Wife Seems To Be Getting Into The Idea
My wife appears to be warming up to the concept of chastity. She has agreed that she will decide when I am allowed out, with no fixed deadline set; while a…
My wife appears to be warming up to the concept of chastity. She has agreed that she will decide when I am allowed out, with no fixed deadline set; while a minimum of three months sounds reasonable, it could extend further.:o She mentioned that I should expect some discomfort later on because she plans for me to struggle with getting an erection, smiling as she said how amusing it is watching me squirm with the CB6000 pulling at my balls.:oops: I am curious about her upcoming plans, GULP…:oops:
Well Wifey made me handle the ironing and loading the dishwasher while she strolled around in a very short T-shirt. She seemed to truly enjoy bending over right in front of me with her legs spread just enough..... Later, she had intercourse with my cage still on and remarked, "I think Wilbert is much better this way; no mess, and I love your facial expression when he tries to get hard." I loved the feeling of being inside yet confined within the cage. We discussed timing again, and she feels there should be no deadline set in stone. She will decide when it is time for my release. This is great fun. We have experimented with a points system, a raffle-style approach, fixed deadlines, etc... This time around, my wife seems much happier with the "she decides" method.... It is also far more exciting for me, never knowing exactly when I will get out.
It's somewhat like bump starting a car; you set everything up and start by trying hard to make it move. Then momentum takes over, requiring barely any effort even though you are still pushing, until the person in charge drops the clutch and carries you into a new realm. The challenge now is simply to hold on & enjoy the ride.:D
Slowly, slowly appears to be the right approach. My wife has been supportive of the idea from the beginning but disliked having a fixed release date because she might not feel ready then and that would lead to arguments. We tried the points system, but she gets tired of keeping track of them and just releases me anyway. We also attempted a raffle-style system where she is very kind about capping it at one week. With the flexibility for her to decide when I am released, she seems much happier as there is no pressure or heavy lifting involved on her part. At first, I thought chastity would be primarily sexual, but now I realize that she appreciates being free from my constant demands. My sex drive is higher than hers; while she loves having me cum inside her, she dislikes the messiness of it. So now she can have me pleasure her with the cage on without dealing with that issue. Regarding enjoying my squirms when she teases me—that is a new development for us, and she seems to be revealing a bit of a sadistic streak after all. She thinks three months sounds like a good starting point. I wonder how long she will keep me locked up this time... I have learned one thing: the couple's chastity lifestyle requires some effort initially. However, once your wife gets into it, they tend to really love the idea....
> member_f5b9d861e1 wrote:I have started to learn one thing though, the chastity lifestyle as a couple takes a little work at the start. However, it appears once your wife gets into it they love the idea.... Couldn't agree more. My wife remarked on Sunday morning while lying in bed eating breakfast I had just made for her how she could never have imagined we would be where we are now. We are just past halfway through a minimum 100-day period, and at first, there was talk of it being shorter, perhaps coming out for Christmas. Now her attitude is a firm "No way, Jose". She used to unlock me for gardening or certain parties we attended, but that has stopped too. Now she just tells me I must be careful, then proceeds to tease the hell out of me when we are in public. I really love it, though I am certainly not driving anymore. She says what she likes about the 100 days is her confidence that by then I will have completely surrendered control, making it easier for her to rule going forward.
Wife came downstairs in a very short nightshirt as soon as the kids were asleep. She was tidying up, obviously bending over and making sure I got a good view of what is currently off-limits... She appears very content with this new arrangement where she decides...
After two weeks locked in my CB6000 I seem to worry less about sex and more about how to please my wife. Is this normal? My wife has been wonderful and seems to really enjoy having my cock locked away. She especially likes that she is in charge without a rigid timescale etc.... Anyway, she hinted that I might be released during the holidays if she wants use of my cock, but it will go right back up immediately after.
> member_f5b9d861e1 wrote:After two weeks locked up in my CB6000 I seem to be thinking less about sex and more about how to please my wife, is this normal? Welcome to the club:) I still think about sex, but I focus more on pleasing my wife. She likes that so I will stay locked. I'm catching up on giving her the orgasms she has been denied for the past 20 years. By my calculations we should even out by the year 2032.:shock:
> member_56a3d51043 wrote:I still think about sex, but I think more about pleasing my wife. This she likes so I will remain locked up. > I'm catching up on giving her the O's she's been denied for the past 20 years. By my calculations we should be even by the year 2032.:shock: I never denied Miss BethK any orgasms (though I can't speak to her previous two ex-husbands). That is true, though she has far more of them now. And I have much less. Lately since September 30th, with her teasing either the idea of a year or maybe forever:o Plus I notice things about her more and respond faster. Lately she has been involved in a massive computer coding project, and like most innovative geniuses (geniusi?) she forgets basic needs like eating. So I have taken on learning to cook and ensuring she eats properly (she needs her strength up because computer coding is hard work). Being free of my pawing also keeps her concentration high, while leaving me quite frustrated. It works well for everyone.
> member_381064b05f wrote: > > Being free of me pawing at her also keeps her concentration high, and me quite frustrated. Works well all around. Around here, I'm constantly pawing Mrs. Edge.
> member_381064b05f wrote: > > member_7c19927638 wrote: > > Being free of me pawing at her also keeps her concentration high, and me quite frustrated. Works well all around. > Around here, I'm pawing Mrs. Edge all the time. I know better than to paw a computer geek when she is deep into programming. I would be lucky if my arms came away intact.
Sorry if this was answered elsewhere but is your wife vanilla otherwise? Mine is...just curious.
> member_cd64cfabd2 wrote:Sorry if this was answered elsewhere but is your wife vanilla otherwise? Mine is...just curious. My wife isn't interested in other kinks like Cuckolding. It took a lot of coaxing to reach this stage, and I think any additional demands might send our relationship backward...
Interesting. It didn't take much coaxing on my end, just expressing my desire to be locked up, but aside from that she's very vanilla. Really hoping she'll embrace the control and really make use of it.
> member_cd64cfabd2 wrote:Really hoping she'll embrace the control and really make use of it. Well my advice is not to sit back and wait for it to happen. Take her to a place she's never been before, maybe repeat visits if you know what I mean.:)
She has commented that she likes my increased aggressiveness when let out, which is exactly what she wants... I just hope WHILE locked up she keeps me doing chores—maybe cleaning her shoes, rubbing her feet, etc., hehe.
My wife has really gotten into chastity lately. We have been playing with the idea off and on for about three years but now she has drawn up a contract which I signed. So far I have only been out once in the last two months, though she had me locked for over three months at one point. Congratulations to you on your wife taking more interest in your chastity, but beware: getting what you asked for can be harder than expected when it becomes certain 24/7 and you are totally at her beck and call. You never know what tasks might end up keeping you there just for a chance to get out. But have fun and enjoy.
Reading the comments in this thread gives me hope for my KH's future. I think she will get more involved as she sees the benefits for both of us. The journey is probably more important than the destination.
> member_0a60ccbe61 wrote:I guess the journey is prob more important than the destination. Well said. Good luck on your journey.
Hi all, I am the Wife and my husband loves it:-) It has just been two weeks; we had an "installation" week where we tested the CB6000S so it fit well. I released my husband after 3 days, then again after a full week. We had a good sex life before starting this journey. But now my orgasms are heavenly!!! And I can't understand why this makes me hornier.....??? My husband is very cute and takes care of me on every level.... sometimes in the evenings he has to lick me while I watch TV..... I am not sure IF we will have a bonus system, time table or if I decide during the journey when my husband will be released! How do you handle it? Time based or bonus system? I am new at this but as I have read... Be careful what you wish;-)
Yes my wife is getting into it also. She enjoys not having to get cleaned up after sex. Some background on our love life: she has never been the one to initiate sex. Since I have been locked up, I have had more pussy in the last 2 weeks than in the previous 15 years combined. Now she grabs my hand and leads me upstairs so I can dive between her thighs, which I love. After some coaxing, she admitted she enjoyed it.
It's funny how things go sometimes. I'd wanted to be locked up for a couple of years and even bought a CB which I wore without my wife knowing. Eventually I 'came out' with the desire, and my wife just accepted it. If I had known it wouldn't be an issue, I would have done sooner. At first she was doing it mainly for me, but now it's something she is very much into herself. She tells me that she loves being in control of my cock which really turns her on, and she likes the fact that I spend entire evenings making her cum without feeling any pressure to reciprocate. I'm not locked up as long as many here are (about 7 to 10 days is usually the max), but it's becoming more frequent and she gets more orgasms now than in all twelve years of our marriage.
My own sweetie also enjoys the attentions (particularly the gentle feather-touch caressing). Her previous marriage was to someone who was essentially asexual, which drove her nearly mad. When I brought up chastity, she was terrified that I would turn out like her ex. Not a chance. That wasn't the point of this fantasy becoming reality. Ignoring my wife's pleasure was *far* from what I intended.
Hi ...you are all very lucky to have wives who are into this. I am so jealous; I got my cage without my wife knowing and wore it a few times but wanted more... She has agreed to lock me up as she is doing now for the past three days, but she does not want to tease or use me for her sexual pleasure; she just keeps saying she isn't like that? But she does love all the extra work I am doing around the house....what should I do: stay quiet and keep working, or stop doing the extra things and hope she misses them?
Mistress Ivey has a post on how to introduce the idea of a Female Led Relationship (FLR) to your spouse. The posts are called "For Gentlemen only" and talk about going out of your way to please your wife for a week or so, giving her a taste of what could be—and then approaching her with the idea of chastity. It's well worth the read. ... art-1.html ... art-2.html Since you've already approached her with the idea, though, you need to go out of your way to please her and show her the benefits of the lifestyle. As you do this, I bet that your efforts will be reciprocated through teasing and denial. Good luck!
My wife can rub herself with the cage inside her, but this took a very long time. At first she wouldn't even talk about it. We use the points system; she controls it and I have no say in whether bonus or deducted points are applied as she sees fit. She likes me doing housework while she relaxes. However, she is not totally comfortable with the cage yet—it has become part of daily life rather than being solely about sex. We love each other more than ever, and it seems she enjoys all the attention I give her. Someday I am sure she will be the one to initiate the whole locking up process.