Ruining the orgasm
As someone who can count on one finger how often a woman has made me cum just by hand, and finding that a blowjob-induced climax is fairly rare for me, what…
As someone who can count on one finger how often a woman has made me cum just by hand, and finding that a blowjob-induced climax is fairly rare for me, what do you think is the best method for my Goddess to ruin my orgasms? I hope that after being denied an orgasm for a while, my sensitivity will rise enough so that manual stimulation works. However, I don’t want to wait too long just to experience a ruined one at the cost of missing out on climaxing with my Goddess during intercourse. Do any keyholders here have tips or tricks?
There is no reason you can't cum by hand from a woman. I'm sure the feel of a hand on your penis isn't unfamiliar to you.:) Some of my best sexual experiences have been with a woman's hand. In the last five years, I've had PIV sex about three times and oral about fifteen times. The rest was done by my wife's hand, which is what I prefer since I need a firm grip to feel anything well enough. Some women don't know how to give a good handjob; you sometimes have to teach them. You can get a ruined orgasm even without any period of chastity. Show your spouse exactly what works for you by having her watch. Plus, you can easily give yourself a ruined orgasm simply pulling your hand away before ejaculation while masturbating.
But doing it myself sort of defeats the purpose though!
> member_476ab6a97a wrote: > Any keyholders reading got any tips or tricks? I'm not a keyholder myself, but I'd suggest thinking about other things that really excite you and asking your keyholder to incorporate those into the routine. People have told me I'm not particularly sensitive, so it's quite infrequent for a woman to get me off. But that definitely doesn't mean it isn't possible. With enough teasing and other exciting stimuli, I've had plenty of experience with ruined orgasms. The excitement from chastity and denial can certainly help push you closer to the edge. The Hitachi wand is something that, as far as I know, is about as powerful as any vibrator on the market—you might want to invest in one... even if it doesn't work for you personally, there are good odds it will suit your keyholder.
We already have one! We also have a humming bird sleeve on the way. I'll be sure to let you all know how things go with that.
> member_25cff16817 wrote: > The hitachi wand is something that, as far as I know, is about as powerful as any vibrator out there I agree, the Hitachi is the best! I was curious one time and tried it while locked in my JB (had a weak moment):oops: . It took all of about 1 minute before I had a ruined one. Afterwards I felt very unsatisfied. The Hitachi has since been locked away and my wife now holds two keys.:lol: I'll be interested to hear how the attachment for your Hitachi is working out. I was thinking of getting one for my wife as well.
> member_476ab6a97a wrote: > Doing it myself sort of defeats the purpose though! It will train you so that you get used to them. Then you may find it easier to have them with your partner. I don't think length of time without one is much of a factor for a ruined orgasm, as it is simply stopping stimulation before you ejaculate. It can be done by hand, orally and even with PIV if you are commanded to pull out in time. You seem to think it is something that is just associated with chastity and hand jobs. Your partner could use a vibrator on you, or her feet, or even direct you to masturbate yourself while she tells you what to do every step of the way. In other words, you are her puppet. She can say stroke up and down, faster, slower, stop, just rub the head, etc. You can also edge yourself several times and then have her play with you. You should be ready to blow your top easily after so much edging. We do that sometimes and it is like going into bed with a gun with a hair trigger.:) I guess my point is that a ruined orgasm does not have to be associated with a hand job. They can be had many ways. Heck, I've had a few by just getting myself erect and then being punched in the balls by a woman or even having my cock whipped. Just find whatever works for you and a ruined orgasm does not require any special period of time since your last one. You can have one a few hours after your last climax as it really has nothing to do with how long it has been but rather the removal of stimulation right before you ejaculate. If you can ejaculate, you can have a ruined orgasm.:) Good luck and have fun. FYI, our favorite thing to do is for my wife to ruin my orgasm. She is great with her hand and can edge me for an hour or more before she brings me to the brink and then lets go so that I dribble some cum and still get a nice small climax. Then she will feed me that cum while playing with me some more until I have the big one. I get to cum twice and she gets me to eat my cum since I am still horny after the first ruined orgasm. My ruined orgasms are not like what some describe. Maybe it is because of a long life of BDSM play where there was seldom any pumping of my penis during climax but when I am about to come, I can jerk my muscles to have a decent climax that is enjoyable but not complete and then go again for a full one. As I mentioned, I can have some kind of an orgasm without even being touched at all by a human.:)
For what it's worth, Ms. Ivey has a lot of good information on ruined orgasms, without being overly graphic.
> member_381064b05f wrote: > For what it's worth, Ms. Ivey has a lot of good information on ruined orgasms, without being overly graphic. > What a deliciously wonderful RO. Like watching a volcano erupt several times.:o