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Hi all, I’m looking for some advice since it seems like you’ve all got plenty of experience. My husband Mark wore a CB6000 last year and while it was fine, he found nights uncomfortable and disliked the solid cage. When that finally stopped working, we picked up a Birdlock which looked ideal—lightweight, easy to wear for long periods, wouldn’t snag on clothes, etc… However, even though it was measured correctly and fitted well, it came off overnight. It was secure when he went to bed, but by morning there it lay beside him. I’m not sure what to do next; any suggestions? Thanks Valerie

Hi MissPersephone, Welcome! Achieving the right fit with these TBDs (trapped ball devices) involves finding the smallest base ring you can handle without getting that blue or numb feeling, paired with the narrowest gap between the cage and that ring. This process usually doesn't happen instantly; there are certainly times of discomfort involved. It unfolds over a long period through trial and error, adjustments, and sometimes switching to a different device. Some people even opt for an PA strap to improve security (though I haven't done so myself). Stick with it—the final result will be worth the effort for both of you.

> member_6bae0d64a3 wrote: > but, even though it was measured properly and fitted I agree with wishful4, but keep in mind the Birdlock isn't a custom-made device. Although I've never owned one myself, I don't think you can adjust its ring or gap sizes quite like you can with a custom fit. The issue is that if your husband didn't care for solid plastic, he probably won't enjoy stainless steel either.:(

The core challenge with chastity devices is trying to fit a rigid structure onto the ever-changing human body. That's why I emphasize three key factors: Comfort, Convenience, and Security. You generally have to choose two. CBxxxx models are excellent, but they require time for both you and your partner to get used to them (breaking in the device or breaking yourself into it). Nighttime erections can be painful, and a solid cage sometimes feels cumbersome. The Birdlock—along with other silicone options—is more comfortable, though often less secure. It might be worth looking at metal birdcage styles; their open construction makes cleaning easier, and since there are various cuff ring sizes available, you may find one that fits better for sleeping.

To support what others have mentioned, I'd guess it took me around three to four months to truly adapt to wearing a device at night. Daytime wear was never an issue for me, but sleeping in one remained difficult until I found the right mix of ring size, spacers, and gap.