security and protection within chastity

Some folks argue that being securely locked in chastity without any chance of pulling out a device isn’t crucial, nor does it matter if the device could be easily cut off. Because escaping would break their key holder’s trust. The purpose of a male chastity belt or device is to keep hands away from his cock and prevent him from masturbating whenever he wants. If it can be defeated with ease, I don’t see much point in wearing one. Returning to the issue of trust: if your key holder expects you not to tamper with the belt/device, why not simply tell you no masturbation and forget about the device entirely? You would just comply????. So for me, security matters.

> member_5acc0673e6 wrote:The purpose of a male chastity belt or device is to keep hands away from his cock and prevent him from masturbating whenever he wants. If it can be defeated with ease, I don't see much point in wearing one. You and I think alike. But not everyone approaches it the same way - there isn't a "wrong" method. Some men manage for many months on the honor system. Me? Not so much... or at least I prefer not to. I enjoy having a device locked on me. The sensation and constant reminder make it feel more real. Plus, I have a frenum piercing with a captive bead ring that acts as a second lock, preventing release without getting caught. But this doesn't mean those who honor the experience can "easily defeat" their chastity are incorrect. It just means they differ from you and me. And that is perfectly fine.

> member_5acc0673e6 wrote:Returning to the issue of trust: if your key holder expects you not to tamper with the belt/device, why not simply tell you no masturbation and forget about the device entirely? You would just comply????. > So for me, security matters. I have a somewhat long blog post on this topic, but here is the tl;dr version: We all carry mental scripts in our heads, and our satisfaction depends on how closely those scripts match reality. The truth is that many people into this kink *want* the feeling of losing control. This means that while they might promise to keep their hands off, having a device that resists circumvention aligns better with their internal script. That explains why some guys cycle through different devices, or why others (like me) constantly tinker and upgrade. Some people kink on personal control, which is fine. These are the ones claiming "deviceless chastity" is superior. I call BS - it's just a preference, a distinct type of kink. Mrs. Edge and I both kink on losing actual, *physical* control, so for us, a secure device works. Others are content if their scripts align loosely; they remain happy with loose-fitting devices or ones that can be easily bypassed. That is okay too. It just isn't what everyone else desires.

> member_5acc0673e6 wrote:seems to be a problem here, I did not post here? @steph17 I merged the thread fragments together to try and get your discussion back on track.

Thanks Atone! I have been interested in chastity as long as I can remember and am a big fan of the honor system. We rely on it mostly. Buuuut, my jailbird is growing on me (or am I growing into it?). It offers just a different sensation. When I was younger, I felt somewhat disillusioned by the fantasy-reality aspect of chastity. But I moved past that. Today marks 11 days in the honor system, and I have finally put on the jail bird. Love it!

I am waiting for my steelworxx steelheart 2 with the pa anti-pullout attachment to arrive, and I hope this will make long-term secure (no pullout) chastity a reality. I know it is still possible to cut the lock on the steelheart, but I doubt I would damage such an expensive piece of equipment. And if I did, there would be hell to pay. I have a 6mm pa with a tribal dream ring in place, so pulling out will be impossible. Hope it meets all my expectations.

my kh checks on me every morning and promised a PA if I cheat or a chemical injection if I do...

Copied from someone's Tumbler feed. It has never been said better: They will test the chains that bind them; they will examine those links and discover their limits. They ensure everything is tight and secure. They seek out the weakest point to see if there is any possibility of escape. They do not act because they wish to get away, but because they need certainty.

> member_4e3795d05d wrote:Copied from someone's Tumbler feed... Love it!