The Journey of Chastity Begins

It all became real today. We began talking about chastity in early September, and it was iffy whether my wife would go through with it. Needless to say, I had to do a lot of explaining and fact-finding before presenting the idea to her, while she did her own research too. On 9/30 we had our final discussion, and she agreed to a six-month trial period that will be re-discussed later. Since then, it seems she decided it was worth trying; in this last week I have been teased almost as many times as there are days. Sometimes the teasing is R/O, and other times I have to perform acts to ensure her satisfaction. The day after the second time, when I told her she didn’t need to do it every single day, I said I would still be willing and more than happy to satisfy her regardless of whether I got anything out of it or not. She mentioned that she likes doing it too, which really surprised me. That brings me to where I am now: she ordered a C/B6K, which arrived today (or rather this evening), so here we go with the journey. I reckon I have quite a bit more to do and plenty of things left to learn.

Take care y’all, and thanks for listening.

Congratulations on what I hope is a long journey for both of you. It can be amazing if you play your cards right. Now that you've started wearing the CB6K, there are a few things to keep in mind. First: lube, lube, and more lube. Even today, I still use a little A&D ointment on my steel device because it helps heal as well as lubricate. Don't wear your new device 24/7 immediately right away. You need to let everything adjust. Experiment with base ring sizes and spacers until you find the most comfortable fit. Your initial nocturnal erections are going to be killers, and you'll wonder how on earth you're going to survive them. Your balls will ache and feel like they're on fire. They will get better—much better. Learning to calm down enough to pee will help immensely. Typically, using the largest ring possible without letting your testicles slip out works best for reducing erection pain. Try not to let your wife see you struggling with them because you don't want to discourage her from continuing this fantasy. In the beginning, I approached my wife about chastity and it took some fast talking and a crapload of convincing. She wasn't sure, so I decided to wear the CB anyway. At first she thought I was crazy, but after a little while, she started taking an interest. She finally asked for the key, but she would let me out every day to clean up and stretch. Eventually, I convinced her that I needed her to keep me locked up for longer periods, so the week she left to stay with her parents in Florida was perfect timing. Two days after she left, I forgot to apply lube in the morning before work. My job is pretty physical, and by noon, the base ring was digging into the back of my scrotum fiercely. By the time I got home and checked, there was a good sore developing there. I lubed it constantly every day, which helped ease the pain until my wife came back home. She took off my cage and started fooling around, and I tried as hard as I could not to let her see the pain when she touched me there, though I couldn't hide it completely. She saw the sore, and it almost ended our new lifestyle. A few days of rest with the cage off, plus some modifications to the base ring, saved us. Nothing that 100 grit sandpaper all the way up to 400 grit couldn't handle; I smoothed out the lower part of the base ring where it touches my scrotum so it was fully round. It's been several years since that happened, and we're glad she was able to be convinced to continue. Now, if I decided to call it quits, my wife would probably just have the cage welded permanently to the base ring.

Another quick word of advice... When you're locked up, all you can think about for quite some time (especially your first time) is your cock. As you get hornier, it'll get worse. For you, that's what's first and foremost on your mind. There's the constant squeezing, rubbing, and obsession setting in. You'll want to share all of this with your KH.:) For her, the experience is very different. What she sees is you becoming obsessed with your lockup. She might take to it right away and love the power dynamic/teasing (congrats if that happens!), or she might find it distracting from the regular pace of life. For example—you're in the grocery store shopping for groceries together. Example: All you can think about is the fact that you're walking around the grocery store locked up, dripping and horny as hell. Meanwhile, all she can think about is the playdate coming up in an hour, dinner needing to be made, work responsibilities, and a parent-teacher conference on the horizon. Pile lockup/teasing & denial on top of that regular load, and it gets overwhelming quickly. You're getting something out of this—give back by taking one (or 3-4 things) off her plate. It'll make life much better for both of you. Either way, if you're constantly reading articles, sending her pictures, and talking to her about what you're feeling, she might get a little overwhelmed and feel pressured to perform. Every couple has their own dynamic, so I can only really talk about ours. I was completely consumed by the first lockups to the point where it became a turn-off for her. Since chastity is long-term play, you really have to be aware of the effect chastity has on both you and your partner. The experiences aren't always the same.:) Talk to her about it, stay open, and try to notice how she's handling everything. Also, be patient and don't get disappointed... this takes practice and can be an adjustment period. Your fantasy of how this will play out will almost certainly differ from reality. Good luck! You might want to start a journey blog.:)

Well it's 5 am and I've now been awake for an hour; I bet you can guess why. I'm starting to think the ring is a bit too big around and wondering if I have the right spacer in place. In hindsight, having this on tonight is both a blessing and a curse: a blessing because the queen had to be away from home overnight, but a curse because it was my first night with it on.

Well I may have figured it out; support is key for day wear. Now to master nights and of course work, which may be interesting as I work in plants as a rotating equipment mechanic.

@hertdtoy got it right. I did all those things last year and my wife got so annoyed that she just gave up and let me cum to shut me up. I still struggle to control myself but have finally stopped sending her URLs, pictures, and information. I am into week 5 with two more weeks to go. Be careful of what you wish for because I wanted to do it weekly or at most every two weeks, but my wife fell in love with teasing and denying me. Now she gets more pleasure out of my chastity than I do. She pushes me longer and longer and is hinting at going until Christmas rather than at the end of this month. The problem is that the more I control myself and don't annoy her, the longer she feels she can make me go. My wife is bi and has not allowed penetration for longer than either of us can remember. If she had her way, I would never cum again; so if I just lay there and take it without a word, she will never let me cum. It is a balancing act.

Well back in my cage today as I stated the other day; the base ring was dealing me some blues due to its design since it's not a real CB brand but rather silicone with grooves. It has been comfortable all day, now for the night. What I would like to know is how do you keep the joint of the ring from separating where its pins go through the ring when putting it on and taking it off, preventing pinching?