How to Find a Girlfriend Who Appreciates Chastity

I’ve always wondered about this myself since joining recently; I keep seeing guys mention their wives putting them in chastity cages. Where do you locate a girlfriend or wife who is into these things, such as sissification and small penis humiliation? Are there specific websites with sections dedicated to “Fetishes” that people frequent? Apologies if this seems like an obvious question. P.S. The same logic applies when looking for a key holder. Thanks!

is likely a great choice for you. There are plenty of kinky individuals there ready to be friends or hook up.

is indeed a good spot. Here are some thoughts from an old-timer: 1) If you go there solely to hunt for a partner, expect it to be tough. 2) Go with the mindset of learning about the local kink community and nurturing your interests. Meeting people in person works best. We aren't just "fantasy fulfillment" - we're complete human beings... well, usually... (see #3) 3) It's the internet; keep in mind that many folks are there for fantasy or are simply a bit eccentric. Learn to spot them and ignore them. Depending on your location, you might want to check out Female Dominant support groups. One I've belonged to for years here in South Florida is "ClubFEM" at - they have chapters in major cities. While each group differs slightly, the shared goal is Female Dominant and male submissive relationships.

> Lady M wrote: could be a good option for you. Plenty of kinky people there to become friends with our hook up with. Great, thanks. I recall visiting that site before; I'll take another look!

First off, get yourself a girlfriend. Show her what an amazing catch you are and tactfully bring up your kinkiness. Gauge her reaction to see if it fits. If not, rinse and repeat until you move on. If she is the one, you might even decide to set aside some of your kinks. Nobody gets absolutely everything they want.

Joe gives solid advice. You might also give and AdultFriendFinder a shot.

I can see this being crucial for single men seeking a GF interested in FLR. I was fortunate, but remember one thing first. Even ignoring the kink aspect, you need someone who loves you for your true self. Over time, you slip into your secret little world. If she truly loves you, she will support you however she can. It may not be exactly what you envisioned, but love is paramount. Kink comes second because this hobby we enjoy here largely began in our minds and dreams. Sometimes when I dream about a specific role or piece of BDSM equipment, if we actually acquire it, the novelty wears off after thinking about it enough. Not always, mind you, but often. With all that said, just be yourself and proud to be submissive (within reason, as I do daily). Time is your friend; you will find someone.

I believe that if you know yourself, you should be upfront about it and seek someone complementary. Don't pretend to be someone else; don't hide your true self or what you enjoy. Just be genuine. I'd hate to think people settle because they never believed a perfect fit was possible. It is much easier to find the right person when you know exactly who you are and what you like. The key part is being honest and open about it. Don't let someone fall in love with your facade only for you to spring everything on them later, hoping they accept it. Just my two cents.:)

I began dating cagedrosie about two years ago. I'd say around the one-year mark of our relationship, I felt truly committed. During that first year, we experimented sexually with lighter bondage and kink activities. Afterward, we started introducing chastity more seriously into our dynamic. He was the one who brought it up & introduced me to it - if he had done so right away when we were just dating, I would have fled quickly. Since I was (and remain) relatively new to this lifestyle, being eased in rather than having him dump everything on my head at once really helped.

Oh I hope it didn't sound like I meant to dump everything on someone right at the start... I just meant don't wait five years and then spring it all on them suddenly.:)