notbeinfringed85 Doing Well in Lockup

I suppose the best place to begin is looking at how things were before. I’ve been married for nearly eight years now, and my wife is absolutely beautiful and desirable. We have one wonderful child together, and our relationship has always been stable. When we were in college dating each other, we were very intimate physically. After marriage, that frequency dropped a bit, which seems to be the normal course of events. It continued to decline until we were only having sex about three or four times annually. I stopped worrying much about her needs; my approach was just get it done and go back to sleep. I realize now that I am responsible for this lack of intimacy. During this period, I masturbated two or three times daily and developed a pornography addiction. I found myself rejecting her advances and affection. THIS WAS NO WAY TO BE. A few months ago, I resolved to make a change, and indeed things improved slightly. However, the temptation proved too strong, and I began slipping back into my old habits. I had seen male chastity devices online previously, but they never really caught my eye. I mean, who would want to deny themselves access to the part that gives them the most pleasure? I used to have two or more orgasms a day, with as many as ten on one particular Saturday. Now that I realized my situation was serious, I changed my mind about such devices. I talked it over with my wife and confessed everything I had been doing. She had no idea about my habits and thought I might be cheating because she wasn’t attractive to me anymore. After we discussed it thoroughly, I showed her some options online. She seemed open to the concept, so we ordered our first device. I received the Bon 4 Plus system last Friday. Finding advice for an uncircumcised male was difficult regarding which device would be best and cleanest. I chose a silicon one because of my work activities. If this works out well, I might get a steel version for weekends, but I need to avoid metal at work. As an electrician, I know the risks of wearing metal rings, watches, or jewelry around high voltage. A metal ring on my junk and a cage on my member wouldn’t be safe or easy to explain in the hospital—or worse, at the funeral home. Anyway, after fitting and experimenting most of Friday day, I found a combination that works. Saturday was a long day, as was Sunday. Today is better because I’m getting used to having something constantly down there. My last orgasm was on Thursday, making this the longest stretch ever since I discovered I could do it. I haven’t been let out yet because I can maintain proper hygiene with the device in place, even being uncircumcised. I know I will get out on Thursday for a medical test, but plan to go right back in as soon as possible. I am so glad my wife has taken to this lifestyle quickly and easily; I’ve read that some do not. She allowed me to service her every night since we got the device. I think she realizes that I want to focus entirely on her and stop being a selfish bastard. It is still early days, but everything takes time, so I believe this might be the best thing for us. I find myself thinking about her all day—not just sexually, but also feeling how lucky I am and how much I deeply love her. I wish I had started sooner.

Wow, what a huge change in your life! I agree this could be the best decision you possibly make. I hope everything goes wonderfully for both of you. Congratulations. I'm happy for you.

So another day locked in. Today marks the fifth day since I started this lifestyle change and it is the longest time ever without an orgasm, let alone touching myself. Sometimes I catch myself rubbing my cage, probably out of pure habit. Sleep was fairly easy last night, but I find myself struggling to come to terms with this reality. I know it is best for my marriage and life overall, so I am going to stick with it. I've read that it gets easier with time. Is there any way to make the click run faster?

Got released last night due to some bruising on the underside of my penis near my balls. I think it was caused by the end of the cage. While average length, I tend to be on the thicker side. I knew I was pressing hard against that part of the cage but had no idea about the damage. On the somewhat bright side, my key holder got turned on because she saw me wincing in pain. We had sex and I was allowed an orgasm, even though it was excruciating. So I'm out until it heals and am on the honor system, which is fine right now since I am too sore to hold myself while urinating.

> member_cac403ad74 wrote:I am too sore to hold it while taking a piss. Wow! If it is that sore I can just imagine the trepidation associated with locking back up in that device. i hope you're able to figure out the fit, or find a different device that fits better; what you're going through doesn't sound like any fun.

Out until Monday. We are going to go a little slower this time around. She said by May 1st I need to be adjusted for long term wear. I'm going to be a good boy and do whatever it takes.

So my last day of freedom before I go back into the device while unsupervised. I healed quite well and am feeling good. Yesterday, my beautiful bride had me give her a massage, which got me erect in just a few minutes. After that was done, she rolled over and had me remove her panties while she kissed me and twisted my nipples. I started to take off my shirt but received a slap on the face—her favorite thing to do lately. She then had me bring her to orgasm by oral service. Once she was content, she told me to brush my teeth while she cleaned up and got dressed. We talked afterwards and she explained that she enjoys getting what she wants without having to worry about my needs. I told her the only thing I need is for her to be satisfied. I guess I'm starting to feel this "sub-space" people talk about. She also mentioned that oral orgasms are much better for her than any other type of orgasm or stimulation I can give, which means my cock isn't strictly needed for her enjoyment. It has been five days since the last PIV sex with no sight of it happening again soon, as it is second best for her. Also five days since my last O. I wonder what this means for me now that only my tongue is wanted.

So I was locked back in while unsupervised today. This makes day six in a row without an O, plus I've been teased some. I know most of you could do six days standing on your head, but this is uncharted territory for me. My Bon4 felt better today even though it had only been on for 8 hours. I'm starting to have constant "blue balls" pain, even when not in the device. I've noticed after an erection it gets a little worse for an hour or so. I told my KH, who responded with "Good!" I've never seen this sadistic side of her before, but I must admit I rather enjoy it.

Day eight, no O. Constant soreness. I feel more submissive now than ever before. I got up early and made her breakfast and felt like I did something good. She said she expects it every day now, and I'll be happy to oblige. I'm glad she locks me when unsupervised because I don't know if my will is strong enough to resist on my own. When she unlocks me in the evening, I get hard instantly. She laughs and gives a quick but sharp tap. I find myself squirming and unable to get comfortable. The device does not hurt, but constantly reminds me of what my purpose is and who I belong to. I love her.

Wow, I got a treat last night. I was all ready for bed; unlocked as usual since I am only locked while unsupervised. She rolled over and grabbed my package with a firm grip, telling me how full my balls were. Then she moved down to give me head. THIS IS A HUGE FUCKING DEAL!! It has been a long time since I got a BJ, at least a couple of years. We ended up having good old-fashioned hard fucking. She had me bring myself to edge inside her, then pull out and lick her to an orgasm before going back to fucking her. After her third orgasm like that, she rolled me over and climbed on top. She had me cum inside her but kept going. Nothing like a little POT. Agreeing with about a minute later, she moved up and straddled my stomach, kissing me while letting her juices run over mine. After ten minutes of making out, she got up and led me to the shower. We washed without any funny business. Back in bed, she said that would take care of her for a couple of weeks. Oh joy. It was the best sex we have had since our teenage years. Her denying me has made my orgasm so much more intense when I do get one. I'm free until Monday; she says I will try to stay as long as possible in the cage, or until she decides otherwise. And just so you know, CHASTITY ROCKS!!

So yay for me; I got a break this weekend and had a couple of O's each day. However today is Monday and starts a new stretch. She says I have to keep it on as long as possible or until she decides differently. My Bon4 has been on for five hours now, and it doesn't feel like it's even there. I wonder how long it will be this time.

I woke up this morning with what would have been a massive morning wood. However, the old trusty chastity belt made sure that my balls knew they had better get it under control. Took a piss and used a cold washcloth to take care of things. My KH awoke when I got back into bed. She asked how it was going; I told her it was uncomfortable but okay. The next thing I know, she has straddled my face, grinding hard and rubbing my balls. After she had her wake-up orgasms, I needed another go with the cold washcloth. This makes day three of a lockup whose duration is unknown as long as I can remain clean and healthy. The feeling of "blue balls" is constant. I'm hornier than ever but love it. I would do anything for her.

Well... that lockup didn't last long. She unlocked me last night and we had amazing sex with vanillin flavoring. I shouldn't complain because that is why we do chastity anyway; it keeps me horny for her instead of jerking off all the time. She woke me up this morning with a hand job. After I came, she let me rest about five minutes then started again. She gave me another orgasm, but it wasn't as good. Then things got a bit rough for me. She had me rub out while she watched. It took about fifteen minutes and ended with a half-hearted orgasm producing just a little cum. After another five or so minutes, she said she wanted one more. My cock was soft yet throbbing and slightly raw. I told her I didn't think I could manage it. No sooner had I said this than she grabbed my flaccid cock and began stroking fast. I think she accused me of being a pussy during this process. I was almost in tears but she kept going. After what felt like an eternity, I had what can only be described as a "paingasm"—some sort of orgasm feeling mixed with some ache in my groin. I spasmed as if ejaculating, but nothing came out. Finally able to get out of bed and clean up. She let me have the day off; rest assured I won't masturbate. I go back in tomorrow morning, so wish me luck.

My experience has been similar. Chastity has made us much closer and improved our sex life significantly. I don't know the Bon device specifically but the Holy Trainer was too narrow for me and unusable. It is a pity there aren't plastic or silicone devices for those of us where a 1-3/8 inch tube is too narrow. I ended up with a metal device that is very comfortable, though that isn't an option for you.

Don't you hate it when life gets in the way? My KH has been gone because of her sick mother, and I miss her terribly. She unlocked me before she left and said to enjoy it because things will be tough when she returns. I really find myself feeling lost without her as we have become closer than ever recently. I feel like a lost puppy.

My KH will be back home in about two hours. She has been gone since Monday. I am so ready for whatever she wants.