beginning the journey of male chastity

Hello everyone, this is my debut post so please bear with me lol. My girlfriend and I have been together for several years now; we met in high/secondary school and are both currently 21. For a while now, we’ve experimented with her taking charge in the bedroom, exploring teasing, orgasm control, and other dynamics.

Lately, though, I’ve been performing oral on her quite often without receiving much in return. We talked about it, and she knows that this excites me. She seems to really enjoy wielding the power of knowing how crazy and horny this makes me, especially when she refuses to reciprocate, sometimes saying “well i guess you’l have to wait a week, or maybe a month”. I haven’t brought up my desire for her to lock me in chastity yet, but I see her enjoyment as a positive sign so far.

I’ve read extensively about how male chastity and female control can make the man more attentive. After just one week, I noticed myself being much more observant while we were lying together in bed. My girlfriend even commented on this change, which gives me extra confidence to finally share my chastity fantasy with her. It seems like it could benefit us as a couple, not just fulfill my personal desire.

Anyway, I’d love to hear your thoughts and how you introduced your fantasies to your partners.

That sounds promising. We began using a leather and metal device that served as a short-term toy. You might want to ask her something like, "It seems you enjoy controlling my orgasms; would you be interested in having even more control through a specific device?" Or perhaps just show her a photo of a locked cock and ask what she thinks. Since we don't know either of you personally, it's hard to pinpoint the perfect approach for your situation.

Oh, I understand that; I'm not expecting people to provide suggestions or a guaranteed method to convince her. I was simply curious about how you all approached it. There is likely an effective way for me to do this and a way she will grasp if you prefer. However, we are planning to order some new toys very soon, so perhaps I can accidentally pick one up and gauge her reaction before proceeding from there.

I explained to my girlfriend that because our availability was so limited, taking care of myself in the meantime significantly weakened my orgasms and wasn't great for the relationship overall. Her response was to do what I felt necessary but not wear it around her. She has come a long way since then.