Is anyone choosing ruined orgasms over regular milking?

Is anyone opting for ruined orgasms rather than the every-two-week milking routine? I suspect we’re going this way because my wife believes she’ll get more satisfaction from it.

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We don't stick to a specific schedule but I do both... Personally, I find a ruined one more enjoyable, though I also appreciate the sense of power that comes with milking:)

> member_f2fba760da wrote: > Is anyone opting for ruined orgasms rather than the every-two-week milking routine? I suspect we're going this way because my wife believes she'll get more satisfaction from it. We don't practice either method, so I have nothing specific to contribute. I'm just chiming in to say that I *really* love your avatar.

We utilize both. My semen tends to coagulate quite a bit, which makes the milking process difficult. When it does work for me, it's quite time-consuming. My girlfriend still enjoys that aspect, but practically speaking, ruined orgasms are easier to manage and offer greater physical relief. I do agree with LadynMonkey; the "power" dynamic of milking is particularly impressive and makes me feel overwhelmingly submissive. However, ruined orgasms can be very effective as well. Also agreeing with Atone: I love your avatar:)

We relied exclusively on ruined orgasms for about a year last year. I can't manage the milking process due to Crohn's disease, so we chose the ruined route instead. Since switching to full-time chastity this past fall, and finding my ejaculate too discolored and jelly-like for our comfort, we decided to aim for full orgasms again. It ends up being one or two a month for me, though I haven't had a truly complete one since we made the switch. It feels like I'm stuck with half-orgasms because I seem to hold back slightly, which appears somewhat out of my control. To cum, I feel I have to squeeze the PC muscle until the orgasm begins, but that action suppresses it a bit even when doing ruined orgasms on purpose. My sensations used to range from 0-60% of a full one (usually around 30%), and now they sit in the 30-50% range.

Thanks for all the responses. This seems like a likely path for us too, although I'm hoping She tries milking to see how much She enjoys it before ruling it out completely. Thanks also for the comments on my avatar; it's one of my favorite sexy pictures where She is fully clothed:)

My wife has me perform a ruined O inside her most weekends before she sits on my face. These ruined Os give me near-zero pleasure. She allows one real O per month, which is always EXTREMELY pleasurable but at that frequency does little to satisfy me for more than a very short time. After my monthly real O, I generally feel a bit of a letdown knowing there won't be another until sometime next month. It is what I wished for, and I sometimes wonder why, but my wife likes my new "nicer" attitude and isn't going back.

> member_2a07589abb wrote: > My wife has me perform a ruined O inside her most weekends before she sits on my face. I don't know, for me I'm thinking an orgasm inside my wife would be pretty pleasurable.:D

> member_56a3d51043 wrote: > > member_2a07589abb wrote: >> My wife has me perform a ruined O inside her most weekends before she sits on my face. > I don't know, for me I'm thinking an orgasm inside my wife would be pretty pleasurable.:D My wife did this once. I wasn't really fully inside her though; the tip was just pressed against her lips. Then my lips were pressed against hers. It was really hot, can't wait to do it again.

> Atone wrote: > I wasn't really fully inside her though; the tip was just pressed against her lips. Then my lips were pressed against hers. :lol:;)

> member_2a07589abb wrote: > My wife has me perform a ruined O inside her most weekends before she sits on my face. Oh. That's got to be pretty frustrating. Which, I guess, would be the idea, huh?

> member_2a07589abb wrote: > My wife has me perform a ruined O inside her most weekends before she sits on my face. I think one of the times my wife had the most fun giving me a ruined orgasm was doing this. Part of the draw back of chastity is that my wife likes to watch me come, so she can actually have a bit of fun watching my face during a ruined orgasm, which we have started playing with fairly recently. On this particular occasion, she was on top and could tell when I started to come by watching my face. Then she firmly sat down when the time was right and just watched my face. Next time, I would like her to get up after I start but before I finish, so that I can lick her early after the climax starts instead of a few seconds later.

As someone who practices using a Hypnotic Chastity Belt, the "ruined" option is just my KH stroking me past the boundaries of what my body will tolerate. That is, with enough lube or friction (or both), eventually the body responds and cums. The difference is that when this happens, it's an amazingly frustrating experience because my "programming" tells me to avoid cumming if I have a chance. If possible, I pull back or away from the orgasm, or brush the hand or mouth away. But whether instructed by my KH (more programming, alas) or held in place physically by restraint, there is little option. Begging for a "belt off" command to enjoy the orgasm is a much better option—at least from my perspective. Then again, forcing me to come while "belt on" seems like a moment of control and power for my KH, and in some cases, mild punishment. I think she believes some milking/ruined O is good for my overall health or stress relief, or perhaps she's just a bit sadistic—I'm never really sure. But a ruined O while under the controls of an HCB is one of the more frustrating experiences on this whole journey. btb

We are similar to you and your wife. My wife feels that a ruined orgasm is more fun for her. She actually laughs while watching me have one.

> member_56a3d51043 wrote: > > member_2a07589abb wrote: >> My wife has me perform a ruined O inside her most weekends before she sits on my face. > I don't know, for me I'm thinking an orgasm inside my wife would be pretty pleasurable.:D I must tell my wife exactly when I start to ejaculate and then we both totally stop moving. So there is near zero pleasure for me at that point, and it takes extreme willpower to keep still. If I cheat and don't tell soon enough, I know she won't allow me inside her anymore, so I make sure not to cheat. Also, she inspects me afterward to ensure I'm still hard, confirming the ruin. If I don't remain hard, she would be very upset, I am sure, about allowing me the "pleasure" of being inside her less often. I have a love/hate relationship with one real O per month. Of course it is great fun achieving it but immediately after I feel down knowing the next one is about 30 days away and that in just about 5 minutes I'll be 100% horny again. 1/month does little to satisfy me longer than 5 minutes. Oh well, after 2+ years of this "system" at least my wife still greatly enjoys it. Best Regards, Rob

Just so I can understand better what do you guys consider a RO?