Deciding Whether Orgasm Is Worth It

My wife and I have been exploring Teasing and Denial for a while, adding chastity about five months ago to extend that denial period. Initially, we followed the common pattern of three days before letting chance decide what happened next. Over time, our periods stretched to two weeks at first, then grew from there in steps. While my wife appreciates how I behave when aroused, we had a discussion today regarding this dynamic. We wondered:

1. Is the difference between my behavior after an orgasm versus being locked up and only climaxing once or twice a month significant enough?
2. Does the constant low-level arousal during denial and the powerful release at the end outweigh having frequent orgasms? Regarding question #1, I have been in a wife-led marriage for roughly 35 years now. My partner is bisexual, and there are usually two women in my life who make it worthwhile to please her. Additionally, since I spend nearly half a year away on business trips, this setup made sense for us. Consequently, the difference between how I act before and after an orgasm isn’t that pronounced. There is some change, but we agree it doesn’t alter things much.:) My wife realizes that the threat of cutting off my frequent release, combined with Domestic Discipline if I misbehave, ensures I remain obedient to her requests and submissive at all times. The fear of losing something very pleasurable acts as a strong behavioral motivator compared to just hoping for that pleasure later. Moving on to question #2. While I enjoy the persistent state of arousal, it also kept my mind focused on sex constantly. I would think about sex while falling asleep, dream about it, and have those thoughts right upon waking. My CB6000 was causing erections and keeping me acutely aware of my penis, which added to sexual frustration without necessarily adding pleasure. The constant rubbing against my thighs led to skin tags, and despite trying various solutions, I had almost continuous sore or itchy patches on my scrotum. As a senior citizen living in a hot climate, I already have many skin issues; wearing the device is exacerbating them. Then there’s the final release itself. Yes, it is very intense, but is that intensity enough to justify missing out on six other orgasms while waiting? I don’t think so. It’s like saying if you skip pizza for a long time, the next slice tastes amazing. But is it worth skipping weekly pizzas (which are enjoyable) just to wait six months for one slightly better-tasting meal? Personally, I prefer eating pizza whenever I want rather than having it occasionally. My wife noted that during our pain play days, my orgasms were so intense they caused cramps and propelled ejaculate far distances—a reaction I no longer see after a few weeks of denial. Considering her point, she is right when I reflect on it. To me, the contrast from high pain to high pleasure works better than just an intense orgasm post-denial. My body doesn’t cramp up; instead, my ejaculation flows out smoothly rather than spraying forcefully everywhere. Furthermore, after about ten days without release, I find it harder to get and maintain an erection, and when I finally do climax, the process takes longer. It seems my body enters a ‘no orgasm’ mode from trying so hard to avoid one. I am unsure what role chastity will play going forward. We are largely in agreement that restricting my orgasms at this stage of life, given uncertainty about how many more we have left, isn’t the right path for us. I believe many men treat chastity as a fantasy rather than actually practicing it once the initial excitement fades. Looking at Fetlife communities and groups, weekly posts seem sparse. It seems most people try it out then discard it. Admittedly, some do practice what they preach, but compared to other fetishes or mainstream sex, their numbers are small. Not everyone shares my interest in BDSM, nor can many understand why pain appeals to me. I am not judging anyone; we all find our pleasure in different ways. I just feel that this lifestyle may not be for us.