Evening Chastity Routine

I’ve been the keyholder for my husband for roughly three years now. He actually asked me to take charge. It took him a few years to persuade me, and it was about a year in before I started really liking it. Now I love it thoroughly and can’t believe I waited so long to start playing. Initially, he stayed locked around the clock for up to two weeks at a stretch, though there were gaps between some of those periods. Lately, we’ve changed things up. He now manages the devices himself and holds the key to them all. When I need him secured, I simply instruct him to lock himself every night before bed (at least until further notice). This keeps him restrained while he’s naked beside me in our sleep. During daylight hours, I let him loose. I trust he won’t cheat by masturbating because this game means a lot to him; not knowing when his next orgasm might come makes him unwilling to risk it, no matter how frustrated he gets. This approach solves hygiene issues and potential irritation while giving him the freedom to work or go about his day. He stays symbolically locked during the day as well, and the anticipation of putting the device on before bed seems to excite him just as much as being fully secured. Occasionally, I add a token to highlight his status by having him wear one of my panties and bra under his clothes. I find this affects his mind more powerfully than the physical device alone, especially when I occasionally tug his bra strap while laughing at him.

My wife started me on this path similarly. At first, I was only locked during the night and whenever she left the house for the day. Like her, I carried the keys with me. Once my urge to masturbate subsided, she decided I should remain in chastity 24/7. I typically take off my device each morning for a quick clean before putting it back on. The reason I stay locked constantly isn’t just about controlling masturbation or symbolism; it’s physical. Remaining sealed denies my penis almost all sensation except what the device provides. It rubs against me throughout the day, keeping me aroused. It limits erections and makes my member highly sensitive to her touch. Plus, since my Holy Trainer V2 is white, I can’t even see my own penis. Many of us start feeling "naked" without our devices. I’ve experienced that myself and feel much more comfortable wearing it consistently. It’s similar to the sensation of wearing a ring, watch, or underwear all the time; you get used to its presence so well that stopping makes you acutely aware of its absence. It also gives my wife chances to remind me who holds control over my penis. If I keep hold of my own keys and remain unlocked for long stretches, I start feeling like I’m in charge rather than her—almost as if I don’t need her involvement in my chastity at all. Now she can cup the device and ask how "her" member is doing. Being locked makes me feel more under her control compared to being unlocked or having easy access to the keys myself. It heightens the entire experience, not just symbolically but practically. I’d say that lack of regular sensation intensifies our teasing sessions significantly; I now crave touch there. The skin has become much more sensitive because it’s well-protected by a slick plastic sheath, so it doesn’t rub against my underwear or feel drafts as easily.:) I’ve also noticed that I used to touch myself constantly during the day without realizing it until I couldn’t anymore. There’s a distinct difference for me between being locked and unlocked. I even got used to wearing the HT when leaving the house. It feels like any other accessory, but if I go out without it, I notice its absence and miss its comfort.:)

My wife believes that once the device is on, it should stay put.

Mine stays secured around the clock and only comes off for teasing or when there’s a risk of discovery—like medical exams or airport security. This arrangement is much easier on both of us, and I always know I’m under her sexual command.

My KH/spouse keeps things fairly straightforward. I wear it at all times while at home, including overnight, with absolutely no unlocked shower time. She usually tells me to remove it if we’re going somewhere together, unless the trip is very short. Her rules have solved my most persistent issue: excessive self-pleasuring. My current biggest challenge, as I approach 30 days since my last full orgasm, is constant erection attempts in bed at night while snuggling with her. She likes spooning and holding hands, which causes me to strain against the new, smaller cage. She won’t admit it, but I think she enjoys my distress a little.

I’m locked all the time as well. She wears her key on a necklace—that’s what KHs do. I don’t quite get why someone would hold their own key, but we’re all different. Now that I’ve been locked for nearly a year, whenever it comes off, I can’t keep my hands to myself. Mrs Cage knows this and uses it to her advantage. If I held the key, everything would be totally different. Forgive the pun, because morning wood IS indeed the hardest part of this lifestyle.

Whether it’s night or day, it makes no difference to me. My KH wife sealed my lock post with adhesive on November 4, 2014. She simply refuses to unlock me for any reason. Fortunately, I don’t need to take off the cage for cleaning, so that isn’t a problem either.

Only three weeks into my long-term chastity and by mutual agreement I’ve been under lock around the clock—except when she wants to play with him, which happens fairly often:) However, this doesn’t mean I’m having orgasms; in fact, they seem less likely as time goes on. That suits me fine... After 15 years of selfish sex from my side, it feels like her turn:-)