Can Older Men Suffer Health Issues From Having Too Many Orgasms? I Wonder.

I swapped out the name of that post-orgasm slump I experience. It goes by several names. My wife has had me in chastity for over a year now. I wear my CB6000s around the clock. In fact, both the cage and one ring have worn out from constant use. For me, it feels very comfortable. Before, I used to reach an orgasm about once a month, but two days ago my wife read an online article claiming that older men can suffer health issues if they have too many ejaculatory orgasms. The gist was how much energy is directed toward the single goal of sex: passing on genes. They mentioned chemical and hormonal losses or reductions, noting that unlike younger men, older men take longer to recover and may feel tired, depressed, and experience a host of other symptoms. I tried to locate the article’s URL but couldn’t find it. Since most articles highlight sexual benefits, this one went against common wisdom. The fact is that I do suffer from some kind of Postorgasmic depression which began two years ago, supporting what she read. My wife has now placed me on a schedule of four orgasms per year and feels even those might be too many; she will see how well I handle the reduced number before cutting it further. There are other reasons why my wife doesn’t mind if I never cum again besides just health, but that is a long tale regarding her unique form of bisexuality. When we agreed to make chastity our lifestyle, it came with a list of requirements that made being a keyholder too much effort for her. I had to agree not to do the things on her list, so I have no say in my own chastity and cannot mention it or try to influence her by sending articles or pictures like I used to.:) For nearly 30 years, my sex life involved both my wife and her girlfriend. Most men are content with one threesome, but I was having several each month, so I owe my wife greatly for giving up control of our sexual lives indefinitely. I enjoyed myself during all that time with two women who were willing to try any crazy fetish I requested. Time to pay the debt, yet oddly enough, I enjoy chastity because it makes me feel better and happier. For more information on Postorgasmic depression go here: … depressed/

> Postorgasmic Illness Syndrom I don't even...

I do become very depressed, fatigued, and disinterested in everything after an orgasm. The last time my wife asked why I was so down, I told her I was bored with it all and not interested in doing anything. When I used to have a few orgasms each week, I would get depressed after every one and then seek another just to feel better again. What I didn't realize was that the orgasms were actually causing my depression; when I cut them way down, I stopped feeling constantly depressed and only got sad and tired after my monthly release. If you search online, you will find many medical sites address post orgasm depression. It is not uncommon. I am on anti depressants, but now that I know the cause of my depression and have greatly reduced the number of my orgasms, I have been able to lower my dosage until my next step is to stop taking them. Here is another perspective on the problem, and it is interesting that chastity alleviates the issue. Perhaps someone should tell the medical profession about the benefits of chastity. ... depressed/

More likely you are dealing with low testosterone and exposure to estrogen-mimicking chemicals. Aside from the standard advice: exercise, get plenty of rest, etc., start cycling supplements that free up testosterone and reduce estrogen - STAY AWAY from prescription quick fixes!!! You will NEVER hear of a man who is not thriving while living life with low T!!

A few things: In your case, I tend to agree with crated51. If I understand your prior posts correctly, you used to have a lot of sex (not sure if I always followed whether your wife allowed you to have sex with her or just others?). If you didn't experience this phenomenon back then, why now? Maybe something like low T changed things? I also feel a letdown after orgasm. That is probably one reason orgasm denial works for us. My wife can tell by how I act toward her if I masturbated. So, I don't masturbate anymore. We both prefer the horny version of me to the satiated version. "Depression" seems like too strong a word; I feel lethargic and irritable. Kinda like Inigo Montoya in The Princess Bride: I have been pursuing sex for so long, now that I've had it, I don't know what to do (haha). When she denies me, I feel euphoric and have much more energy. I wish this weren't the case because I really do enjoy orgasms. It has been like this for quite a while now. Had a physical recently and the doc said I was fine. I also enjoy being locked up in the chastity cage, but out of curiosity, wouldn't the depression you experience be enough to stop you? It is for me. That disappointment she gives me if I masturbated isn't worth the momentary pleasure at all. But yes, I do wish I were locked more frequently.

I see this post orgasm depression theme pretty often on this board but rarely elsewhere. I wonder if people who suffer from it gravitate toward enforced chastity as a way to compensate. I am also older, and after I come, I feel relaxed and very comfortable. I asked Mrs. Lion if she could detect differences in my personality when horny versus sated, and she couldn't see any. Maybe the opposite of depression is what some experience. Could it be that when you are horny and wanting, there is more energy and interest in interacting with the person who can release you? There is an excitement to the "hunt" when horny. I certainly feel it. But after I get to come, I just feel laid back and satisfied.

I've heard of Post-Coital Tristesse before. for Wiki-cite! I don't really feel the lows that most people describe unless I orgasm more than three times in a day.

I tend to agree with what everyone says and am glad others don't think I am off the wall about this. I do agree that depression is too strong a word, but my last two doctors felt that just feeling blah, not sleeping well, and sometimes getting angry are signs of depression. You don't have to look or feel like they show on TV to have it. I take Wellbutrin; if you look it up, you will find that it increases libido and causes very intense orgasms, so I kind of like it for that reason. When my wife and I were both taking it (to quit smoking - Zyban is the same drug), our sex was out of this world with toe-curling painful (in a good way) orgams. We were having sex all the time. I also learned that BDSM is often the refuge for those with depression. We were very into BDSM, and my wife's girlfriend, who lived with us part-time, acted as both Mistress and lover to me. Once I started anti depressants, I lost interest in BDSM, so maybe my doctor is right.:) Like most of you, this is why chastity works out for us. I am starting week 4 with no orgasm and have three more weeks to go; I feel good and not burning up for a release. Last night during our teasing session, I did not even get hard and was happy to end it after just 15 minutes. If I know I won't cum, my penis does not like to play without a lot of effort on my wife's part.

> member_51a04e0869 wrote: > A few things: > In your case, I tend to agree with crated51. If I understand your prior posts, you used to have a lot of sex (not sure if I always follow whether your wife let you have sex with her or just others?). If you didn't experience this phenomenon then, why now? Maybe something like low T changed things? > I too feel a letdown after orgasm. That is probably one reason orgasm denial works for us. My wife can tell by how I act toward her if I masturbated. So, I don't masturbate anymore. We both prefer the horny version of me to the satiated version. > "Depression" seems like too strong a word; I feel lethargic and irritable. Kinda like Inigo Montoya in The Princess Bride: I have been pursuing sex for so long, now that I've had it, I don't know what to do (haha). When she denies me, I feel euphoric and have much more energy. I wish this weren't the case because I really do enjoy orgasms. It has been like this for quite a while now. Had a physical recently and the doc said I was fine. > I also enjoy being locked up in the chastity cage, but out of curiosity, wouldn't the depression you experience be enough to stop you? It is for me. That disappointment she gives me if I masturbated isn't worth the momentary pleasure at all. But yes, I do wish I were locked more frequently. The frequent sex is due to my wife being bisexual and not wanting to have sex with women without me present, but allowing me to do so. Her longtime girlfriend had her own room in our house and split time between living with us and her cuckold husband. She left our life a few years ago. We both miss having her in bed with us. She filled something inside both of us that made sex even better. She provided the rough sex I occasionally like, though my wife does not. She gave my wife someone who thinks emotionally to talk to and enjoy long, gentle, sensuous sex with lots of kissing and foreplay. I provide that for my wife too, but while she liked all of that, I also need some hard, rough sex without the making love part at times. As for depression being enough of a deterrent, it wasn't because if I had several orgasms in a day, there was little to no impact from the condition. My wife has been well aware for a long time that I needed frequent sex; this is also one reason she would find women for me so she could take some load off her shoulders. She never had sex with any other women without me participating, so she wasn't looking for partners just for herself. She considers herself heteroflexible.:) All three of my serious relationships since age 14 have been with bisexual women involving lots of threesomes. That is the situation we know; now that it is gone, I have fewer orgasms as my wife's libido has dropped while mine remains high. This is why chastity works well for us. My wife knows she is free to have outside lovers but doesn't want any right now. She likes things how they are: teasing me twice a week and giving me 6 scheduled orgasm days in 2015, with two of those being optional if she wishes. She makes chastity fun. She has rules preventing me from sexually touching her without permission. I am locked up 24/7, and she replaced my underwear with panties. She wears a key charm around her neck—not the actual key to my lock, just a decorative one. She mixes in some domestic discipline and leaves marks when she gets into it. She is always teasing me somehow and encourages me to view porn to get myself horny. She enjoys an orgasm or two each week; they are very intense, bordering on painful, after teasing for about an hour. My moans of frustration turn her on. She was always turned on by my moans during any BDSM games with either her or her girlfriend. Now the moans come from a different reason but still excite her greatly. All in all, this is the best we have felt since leaving our g/f. We are both happy with our chastity. I feel better than I have in a long time, and my wife likes having control over our sex life and how well behaved I am.:)