Reasons to Wear the Device Long Term

I readily admit that chastity is not my main thing. I am into Tease and Denial play and a device is essentially used short term during a T&D session. The rest of the time I work from home and my wife is here with me except for a few hours on Friday night when she plays bingo. I used the honor system as I want to remain chaste for the week, like to be teased and left hanging so to speak and then have lots of sex and orgasms on the weekend. So for me, chastity is just a buildup to a fun weekend. As a pro orgasm person I am trying to understand the reason for wearing a device when not needed like sitting with your wife watching TV or other situations where you are supervised Isn’t it better to take it off when not needed to air things out and give your skin a break? So why do some wear it all the time rather only as needed? Also cannot seem to get a handle about what the majority of members do. Are most into wearing it 24/7? How about long term vs short term? Wish there was a way to post a poll. Just trying to find out if those into chastity are into their devices as symbols of their chastity or as actual security against easily masturbating which confuses me because if you are into chastity why would you cheat? Clue me in as I cannot seem to get a handle on what most are doing.

I wear when she is away on business or I am. I wear at home if she wants me to but often not. Last few months she has insited on the cage being on all the time... Her call everytime.

> member_6a2b8da741 wrote:I wear when she is away on business or I am. I wear at home if she wants me to but often not. Last few months she has insited on the cage being on all the time. Her call every time. Thanks for the reply. It sounds similar to our plans for my CB6Ks which is arriving tomorrow. Our plans are to use it when she is teasing me which can be in bed or while massaging her. She likes a nice bulge to play with. I work from home and we do all things together except play Bingo. That is her one girl's night out per week and when I am alone. I admit that it is my hardest night to not masturbate since it is usually my fifth day of chastity but I usually just remind myself that it is just one more day and why ruin a week's worth of work when the prize is so close. We talked about it and decided if the CB6Ks is not uncomfortable or a pain to wear for 6 hours, she would like me to use it when she plays Bingo. So time will tell. Hope she does not want me to wear it more because I am firmly pro orgasm and doing this more for her as the noises I make while she is teasing me are making her have more orgasms that she had when we were younger. She knows that if she allows me to orgasm, the next few days will be ho hum.

For me it is forced/enforced chastity, whether I want it or not- it's *her* choice, not mine. My [main] kink is forced sexual service/activities/conditions. Mrs. Twisted enjoys seeing me locked up. I may have introduced the idea, but I approached it in such a way that she had the opportunity to take complete control if she decided that she wanted to...

> member_cb3fc54dc5 wrote: > As a pro orgasm person I am trying to understand the reason for wearing a device when not needed like sitting with your wife watching TV or other situations where you are supervised Isn't it better to take it off when not needed to air things out and give your skin a break? > So why do some wear it all the time rather only as needed? Also cannot seem to get a handle about what the majority of members do. Are most into wearing it 24/7? How about long term vs short term? Understand that even though we tend to lump them together, you actually have 2 or more kinks going on at the same time. ... r-oranges/ There is a kink for the denial, itself, and then there is a kink for the device as a form of bondage or removal of control. My opinion, worth what you paid for it, is that most of the guys around here are kinking on the device/bondage aspect. That is, the device removes the control and places it with the keyholder. Other guys kink on the denial in which they use self-control or will-power. It's the difference between *can't* and *won't* if you get my meaning.

> member_cb3fc54dc5 wrote:I am trying to understand the reason for wearing a device when not needed like sitting with your wife watching TV or other situations where you are supervised Isn't it better to take it off when not needed to air things out and give your skin a break? Both my current keyholder and my previous one would allow me to take it off from time to time to shave and clean and just let the skin rest. I'm even allowed to sleep without it from time to time, though I've learned that if there has been enough denial and/or excitement, I will let her know that I'd rather sleep in the belt as I don't want to test my self-discipline.

> member_381064b05f wrote: > > member_cb3fc54dc5 wrote: > > As a pro orgasm person I am trying to understand the reason for wearing a device when not needed like sitting with your wife watching TV or other situations where you are supervised Isn't it better to take it off when not needed to air things out and give your skin a break? > > So why do some wear it all the time rather only as needed? Also cannot seem to get a handle about what the majority of members do. Are most into wearing it 24/7? How about long term vs short term? > Understand that even though we tend to lump them together, you actually have 2 or more kinks going on at the same time. > ... r-oranges/ > There is a kink for the denial, itself, and then there is a kink for the device as a form of bondage or removal of control. My opinion, worth what you paid for it, is that most of the guys around here are kinking on the device/bondage aspect. That is, the device removes the control and places it with the keyholder. Other guys kink on the denial in which they use self-control or will-power. > It's the difference between *can't* and *won't* if you get my meaning. Very good insight and I tend to agree with you. This kink/fetish or whatever it is called is new territory for us. Hard to understand because of exactly what you said. I think my problem is that I view the purpose of any form of sex to be the orgasm and as intense and as often as possible. I can understand short term chastity as a means of teasing and making your orgasm more intense and we have done this in the past. However, long term chastity runs counter to what I want from my fetishes. Very interesting and I can sort of understand it as I do like the feeling of being made to wait for sex. I sort of feel like I am waiting to go on a date with my wife and am excite about it because I know I will have sex. In fact, part of our play is for me to be shower fresh, shaved, teeth brushed immediately before entering our bed, even if done early in the day. Sort of mimics what I used to do right before the date. However there has to be a rainbow in a reasonable amount of time which for me is one to two weeks.:)

Like Tom said, there is a bondage aspect that I particularly like. It's a form of bondage that I can be forced to endure for long periods of time, and it keeps me constantly aware of my predicament. That really heightens my frustration, which in turn adds to my fun.

> member_1f353e1d87 wrote:For me it is forced/enforced chastity, whether I want it or not- it's *her* choice, not mine. My [main] kink is forced sexual service/activities/conditions. Mrs. Twisted enjoys seeing me locked up. I may have introduced the idea, but I approached it in such a way that she had the opportunity to take complete control if she decided that she wanted to... This is exactly how it is with us... hubby introduced and handed me complete control... I ran with it lol he got what he wished for and way more:)

> member_1f353e1d87 wrote:For me it is forced/enforced chastity, whether I want it or not- it's *her* choice, not mine. My [main] kink is forced sexual service/activities/conditions. Mrs. Twisted enjoys seeing me locked up. I may have introduced the idea, but I approached it in such a way that she had the opportunity to take complete control if she decided that she wanted to... I can understand the forced sexual service part as I like that too. However since I am very dominant by nature, I cannot extend that beyond the bedroom. It may seem contradictory but I live in a wife led marriage. It just is not one that involves D/S.

I agree with what has been said so far. For me, wearing a chastity device put an end to excessive masturbation which in turn keeps me "ready to go" whenever my wife desires sexual attention. This wasn’t always the case in the past? You just might find after wearing your CB6000 for awhile that this Kink/Fetish of "waiting for sex" grows on you.

For me there are two reasons i wear the cage: 1) i kink on the bondage aspect; the turning over control to MyBride (aka power exchange) and 2) the "wedding ring effect"; the constant reminder of MyBride (although i notice the cage a little more than my wedding ring;) )

> member_56a3d51043 wrote:I agree with what has been said so far. > For me, wearing a chastity device put an end to excessive masturbation which in turn keeps me "ready to go" whenever my wife desires sexual attention. This wasn’t always the case in the past? I wouldn't necessarily say that I had 'excessive' masturbation, but we often had conflicting schedules and it was usually easier to just 'take care of it' myself when the urge was there. Then, when we'd get some time and she'd be in the mood, I wasn't and I'd blow her off...and feel extremely guilty about it later. I'm a lot more cooperative when locked, even though we again have conflicting schedules. (It will be bedtime soon, I have to be at work well before the sun comes up, and she won't be coming in until near midnight.)

2 reasons for my 24x7 chastity, forever. Adding some spice & excitement in sexual life, which is secondary from my KH wife's view. More important reason is that ever since I introduced male chastity to her, she has started enjoying an 'exclusive ownership' of my junk. When I told her to select the cage, her instant & only choice was the solid steel cage, which gives her much more satisfaction over the non-metallic cages. Few months ago she has even replaced the cage lock & now it's the number combination lock. Whenever I'm going out, without fail she physically checks out my cage & lock.

Now at 102 days without an orgasm...she let me out to ride my cock at day 30...and Tuesday at day 100. Strangely enough, I'm becoming better at intercourse without blowing a wad....lasted 15 minutes of steady fucking when she said 'enough...time to go back in your cage', and climbed off. Took quite awhile for my erection to subside....particularly since the next 30 minutes were spent giving oral and watching her enjoy three solid O's. I would have given anthing to come and asked if I could, but she just shrugged, said "It's not in the cards", rolled over and went to sleep. I got up, showered, fought the impulse to jerk off, and faithfully locked myself back in the Jail Bird. I find being used as no more than a convenient sexual device, while being granted no relief myself, to be an extremely erotic experience. I wonder if I'm becoming somewhat habituated to a frequent feeling of near orgasm...and not being able to go over the brink. I would have predicted, after so much time in lockup, that I would have blasted a load with a few seconds of entering her juicy pussy.