I'm overwhelmed by the pressure...yet I must endure

My sex drive runs pretty high. After being locked up for a while, I find myself constantly horny. To put it more precisely, even if I’m not actively thinking about sex around the clock, all it takes is one word, one image, one thought, or one touch to make my primal side demand sex RIGHT NOW. My day proceeds somewhat normally, but instead of occasional fleeting thoughts here and there, my hours are dotted with demands from my body for a fuck; which, naturally, isn’t going to happen. This whole dynamic is understandable and adds to the fun of our game. I try to channel these accumulating feelings throughout the day to benefit my wife.

However, if lockup lasts long enough, it escalates beyond that point. Occasionally, I get trapped in a sex loop where thinking about sex—and/or my predicament—won’t stop unless I actively distract myself with something else. But of course, when I’m in this state, I kind of want the feeling to continue because being lust-crazy is one of the main goals anyway. It just gets worse and worse until I can barely bear it, then I start thinking about how I must endure it, which really heightens my desire for an orgasm. This usually jolts me into realizing that I have to stop my self-defeating mental masturbation, and I try to do something else to take my mind off the situation.

Does anyone else feel this way? Does it get easier with time (I’ve only been locked up a little over a month)? I can’t even explain how deliciously evil this feeling is for me and how much I both love and hate it. My wife probably understands what it’s like, but maybe not the intensity; if she did, would she still tease me all the time?

I have to admit I feel the same way; that's what made me want to try chastity because I knew I loved the feeling of being horny—that gut-level desire to mate or be mated. It is such an amazing sensation when you really get to enjoy it without being able release that energy, letting it build up inside you. I can't say for sure if it gets easier since I've only just started, but I agree that 'deliciously evil' is the perfect term. You love it and want more, yet hate it because your body wants to get rid of it as nature intended. I think she would [continue teasing]; my fiancé certainly will. It's tough to squeeze in more time since a week (7 days) is our longest duration so far, but that recent experience was one of the most amazing ones, and I hope to push further and explore.

> member_8c7ad921eb wrote:I have a pretty high sex drive, and after being locked up for a while I am constantly horny. You are not alone. The longer I have played with chastity (not continual lockup, but more frequent periods in lockup) - I have found that it gets easier. There is like a constant small "hum" to my desire, which helps bring me closer to feeling connected to my keyholder and her role in my life.

That's the whole point..not being able to take it anymore, but having to...it describes perfectly my constant frustration...and it peaks when I'm watching my wife's lover enjoy something I'm not allowed to personally. I can't even masturbate for relief...a maddeningly delicious predicament.

My keyholder started sounding interested in the cuckold idea. Is she just repeating my own fantasy back to me to get me worked up during teasing sessions?

> member_35559a144a wrote:My keyholder started sounding interested in the cuckold idea. Is she just repeating my own fantasy to me to get me worked up during teasing sessions? Maybe...and maybe not. Mrs. Twisted has occasionally mentioned this but insists that she would never do it for real...but I know that in her dreams, when her conscious mind isn't inhibiting her, she is really turned on by these thoughts. Have you actually discussed this with her or is it something you just wrote about in one of your hot 'n horny e-mails? Tread carefully; not everyone can handle the emotional effects of such a situation. There *is* a way to simulate it so you can see if you might want to go further.

> member_35559a144a wrote:My keyholder started sounding interested in the cuckold idea. Is she just repeating my own fantasy to me to get me worked up during teasing sessions? One thing is to bring it up during a teasing session; it could be entirely different subject matter by dinnertime. I agree with TwistedMister, BCWYWF.

TwistedMister, how do you simulate that?

In my head I can imagine simulating cuckolding by the keyholder bringing up the idea during every teasing session for a few weeks in a row. Then one day saying that today is the day, tying the guy to the bed and blindfolding him and teasing him for a good long while until there is a knock at the door. At this point she would tell him to be quiet and put earplugs in his ears while turning on some music. As long as he thinks there is a chance something could be happening it doesn't matter if the keyholder is downstairs having coffee with a friend, and as long as he stays quiet, the friend does not have to know anything is going on either (or she could:twisted: ).

I don't think there's really any way to simulate the intensity of being cuckolded. It really is like simulating your first sky-dive....nothing can fully prepare you for that first real look out of the aircraft...chute on your back...tight sphincter...terrifying. Seeing another man pump away at your wife is a 'mind-bender'...and when you witness her responding to his touch...you (and she) will never be the same again. If your wife repeatedly brings it up...as mine did...I suspect she's not just entertaining your fantasy...she finds the idea exciting. Be careful...once it becomes reality...it's no longer your fantasy anymore. She belongs to another man, who will become possessive about your wife. You might find, as I did, that he really likes the fact that you're 'locked away' from enjoying her treasures....especially if she gives him control of your key. I now have to wait for his approval..to use my own cock.

Holy shit, your wife's lover has control of YOUR key?? Why does that make my cock swell so quickly? I do not wish to be second to any man with her, but I did tell her in an email that she has my "permission" to pursue this if she wants. Judging by what such a suggestion meant about extending my locked up period ("granted."), she may very well take it seriously. Why does my dick get so excited about these things and then keep putting me into situations where its dreams are realized? Please describe how it made you feel to see her pumped by and responding to another man. My keyholder has brought this up each of the last 2 times she teased me hard, since I told her about my fantasy.

> member_35559a144a wrote:Holy shit, your wife's lover has control of YOUR key?? Why does that make my cock swell so quickly? I do not wish to be second to any man with her, but I did tell her in an email that she has my "permission" to pursue this if she wants. Judging by what such a suggestion meant about extending my locked up period ("granted."), she may very well take it seriously. Why does my dick get so excited about these things and then keep putting me into situations where its dreams are realized? > Please describe how it made you feel to see her pumped by and responding to another man. My keyholder has brought this up each of the last 2 times she teased me hard, since I told her about my fantasy. You already 'gave your permission' when you told her about your cuckold fantasy. And if she ever acts upon it, she certainly won't be needing it...and you will, in some ways, be 'second' to another man. It's part of the essence of being cuckolded. How does it feel? It's humiliating; makes me feel extremely jealous....and very aroused. Sitting there, unable even pleasure myself while he does the things I used to enjoy...he basically owns her during those visits. And to top it off...he'll decide whether I even have a chance to enjoy sloppy seconds after he's had his way with her....by handing me the key to my cock. Why do you find it so stimulating? Because inside, you are a deeply submissive man who wants to explore your masochistic tendencies.

> member_35559a144a wrote:TwistedMister, how do you simulate that? As Spectre says: > "...I can imagine simulating cuckolding by the keyholder bringing up the idea during every teasing session for a few weeks in a row. Then one day saying that today is the day, tying the guy to the bed and blindfolding him and teasing him for a good long while until there is a knock at the door. At this point she would tell him to be quiet and put earplugs in his ears while turning on some music. As long as he thinks there is a chance something could be happening it doesn't matter if the keyholder is downstairs having coffee with a friend, and as long as he stays quiet, the friend does not have to know anything is going on either (or she could:twisted: )." Rather than turning on some music, you can make it more intense by putting on a cuckold video such as those from Roman Video. Then she goes, shuts the bedroom door and simulates a knock at the front door loud enough that you hear it over the video, but then gets quiet so afterward you hear nothing but the video, which you watch because you have nothing else to attract your attention. Meanwhile, she has planned this in advance, saving semen from milking sessions, orgasms (ruined or otherwise)...preferably in a manner where you are not aware that she is saving it. Semen can easily be frozen in a plastic ice-cube tray (with plastic covering to avoid 'frost'). It may take several sessions to accumulate enough cubes of semen. During the time (weeks, months) required to collect however much she wants, she can amp up her teasing about this subject, make you watch videos on it, talk about doing it, maybe point out men (on TV or in real life) whom she says "He might be fun to fuck" or "I'd really like to have *his* cock inside of me" and "You know, just because *your* cock is locked up doesn't mean *I* should go without fucking" or "It really isn't fair that *I* should have to be deprived of cock just because *yours* is locked up." (If you're 'up' for a little humiliation as well, she could tease you about how 'naughty'/'dirty'/'perverted' you are for getting/being hard from watching the videos or hearing her talk about it.) When she has collected enough, she initiates the scenario. One or more semen 'cubes' can be thawed in a plastic baggie placed in a cup of warm water (not too warm to avoid changes), or in a container in the microwave (but this must be done very carefully, only a few seconds at a time to avoid 'cooking' it). While you are being 'entertained' by the video and desperately wondering what she is doing, she thaws the semen and amuses herself using a dildo (the cup of warm water helps here because she won't have to pay attention to it), which will help give her that 'just fucked' appearance. Before the video ends (and after she enjoys an orgasm or two spurred on by wickedly mischievous thoughts about what is coming next) she transfers the thawed semen to a 'lube shooter' (available through various online sex shops) or plastic syringe. Then, just before the video ends, she injects the semen deep into her vagina in much the same manner as if using an injectable Lotrimin cream for yeast infections (might even use the same injector), opens and closes the front door to simulate someone leaving...and returns to the bedroom. She teases you for a few minutes (allowing the semen to equalize with her body temperature) about how you would feel if *she* were fuck[ed] by someone else...then she sits on your face and demands that you lick her pussy...the semen begins to leak out; you can see it, smell it, *taste* it... Even if you *know* that she was 'saving' *your* semen, you don't know for sure if the leaking substance is really yours. Maybe it is...and maybe it isn't. If you didn't see her preparing (and she acts well) you won't be completely sure...especially if she's really getting into it and enjoying the torment she inflicts... She can enjoy this scenario with peace of mind, knowing that she hasn't *really* done anything 'wrong' (aside from the 'naughtiness' of making you lick cum out of her pussy)...yet. And then both of you will have an idea of how you might react if she were to do it for real. Keep in mind though, as Joe has noted, the emotions of actually *seeing* her fuck someone else may be even more intense. Doing it for real requires that you both be *very* secure in your relationship and mature enough to deal with jealousy and anger (and other emotions) that *could* arise from this. In my opinion, the 'other man' should be carefully selected- much older or younger, perhaps already married so as to minimize potential disruption to your relationship, or STD transmission (it might be 'hot' to think about your wife/GF going out and fucking random strangers, but is it a risk you really want to take?).

I could well be wrong, but I think cuckolding would be very dangerous for a young married couple. A young wife hasn't developed a strong relationship with her husband yet...that takes many years, if it is to occur at all. She might well fall in love with the man, despite how he's selected. Psychologists have long established that a new sexual partner commonly elicits an 'infatuation' response...most of us remember those early days of continual excitement when we first started out with our partners...but it fades. Beth even describes her feelings for Murray as 'an infatuation'. I think she enjoys the fact that his visits are infrequent (seldom overnight, usually once a week) and that because of this, the infatuation may be sustained for a very long time. They're not together enough for the relationship to get stale. Extended sexual intimacy inevitably results in strong feelings of affection and attachment for Women. Even though Beth knows Murray will never stay forever...he's considerably younger and has a family; I can easily see an emotional link developing between them. It's changed him too...he is somewhat jealous, and certainly enjoys limiting and controlling my sexual access to my wife. Wearing a cage feeds right into such a scenario....it gives him control even when he's not around.

I am not particularly the jealous type, but I can certainly see how easy it would be for those feelings to arise. I still cannot imagine how it must feel for him to hold your key. I am deeply thrilled and also alarmed that of all the things I have shared with my keyholder about my fascination with chastity, cuckolding is what she chose to bring into our last teasing session. I don't foresee her actively searching out another man for this scenario, but the door is now open. We can at least enjoy the fantasy as part of our sex talk during teasing sessions. That's not a bad thing and may be the best way to "simulate" the fantasy.

> member_35559a144a wrote:I am not particularly the jealous type, but I can certainly see how easy it would be for those feelings to arise. I still cannot imagine how it must feel for him to hold your key. I am deeply thrilled and also alarmed that of all the things I have shared with my keyholder about my fascination with chastity, cuckolding is what she chose to bring into our last teasing session. I don't foresee her actively searching out another man for this scenario, but the door is now open. We can at least enjoy the fantasy as part of our sex talk during teasing sessions. That's not a bad thing and may be the best way to "simulate" the fantasy. Be careful....Unless you can deal with the consequences. Your arousal will reinforce her thoughts that you really want her to do this. That's what made me rather comfortable sampling other men besides my husband. I knew in his heart that Joseph truly wanted me to. Instant erection every time I mentioned it. And it still does the same thing, but he doesn't get to use it much anymore now. Keeping him locked up is much more entertaining than I thought it would be! And don't think she hasn't done her own web searches on cuckolding. She knows what it generally entails. She's quite likely getting off on the idea of you servicing her, and another man as well. Are you truly ready to do that?

> Psychologists have long established that a new sexual partner commonly elicits an 'infatuation' response...most of us remember those early days of continual excitement when we first started out with our partners...but it fades. Quite true. In fact, I think that for some of us, the drive for chastity and other kink play is [at least in part] a search for something 'new', a desire to re-create the 'infatuation' we experienced when our current partners were 'new'. Although our partners who willingly participate in the new activities are not themselves 'new', their actions and behavior *are*, and it amounts to nearly the same thing. Adding a truly new 'partner' to the mix could result in unintended consequences. These things need to be considered *before* making it reality, and a plan should be developed to handle the [possible] consequences before action is taken.

LadyBeth, that door is open. I can't very well un-say how much the thought turns me on or the "permission" I gave her to pursue it. And she holds my key. I don't really think she'd step through that door, but the choice isn't mine so much anymore.

Just my own two cents here. I am not a fan of cuckolding personally, the idea doesn't arouse me at all. However what I want to add here is that I know I've had other fantasies and many people have fantasies that are exactly that. Fantasy and nothing else. When realized, sometimes you find the idea of the fantasy was way better then it in practice. So when I see statements such as "When I talked about it to him I saw his cock grown hard and I knew it was what he wanted and ok." (Paraphrasing, but just as an example to make the point) Yes, the fantasy is arousing, but the ramifications of the consequences are not taken into account and even if you think they are when it comes to something so powerful to the human psyche such as this you really can not be fully prepared or accurately anticipate how you will feel emotionally about acting on the fantasy. So while arousing I highly advise anyone thinking of this to not judge your partner's ability and desire to carry out based on his reaction to the fantasy. Making any life changing decision in a marriage or long term committed loving relationship should most certainly not ever be based on how aroused one gets when thinking of said action. With chastity they say "be careful what you wish for" but to some extent there is always an ability for two people to stop playing when it has negative effects on them or the relationship, with cuckolding I imagine that once it's done if it is going to be damaging there is no unringing that bell and the damage will continue to manifest itself in unexpected ways for a long time after. If you're gonna go through with it, listen to your emotions outside of the sexual ones. If it feels arousing but hurtful at the same time to fantasize about and you feel like there's a chance you won't be able to handle that anger, jealousy, or humiliation then no matter what you said to your partner it's probably best to stop and explain that. No matter how excited or turned on your partner may have been at the prospect if she/he truly loves you and cares for your well being then she/he will be able to let it go without a problem. If you feel prepared for the consequences and believe both you and your relationship are secure and mature enough to handle it, then by all means do it. Like I said, I've never done it myself and have no wish to but I'm well enough versed with psychology and the things in play here to have a bit of an opinion. Play safe!:D

> member_aa20c4eadd wrote: > With chastity they say "be careful what you wish for" but to some extent there is always an ability for two people to stop playing when it has negative effects on them or the relationship, with cuckolding I imagine that once it's done if it is going to be damaging there is no unringing that bell and the damage will continue to manifest itself in unexpected ways for a long time after. Absolutely agree! Tonight my wife and I could choose to stop our chastity lifestyle and move on, not looking back. Cuckolding on the other hand is a relationship changing event. Possibly a relationship ending event. I wish you well if you choose to go down that road.

Well put, Doc. It's certainly not something you'd want to do in an impulsive manner. The first time I actually watched my wife in the very real throes of sexual passion, her legs wrapped around Murray's waist as he pumped away at her, was devastating and stimulating. I don't know if being wretched and horny are feelings that are meant to accompany one another. I don't know how this will turn out...and you're right, once done, it can't be undone.

Yes, once done it can not be undone, however you can stop it from compounding and becoming even worse by explaining to your SO that you are now not so sure about it and really need to put the brakes on and sort things out. If you convey to your SO that this appeal is not part of the "sexual submissive" fantasy but a real request because you feel unsure or even hurt and want to stop then they should. You may need to take a step back as a couple, evaluate things, and then really decide if it's wise to go forward. If your SO can not do this, refuses to, or simply brushes it off then IMO that's really not a cool thing to do if you really love someone and care for their well being and I would vocalize that and refuse to continue to play or take part in any of the activities. Consent by all parties involved in ANY power exchange is paramount and it NEEDS to be respected, period. This is not out of your control, you DO have a say in this.

Actually Doc...I didn't start this thread. I do, however, sincerely appreciate your concern. LadyBeth is my wife, and this 'arrangement' is entirely consensual. That doesn't mean that the first cuckolding 'sessions' weren't overwhelmingly intense....that was the whole point. When I say that I don't know how this will turn out, I'm not really referring to any worries about our marriage...but rather how long Murray will be available and willing to service her sexual needs. She has always been a very kinky dominant lady. We talked about this for years....and the chastity thing was a relatively new twist...an element of freely given control. I'm not having second thoughts...my jealousy merely adds spice to my sexual frustration. Just another tease and denial game, albeit a very powerful one. We'll be just fine.

That's what I get for forum posting with sleep deprivation and not reading the whole thread through.:P Sorry if I got a little preachy there, my profession breeds a very protective and paternal instinct.

Stumbling on this post and doing the due diligence of reading the read has made me rather unhappy. I don't disapprove of your activities, but they are not for me... could we create a separate forum for cuckold / extra-marital issues? Cuz I really would prefer never to have to read about them again. No offense, in fact sometimes I have found the idea hot. The reality not. Thus I wish not to trip over it again.

[quote]....handle the [possible] consequences before action is taken[.../quote] possible consequences? *All* actions have a consequence good or bad, intended or unintended. Can't remember which Prussian Army dude it was, someone like von Clausewitz maybe, but he said words to the effect "No plan survies first contact with the enemy". In other words, however hard you plan and try to cover all bases, you're gonna miss something... Good luck

Hot_toddy_dog, with all due respect, nobody MADE you read anything.:-)

> member_aa20c4eadd wrote: > Just my own two cents here. I am not a fan of cuckolding personally, the idea doesn't arouse me at all. However what I want to add here is that I know I've had other fantasies and many people have fantasies that are exactly that. Fantasy and nothing else. When realized, sometimes you find the idea of the fantasy was way better then it in practice. > So when I see statements such as "When I talked about it to him I saw his cock grown hard and I knew it was what he wanted and ok." (Paraphrasing, but just as an example to make the point) Yes, the fantasy is arousing, but the ramifications of the consequences are not taken into account and even if you think they are when it comes to something so powerful to the human psyche such as this you really can not be fully prepared or accurately anticipate how you will feel emotionally about acting on the fantasy. > So while arousing I highly advise anyone thinking of this to not judge your partner's ability and desire to carry out based on his reaction to the fantasy. Making any life changing decision in a marriage or long term committed loving relationship should most certainly not ever be based on how aroused one gets when thinking of said action. > > > With chastity they say "be careful what you wish for" but to some extent there is always an ability for two people to stop playing when it has negative effects on them or the relationship, with cuckolding I imagine that once it's done if it is going to be damaging there is no unringing that bell and the damage will continue to manifest itself in unexpected ways for a long time after. > > > If you're gonna go through with it, listen to your emotions outside of the sexual ones. If it feels arousing but hurtful at the same time to fantasize about and you feel like there's a chance you won't be able to handle that anger, jealousy, or humiliation then no matter what you said to your partner it's probably best to stop and explain that. > > > No matter how excited or turned on your partner may have been at the prospect if she/he truly loves you and cares for your well being then she/he will be able to let it go without a problem. If you feel prepared for the consequences and believe both you and your relationship are secure and mature enough to handle it, then by all means do it. > > > Like I said, I've never done it myself and have no wish to but I'm well enough versed with psychology and the things in play here to have a bit of an opinion. > > > Play safe!:D Like!

> member_985e6cd154 wrote: > Stumbling on this post and doing the due diligence of reading the read has made me rather unhappy. I don't disapprove of your activities, but they are not for me... could we create a separate forum for cuckold / extra-marital issues? Cuz I really would prefer never to have to read about them again. > > > No offense, in fact sometimes I have found the idea hot. The reality not. Thus I wish not to trip over it again. Yes, I know just what you mean...why only this morning I was reading a post in the gearheads section and somebody brought up urethral inserts....which I would just as soon never have read about again.:P

> member_6a2b8da741 wrote: > > ....handle the [possible] consequences before action is taken[.../quote] > > > possible consequences? *All* actions have a consequence good or bad, intended or unintended. > > > Can't remember which Prussian Army dude it was, someone like von Clausewitz maybe, but he said words to the effect "No plan survies first contact with the enemy". In other words, however hard you plan and try to cover all bases, you're gonna miss something... One of the people who was in charge of some aspects of the paramilitary training I've received in the past loved that quote and it has stuck with me through life and in medicine thus far as well. It's so very true, plans are great things to have but rarely make it through to completion without alteration or total abandonment for new ones once put into practice as combat, much like life itself, has far too many variables to accurately account for. Though when it comes to chastity and the other activities discussed in this thread I can't help but think another US Military Motto is 100% appropriate and fitting for all of us and to a certain extent ironic: Sua Sponte (Latin Translation: Of Their Own Accord) Motto of the 1st Battalion, 75th Regiment US Army Rangers

I'm not offended by those who choose to participate in cuckolding, urethral inserts, sissification, ect. Call me vanilla and I'm ok with that but there will be things people do and comment about on this Forum that I will never participate in. If you look at the original post of this thread no where is there any mention of cuckolding but here we are. When I begin reading a post from a member and it's headed to a place I'm not comfortable with I have the power of "click" at my disposal.

I dont know much about cuckholding, but the only relief my KH allows is thru my prostate. She allows me to milk on occasion. This only helps out a lot as it feels good but does not make me unhorny for days like full release and ejaculation does. She doesnt like me to fall asleep on her, get tired, or be unhorny. An unhorny slave does nothing for the KH. Milking is about all I get for weeks on end.

> Can't remember which Prussian Army dude it was, someone like von Clausewitz maybe, but he said words to the effect "No plan survies first contact with the enemy". Yeah, that was something I learned in the Army. My reference to '[possible] consequences' was referring to those that were of a 'bad' nature, I thought that would be clear from the context and I didn't need to spell it out;) . RE: stumbling over unappealing subjects- there are a couple of things that I'm not real fond of seeing but I don't feel it's right to try to segregate them away from everything else, I just choose to read them or not and move along. I see this as a big buffet table, I take what I want and leave what I don't want, I'm not going to insist that somebody who likes spinach has to go to another room to get it.

This thread has grown cold, but since cuckolding was discussed deeply, and it's even more on my mind and in my love life lately, or could be, I thought I'd give an update. My KH and I are going on vacation to a large American city in about a week. Since my earlier postings in this thread on the subject of cuckolding, the subject has continued evolving in our fantasy life. As a reminder, I brought the subject of watching her fuck another man while I was locked up and she locked in on the idea. That was a few months ago. Many times during teasing she has brought this fantasy up, and the idea has developed to the point that we are going to walk down playing at the cuckold game while on vacation. The idea is for us to separately enter a bar, and sit at some distance apart. She is going to wear the crotchless panties and low-cut, nipple-exposing bra that I bought her as underwear, with some enticing clothes over them. I will watch while guys flirt with her, and will be caged, with the key on a chain visibly hanging around her neck. If a guy should inquire about sex, she will explain the key and that her locked boyfriend would be watching. I suspect many guys would be put off by that, but we will be looking for the odd guy who finds that a turn-on. Most guys wouldn't be observant enough to notice, but inquiries about the key around her neck would prompt a discussion about chastity. If the flirter wants to be her bull, she would tell him I'm watching, give me the sign, and we'd proceed to our motel room. I would remain locked and watch him fuck her. She would be wet already, since I would warm her up before going to the bar, and the idea apparently excites her, since she keeps bringing it up. Though we never use them, we have purchased condoms for her bull. I would love to see his cum dripping from her well-fucked pussy, but not from a bar pick-up. I do not plan to participate beyond actively watching and giving verbal comment. If this scenario goes well, we would pursue finding a bull at home. If we got to know and trust him, the condom could come off and he could get control of my key. In reality, I think she will flirt with a couple of suitors, neither of which will be suitable to her (we will agree on a "save me" signal), and we'll return nightly to our room just the two of us for some teasing for me and some cumming for her. But it will be hot going through the motions.

> member_35559a144a wrote: > ...But it will be hot going through the motions. Damn. Your description of that idea got me straining against the cage. Mrs. Twisted and I will be taking vacation together beginning at the end of this week (for the first time in quite a few years). We aren't planning on taking a trip anywhere (too much that needs to be done around the homestead) but she did mention making me take here out somewhere, with a specific reference to the fact that she has me locked up again...and lately there have been more references to her making me watch her with other men. Now I have to wonder if she might have something similar in mind, but I'm reasonably sure that she won't actually follow through. It is interesting to note that she used to wear the Key on a necklace that also had a large semi-precious stone so that it was partly obscured, but now it is by itself and blatantly obvious...

I know the straining against the cage feeling well! Does her key necklace ever get any questions?

> member_35559a144a wrote: > ...But it will be hot going through the motions. Damn. Your description of that idea got me straining against the cage. Mrs. Twisted and I will be taking vacation together beginning at the end of this week (for the first time in quite a few years). We aren't planning on taking a trip anywhere (too much that needs to be done around the homestead) but she did mention making me take here out somewhere, with a specific reference to the fact that she has me locked up again...and lately there have been more references to her making me watch her with other men. Now I have to wonder if she might have something similar in mind, but I'm reasonably sure that she won't actually follow through. It is interesting to note that she used to wear the Key on a necklace that also had a large semi-precious stone so that it was partly obscured, but now it is by itself and blatantly obvious...

> member_dae6749ccd wrote:I have to admit i feel the same way that's what made me want to try chastity, because i knew i loved the feeling of being horned up that gut desire to mate or be mated as is the case. It is such an amazing feeling when you really get to enjoy it without being able to release that energy and it builds up in you. I cant say if it gets easier since ive only just started but i can agree that deliciously evil is the best term. You love it and want more and you hate it because your body wants to get rid of it as nature intended. I think she would, i hope my fiance would, its tough to get more time in because a week (7) is our longest time which was most recent but it was one of the most amazing experiences that i hope to push further and explore. I usually think about it more just cause im a masochist sometimes and it ads to the fun. I have no choice, my girl just plain does not want me to orgasm, she will ruin them about one per month and have many of her own but she wants me locked up permanently. I could stop it all, but that would take her power away I am doomed to do it her way she seems so into it.

The idea of cuckolding seems to me like a completely natural extension of Chastity. Chastity gives me such an incredible rush, a constant state of arousal, and makes me highly suggestible and responsive to her touch and teasing. The cost of this to her, is she doesn't get to be fucked for long periods of time. This is fair? Only if she doesn't like cock! Cuckolding lets her get the cock she desires, making it easier for her to focus on my teasing and denial without feeling like she is denying herself as well. She gets the best of both worlds - options for interesting sex with other men, and a stay-at-home man committed and crazy about meeting her every need otherwise. My wife gets very attentive, full-body massages from me any time she wants, gets my tongue to please her often, and enjoys the abject adoration you only get from an orgasm-denied man. She also gets cock, in a fun, naughty way! Why would she leave me for that cock? All she gets with him is the same old tired relationship, once the "new relationship energy" wears off, and the likelihood that her new flame will tolerate chastity, cuckolding and the resulting freedom and attention for her is slim to none! A chastity-loving cuck is a rare treat for a woman who appreciates what he has to offer, and there are a lot of women who will know that and hold onto that with both hands! I often hear dire warnings of the consequences of cuckolding - as if the only aspect of your relationship keeping you together is sex, and as if the freedom you offer your woman is a trivial, easily acquired thing in our society. Don't kid yourself. A woman is damn lucky to get a sub, chastity-tied, cuckold, and as she steps into this experience and partakes of the amazing benefits (and looks around and sees NO other women around her receiving anything like it), you may find her turning into the dominant, sexy hotwife YOU deserve! > member_35559a144a wrote:If this scenario goes well, we would pursue finding a bull at home. If we got to know and trust him, the condom could come off and he could get control of my key. > In reality, I think she will flirt with a couple of suitors, neither of which will be suitable to her (we will agree on a "save me" signal), and we'll return nightly to our room just the two of us for some teasing for me and some cumming for her. But it will be hot going through the motions.

My wife initially had two serious concerns regarding my interest in male chastity. 1) That the wearing of a device would be a potential contributor (through conditioning) to erectile dysfunction, or otherwise harmful to my equipment. The assurances of the forum members, and our continued experience, seems to have completely alleviated those particular concerns. On the very infrequent occasions I'm allowed out of lockup, everything works just fine. 2). That she'd be deprived of the pleasures of very frequent intercourse, which she enjoys immensely....and while she very much enjoys oral stimulation, doesn't find it a totally adequate substitute for PIV. I'm not sure I'd say that sharing your wife with other men is necessarily a logical extension of MC, but for a woman like my wife, it became the only acceptable outcome. Frankly, I was never that good at PIV, and this arrangement now meets both our needs. Is it 'fraught with danger'? Probably, since women tend to become far more emotionally involved with sexual partners, than do most men (yes, perhaps an over-generalization, but fairly accurate, I believe)....and observing your wife's increasing bonds and expressions of affection for a lover is actually more of a source of jealousy than observing their sexual intimacy. I know it's a trite statement...but I'd be careful....it's a path once walked, can't be unwalked.

SOLD!:)

> member_e3cc99d06c wrote:My wife initially had...serious concerns regarding...male chastity...That **she'd be deprived of the pleasures of very frequent intercourse, which she enjoys immensely....and while she very much enjoys oral stimulation, doesn't find it a totally adequate substitute for PIV.** > I'm not sure I'd say that sharing your wife with other men is necessarily a logical extension of MC, but for a woman like my wife, it became the only acceptable outcome...this arrangement now meets both our needs. This is similar for Mrs. Twisted- she enjoys the oral, but she really likes *getting fucked* (and I put it this way intentionally, because she has some sub tendencies and enjoys being 'taken', even in spite of resistance she may put up). The conundrum is that she also greatly enjoys the benefits she derives from keeping me locked, deprived of orgasms and constantly horny, but even the most realistic dildo is no substitute for a real, throbbing, pumping cock filling her, and filling her with cum...and being eaten *afterwards* tops her list of oral delights, but she cannot get that at all under 'normal' conditions and only infrequently when keeping me locked. To my mind, her having the freedom to enjoy the real thing from other men would be only 'fair' even if she were keeping me locked just to pander to my own fantasy/desire/need. The fact that the idea of her forcing me to watch her with others turns me on, and [as she has been discovering], turns *her* on as well is the icing on the cake. The ideal situation that would cater to both of our needs/desires would be if she were able to find someone (or better, several someones) who could be slightly dominant with her, who would be accepting of her dominance with me and my presence/participation. Her inhibitions have so far prevented her from seeking such, but they seem to be lessening as her realization/acceptance of how much she enjoys this increases.

Yes! My Goddess feels that way, and although she is VERY strict and Domme with me, she has a completely different relationship with her bull, and gives herself in rather a submissive way to him. She loves experiencing intimacy both ways, and loves that she has two men to satisfy these different sides of her desires. Once we started into this, we both decided to go full steam. When I see people waffling on choosing into this, taking half-measures and being afraid all the time, it feels to me that they may be interfering in their own process, and sabotaging what they could be enjoying. Everyone is different, though, and I get to remember that and stay out of judgment... I can only really speak for my own results and experiences.

Catkar: that is exactly how it is working with me. I was scared of my cuckold fantasies to a degree but so far it has been a fabulous journey for me and even better than anything I had ever imagined. Yes, it would be easy to be threatened (then why go there in the fist place), especially as my partner's most frequent lover is known to me only as 'monster', a nickname he completely deserves based on the size of his member. This just isn't how it works though. For us the chastity play had only just started and then the cuckoldry came in, now the chastity is stepping up and so is the pleasure for both of us. I think you're right- I'm pretty sure if we ever fall out or split up it won't be about cuckoldry or chastity, neither of us can believe how good they both are!

I hear you—what you’re describing is a wild mix of pleasure and frustration, and I think a lot of people in your situation can relate. That push-and-pull between craving release and embracing the tease can be intense, especially when it loops in your mind. The good news? Over time, many find they adjust and even learn to channel that energy in creative ways—whether through deeper emotional connection, physical activities, or simply refining their patience.

oh my god