Exploring Male Chastity for Erection and Orgasm Control

“Hi there, I’m Ben and my wife is keen on trying out male chastity with me. We haven’t purchased a device yet. Everything we’ve seen appears to stop erections, which makes me wonder about the point of that.

We want to control when I climax while I pleasure her, and then let myself off after she’s come multiple times. Part of the appeal for us is my feeling extremely aroused but unable to cum. I’m not sure if a device that stops erection would still be pleasurable for both of us. Does anyone make one that allows an erection but blocks orgasm? As I mentioned, we are newbies who haven’t tried it yet, but the idea sounds thrilling.

Thanks, Ben”,

"Ben, if you wear a device that permits erections, it won't stop your orgasm unless you get a belt that fully encloses the groin to block enough contact stimulation. The cage itself prevents erections; while they might not completely rule out male orgasms, any such events are likely unsatisfying. You know, there's nothing wrong with giving your wife orgasms and waiting for her permission before enjoying yours yourself...when she decides it's time. Whatever works in a relationship is fine. Tease and denial don't necessarily require a specific male chastity device either.",

> We haven't bought a device yet. All of them that we have looked at seem to prevent erection. Depending on your size and the specific model, not all devices *completely* stop erections. I'm just over 6" when fully erect. My CB3000 fits well; putting it on while flaccid takes a bit of lube due to width, but I don't reach the very end. When aroused, I fill it completely and feel some restriction/compression, with several inches of erect tissue remaining *behind* the device—almost fully erect but not quite. In this state, the sensitive parts needed for stimulation are [mostly] shielded. Manual attempts to produce an orgasm often fail, though after a month or so of denial I become sensitive enough that oral stimulation *could* trigger one if Mrs. Twisted wanted to...but it might be partially 'stifled' by the base ring restriction. Mrs. Twisted finds it amusing getting me desperate for her to 'finish it' only to stop.",

> member_661549fd51 wrote: > Does anybody make a device that allows erection but prevents orgasm? The only one I can think of requires a prince albert piercing. Check out the PA5000. Steelworxx and Lori Lancer also offer several similar designs. Here are some links. the archived discussion (look at #5 or #8a) ... -119p.html Another option is a KTB. It allows an erection but it can be quite painful; you likely won't want to orgasm while erect with one. I never tried mine, and just the thought hurts. Here is a link to my specific model. ... grade.html The final option for me is a double locking cockring from Steelworxx. I have one that allows a fairly comfortable erection, but I did experience a ruined orgasm in it once and found it extremely unsatisfying and painful. No desire to repeat that. The penis ring must be small enough for this effect; if it were slightly larger, a normal orgasm would still be possible. Here is the link to mine. ... )-37p.html",

> member_661549fd51 wrote: > Does anybody make a device that allows erection but prevents orgasm? > Like I said we are new to this and haven't actually tried it yet but the idea sounds exciting to both of us. We have one of these life-like Vixskin extensions, which is fun to use. Obviously, it allows erection, but the sheath material is thick enough to block stimulation. The Ox Balls version looks even sturdier (no link right now) and comes in clear. Not exactly chastity-focused, but great for T&D.",

"My wife just asked what I wanted for my birthday; I think I might add one of those to the list.",

"Another vote here for the Locking Cockring from Steelworxx. To date, I haven't ejaculated with it on (though I have been provoked into a retrograde orgasm). However, the erections I endure while wearing it look as painful to experience as they appear, which might not sound like what you're looking for. Perhaps an Ox-balls Cock Sling?",

"Thanks for the replies. In response to Joe, I don't think I could have an orgasm without some kind of stimulation. A spontaneous one would be fine if it happened, but at my age that seems rare. If it did occur, my wife might enjoy it. Or did I misinterpret what you said? Don't most devices prevent all types of stimulation? Couldn't they just make a larger cage? My penis is average-sized; does anyone make one large enough to allow an erection but stop any touching? That's our goal. We aren't interested in pain or humiliation. My wife and I like playing games, like rolling dice: if the five comes up, I have to make her cum five times before she does anything for me. We do other things too, but we think it would be very sexy to have a type of bondage device so she feels more in control. Anyway, thanks for the tips; keep them coming. Thanks, Ben",

"Tom, Thanks for the info on Ox Balls. I just placed my order. ... FKS901.htm I tried a cheaper version last year which didn't go over well with my wife. You get what you pay for. Between the harness and the penis sheath that looked more like a wax candle, she told me after one use to put it away forever. My hope is this one will be better for both of us. BenjaminV, Not sure if this might work for you, but I thought I'd suggest it. ... ertel.html& Good Luck",

> member_661549fd51 wrote: > Thanks for the replies. In response to Joe, I don't think I would have an orgasm without some kind of stimulation. > If I did have a spontaneous orgasm that would be OK but at my age I think that would be rare. If I did my wife might like it. > Or did I misunderstand what you said? Don't most of the devices prevent any type of stimulation? > Couldn't they just make a bigger cage? I have an average size penis so does anybody make a cage that would allow me to have an erection but prevent any touching? That is what we had in mind. I have no interest in any type of pain or humiliation or anything like that. > My wife and I like to play games like we roll a set of dice and if the number five comes up I have to make her kum five times before she does anything for me. We have some other things we do too but we both think it would be very sexy if we had some type of bondage device so that she would feel more in control. > Anyway, thanks for the tips and keep them coming. > Thanks, > Ben I also didn't believe I could experience a spontaneous orgasm at my age...until I spent weeks in a cage waiting for release. I don't know about others, but with my wife's nightly stimulation...plus servicing her orally to climax, I'm on the edge of ejaculation almost continuously. Sometimes, I go 'over the top' and have a ruined orgasm...some short-term relief, but mostly still left horny. I don't know if a big cage would work for your needs. Experimentation is expensive. There's a large 'tool-box' of sex toys in our bedroom that proves this point. You're fortunate, as I am, to have a wife who enjoys sex. For quite some time before getting the cage, Beth would stimulate me, demand oral satisfaction, climax herself, and deny me relief....then roll over and sleep. It might have been more maddening than wearing the device...lying there with a pounding boner....knowing that if she caught me jerking off there'd be hell to pay......I don't know...my married life is more complicated than most...to put it lightly.",

> member_661549fd51 wrote: > Couldn't they just make a bigger cage? I have an average size penis so does anybody make a cage that would allow me to have an erection but prevent any touching? In addition to the CBxxxx line from the Millers, they also made the Curve model, which featured a larger cage. This might be something that works for what you want, if it's still available.",

"I find this prospect interesting—something that allows my balls to remain unimpeded and only covers the penis. It should be able to grow with an erection or prevent it via a belt of some sort. My biggest complaints involve using the balls as the effective anchor instead of the body. Obviously, you can get a full belt, but I find that less sanitary and not ideal for our type of play. I'm generally happy with the cb6s, but when there is pain, it's always ball-related pain. For me, that's the worst part of nocturnal erections; eventually, my balls feel like they're at the end of a rope being pulled beyond comfort. Granted, I'm a definite grower (2.5 to 6.5), which contributes to this issue. Maybe youth plays a role too; being 30 helps. I think a device utilizing a belt that only covers the cock would be my ideal setup (think Halloween fake nose with an elastic lol). If it could also grow with me while remaining thick enough to make stimulation difficult, that would be miraculous. My wife is constantly concerned about my balls and their pain/inability to self-regulate temperature unimpeded since we want to procreate soon. So to summarize: somebody invent a device that crosses between a belt and a cage, or a cage that grows with you but is thick enough to remove easy stimulation.:) aaaaannnnndddd go!",