flyingdragon What Was My Reason For This?

I’m just one week into Chastity, and I catch myself wondering that question quite a bit now. Why did we (or should I say “we”) choose this path? Everyone likely has their own motivations, but mine are mixed. Having been married to my wife for more than 15 years, our sexual life became much more experimental about five years ago. She naturally leans towards being the dominant partner, and over time we evolved from simple bondage into light tease and denial, then incorporated more vibrators and dildos, spanking with paddles or floggers, and finally strap-on play. While it has been a lot of fun, I always felt these activities served me better than they did her. I make certain she reaches an orgasm first, but deep down I know I get much more out of the experience.

So eventually, I brought up trying chastity. Given our history and my previous admission that I wanted to try strap-on play, it wasn’t a difficult topic to raise. My reasons were both selfish and selfless. First, I love when she teases and denies me, and this would elevate that feeling. Second, we both enjoy her taking charge in the bedroom, and this gives her total control. Third, since she usually does things for me, if this works out, it might benefit her more than me. Lastly, if controlling my orgasms and enjoying prolonged denial worked as hoped, I’d be much more attentive to her needs, fostering deeper intimacy. These last two points were the hardest for her to accept; although she likes being in control, she is naturally giving and finds it hard to be a bit selfish about receiving pleasure without me getting mine too. After some discussion, we agreed to give it a go. So those are my reasons, and I’ll share how things are going next.

So, one week in—how is it going? We purchased the CB-6000 and after testing it off and on for a few days to ensure comfort, we decided to commit. A week ago, I locked myself into the device and handed her the key; I've been wearing it since then. She explained that we would play her own modified version of the "lotto" bead game to decide when I get out and if I receive an orgasm—only she decides when I can pick a bead. She said this way, she wouldn't feel guilty about denying me because the game dictates the result. It made sense to me, and adding a game element brought some excitement. The good: Overall, it's better than we both expected. She is really getting into it by teasing me often and keeping me in a frenzied state (she even wears the key on a chain around her neck). She is also becoming more comfortable accepting my attention and starts to take advantage of it slightly by having me do things for her, like brushing her hair, running a bath, or massaging her feet. So far, she has had 5 orgasms compared to mine (see below) and is truly starting to accept that her needs come first. We are definitely more intimate now; even just sitting on the couch together shows how much she enjoys it. I find myself unable to keep my eyes, hands, or mind off of her. Honestly, despite finding orgasm deprivation harder than anticipated, I like everything. The bad: Sleeping in this CB-6000 has been tough because I usually sleep on my stomach. It's improved but isn't perfect yet. The other times it bothers me are when sitting a certain way, particularly while driving. Putting the device back on after daily removal for hygiene was tricky at first, though using silicone-based lubricant helped significantly. Another issue is that life pressures sometimes get in the way; she isn't always receptive to my advances during those moments. Not really a complaint, just hard being very horny and wanting to give her attention when she's in a bad mood. Thankfully, this doesn't happen often. Lastly, I had an unexpected orgasm while still inside the chastity cage (see below), which surprised us both. Today, after 7 days of teasing, she let me choose a bead to see if I would get release and an orgasm. Unfortunately, I picked a red one, meaning punishment and another 7 days before my next choice. The punishment turned out to be spankings administered with a paddle and cane (she was dressed up in black leather bra and panties). While I enjoy spanking from a fetish perspective, these were intense enough that they weren't overly enjoyable. After she finished spanning me, she rubbed my ass, balls, and the area between them, and suddenly it felt like I was going to orgasm again. I told her to stop, which she did, but I came anyway. It wasn't a full-blown orgasm; I had almost no pleasure from it and remained very turned on afterward, but it produced maybe a tablespoon or slightly more of cum. We were both surprised by this. She said she'd need to be more careful in the future, though I assured her I didn't get much enjoyment out of it. Anyway, that is where we stand now. I have one more week before picking another bead, and hopefully, this time will bring some satisfaction.