change has been to make us spend more time, be more creative and get to know each others bodies better without rushing forward to sex. Yes, that's exactly what I meant in another thread. Ab’s quote about him becoming a "tit-loving, pussy-worshipping man" captures it perfectly. Also, I've seen he reacts much stronger when I play with his nipples, which is great for me since I enjoy doing so. He used to grumble because it hurt—even tweaks that seemed minor to me. Now, I think he's really tuning into the sensation because—he knows there won't be those usual intercourse feelings anyway—so he’s learning how to appreciate these other sensations. D

> member_ef260e9aa3 wrote: > Also, I've noticed that he responds much more to me playing with his nipples, which is a plus for me, because I love playing with them. He used to complain that it hurt--even what I considered to be a pretty minor tweak. Now, I think he is focusing on the sensation because--well, he's not going to get intercourse sensations and he knows it, so he is learning how to enjoy the other stuff. > D I have similar experiences here. Jnuts is pleading for a pair of nipple clamps:)

I'm begging for quite a few things myself.;)

> member_adab360f3f wrote: > I'm begging for a lot of things.;) you two are adorable. -A

> member_0fe7c9ef96 wrote: > Same issues here. Jnuts is begging for a pair of nipple clamps:) He needs to watch out what he wishes for. I left some on for quite a while the other night, and it gave "intense" a whole new meaning...

I think "Nipple evolution" could easily be its own discussion thread. My husband wasn't particularly sensitive there when we started out, but now a simple touch immediately grabs his attention, and more vigorous play has him whimpering. Belle, nipple clamps are fun and shiny, but spring-loaded wooden pegs really break Jnuts in. JNuts, I know you won't thank me right away, but you will when Belle attaches your nipples to the device, lol.

I asked this question of my KH/spouse. She said she has never felt pressured about having sex, whether I am locked or not. She also notes that I am more attentive and loving while in the device, which suggests to me that I pester and annoy her more when she isn't in the mood for it right now. She is coming down with a cold so feels under the weather, meaning my pestering continues.

Hi, I must admit that I have as much sex now with Bez as before. But since he has been locked up, he is more attentive and naturally cannot pleasure himself. Also, as I've mentioned previously, I enjoy his tongue work and seeing his frustration. Dev, I must confess I am looking forward to releasing him from the device when I put him in the humbler that will be waiting for him in his Christmas Stocking. Looking at it now, he should just be positioned perfectly to use his tongue. To keep him under control, I like your idea of using handcuffs. He'll probably read this before Christmas, Bez; is it fear or excitement? Well, you know how I feel about it. As they say, do not ask for what you cannot take!!!

A long time ago, Mrs. Edge used to feel pressured about nearly everything, even if I hugged her from behind while she was cooking dinner. She often thought that I always wanted her to stop whatever she was doing so we could jump right into it on the floor. You know, just like when we were dating.:roll: Anyway, after experimenting with the devices for a while (maybe about two years), she began to internalize the idea that she held as much control as she desired. The absence of pressure made her feel more amorous, which in turn led to increased frequency. Furthermore, tying into our thread about women's orgasms, she started fantasizing about keeping me locked up for longer and longer stretches. Discussing these fantasies during sex actually helped lead to stronger - and more frequent - orgasms.

> member_381064b05f wrote: > A long time ago, Mrs. Edge used to feel pressured over pretty much anything, even if i hugged her from behind while she was cooking. She used to think that I always wanted her to stop what she was doing so we could go at it right then on the floor. Well, she wasn't wrong.... She understood the male psychology well (it's not all that complicated after all!) but, yanno, you've got to eat.;)