Restarting the Countdown Timer

My KH has set a schedule for me to avoid orgasm over the next 30 days. Since I struggle with porn, masturbation, and reaching climax frequently, we decided this cold-turkey approach would serve as a good reset.

I’m now on day 18 and it’s proving challenging.

Like many of you, I can manage to withdraw my member from the Jailbird device. However, earlier today in the shower, I let myself get carried away. I pulled out began touching myself. As I neared the peak, a small amount of fluid escaped. It wasn’t quite a full climax, but there was definitely some cum.

So here is my query: should this event trigger a reset of the counter? Or do you only count a complete orgasm as breaking the streak? My KH hasn’t given her verdict yet on this slip-up.

For my KH, simply withdrawing counts as cheating.

> member_cac403ad74 wrote: > For my KH, simply withdrawing counts as cheating. I definitely cheated. There is no doubt about it. Now I just need to decide whether to reset the denied Timer or not.

You son of a beeeeeeeeeeeech!:) Absolutely start over... if she even wants to deal with your cheating self anymore. It's so disappointing... Personally, I wouldn't tolerate him touching himself sexually while wearing the cage without permission. Reset it! Expect a red bottom from spanking and some punishment...

> Lady M wrote: > You son of a beeeeeeeeeeeech!:) > Absolutely start over... if she even wants to deal with your cheating self anymore. It's so disappointing... Personally, I wouldn't tolerate him touching himself sexually while wearing the cage without permission. > Reset it! Expect a red bottom from spanking and some punishment... I respect your take on this Lady M, and if my KH decides to punish me, then of course I will accept that outcome. As for defending myself, I genuinely have an addiction to PMO. It has physically altered the pathways in my brain, and I've attended SAA meetings as well as seen a therapist. The way it affects my mind is quite similar to drug dependency, so making it 18 days was already a significant achievement.

LockedandLoved, Oh, I am very aware of addiction... and I know well the Steps to Recovery. That's about all I will say regarding that point. 18 days is impressive, but that doesn't mean if you were mine, I wouldn't be extremely disappointed or have serious doubts about whether I want to keep playing with you or just hand back your key. It might sound harsh, but staying in chastity requires a conscious effort every day and all the time, much like sobriety does. An everyday conscious devotion to your kh is essential. IMO, communicate before acting on impulse. I wish you luck:) and I know your kh will make the choice that serves her best... though it would just break my heart.

You might want to consider a more secure setup to help avoid temptation going forward. If you look back about a month or so, I explained how using an open cage device can make pulling out nearly impossible. It really works well.

I agree with mellyshubby. Now that you've proven you can pull out from behind, we need to prevent yourself from doing so in the future, otherwise there's little point wearing it at all. Who are you really fooling?

> member_0169c7b244 wrote: > You might want to consider a more secure setup to help avoid temptation going forward. If you look back about a month or so, I explained how using an open cage device can make pulling out nearly impossible. It really works well. I agree. I am willing to get the piercing done, but she isn't fully convinced by the idea yet. It's difficult because knowing I *can* do it makes me think I *will* do it eventually. This creates a cycle that builds up over time. I don't want to cheat. Nor do I want to be able to cheat easily. Would I grab bolt cutters and slice through the lock? No, probably not. Will I pull out from behind though? Well, as we've seen, the answer is yes.