Having Plenty of Free Time on My Hands

Forgive me if somebody has already thought of this. Out today looking at all the soon to be spring chores I need to do. I got an idea. The new chastity game.my wife and I would make a list of chores and projects needed in and out of the house. Each item would have a point value according to how hard the job might be. For example mowing the yard might be worth five points and painting a room might be worth 100 points.points would be awarded and tallied up and as soon as you reach a certain total you could redeem your points for certain rewards. An orgasm might cost so many points. Being allowed to masturbate might cost so many points and on and on. I love to give my wife cunnilingus so maybe that would cost me points even though she would be the one to enjoy it. On second thought,maybe I would enjoy it more than her! The ideas could be endless. I could have a beautiful well-maintained home, and my wife would never have to nag at me,although she never does. I’m going to work out the details and maybe contact Milton Bradley! Anyone else play any kind of game like this? I think it has possibilities

Games do not give your wife control of you sex life, the games so. Most of us try games at the beginning but after awhile they get too complicated and you find yourself playing the game rather than practicing chastity. Believe me, you will stop wanting to do all those jobs once the I total excitement goes away. Come back in two months to tell me I am wrong.:). I came up with all sorts of games when we started chastity because my wife was not willing to take control. Soon she found that she was obligated by the game to do things that she had no control over. Then we did what some end up doing; making the tasks selected by the game optional. Once you do that there is no purpose to playing the game. You do not want your chastity to become a chore filled with scoring and record keeping. Most of us have been where you are, but no more. Good luck and don't take control away from your wife or make her a scorekeeper. Just my two cents.

I was just going to say something similar to Len51 Games are so great for people who enjoy them and work really well for kh's that aren't really into taking control. They especially work if the kh knows a guy is competitive and is making it all up on their own. We do not play games because I prefer to be in actual control. It is true that games, dice, spinners etc all are in control and take that away from the kh. They certainly can be fun and exciting and some guys might need to fill their competitive nature and that could help! At any rate, have fun and you'll have to come back and tell us what happens and how it works for you if you do try it out!:)

> member_b22d00cd9c wrote:...Anyone else play any kind of game like this? Yes, we do play a similar game. We changed rules many time looking for the simple game. At the end, we stabilized with very simple rules: I can cum only on Sat and Sun, and only if I deserve it; for no reason I can cum during the week. My wife keeps a very simple score count: +1 if I do something good, -2 if I do something wrong. Then, according the the score, she gives me a full, ruined or no orgasm. Very simple. She does not like to be dominant, but she likes to punish when I do something wrong, so this works veeery well (for us of course). Good luck

> Games are so great for people who enjoy them and work really well for kh's that aren't really into taking control. They especially work if the kh knows a guy is competitive and is making it all up on their own. Absolutely true. Games can suit certain folks very well, at least part of the time. As you pointed out, they are excellent for KHs who lack natural 'controlling' tendencies, as well as those who might feel 'guilty' about restricting pleasure/orgasms or administering penalties/punishment- the KH can say "Hey, it's not *my* fault you are getting (or not getting) [whatever]." Another good thing about 'games' (within the 'Game'), is that they do not have to be played *all* the time. They act as just another tool (or toy) in the box; they can be used when desired and then put away for later use. Partners can also modify them if some part isn't working as well as expected, or when their wants out of it change. > It is true that games, dice, spinners etc all are in control and take that away from the kh. They certainly can be fun and exciting and some guys might need to fill their competitive nature and that could help! Some people enjoy that aspect. I know I do. A well designed game helps partners expand their experiences and adds an element of risk and excitement. It introduces interesting new possibilities which partners might feel too inhibited to attempt otherwise, helping relieve negative feelings associated with wanting to give or receive the experience. The KH does not have to surrender all control permanently via a game. She can allow temporary relinquishment, letting chance and risk determine outcomes (which in my view can be amusing for them). The KH needn't use the game *all* the time but may do so as it pleases/amuses her. Modifications can suit her/their needs. I happen to be a big fan of using games of chance to determine pleasure/punishment/penalties/alternative activities. Used appropriately, they help partners learn new things about themselves and (more importantly?) allow the KH to gain insights into his mind that she can use later (particularly when he must choose between two alternatives), especially if/when the KH is [relatively] inexperienced. (Imagine a penalty scenario- the KH decides some penalty must be implemented, and finds it amusing to let him help select both the penalty type and an element of chance. There are six coffee cans; each contains cards with printed penalties, showing two different options per card. He spins or rolls dice to pick a can number, then draws a card. One side reads "Nipple clamp- 25min", the other says "Give a blow-job to a [realistic] dildo- 10 min." Does he choose the painful option? Or does he avoid pain by selecting the alternative that may be...embarrassing...especially if he is (or becomes) aroused while doing it, which she can leverage to increase his embarrassment. This info proves valuable later for her modifications.) --------------------------------------------------------------- Jeez Len, you are such a 'downer' so much of the time. Lighten up. Just because it didn't work for you doesn't mean it won't work for them. Even if it *doesn't* work for them, they will learn from it; and can either modify it or abandon it. If it works for them, great; if not, that's good too- they can do something different and find what *does* work...and have fun doing it.

I'm not sure my concept will ever really happen because it would need a lot of score tracking, and I don't think my wife/KH are up for that (at least in the current stage of our chastity journey). Plus, I worry I might cheat if I had to keep track! That said, after running errands today and pulling into the driveway, she mentioned we needed some work done on our travel trailer. I thought about it for a moment and decided to go with it. I told her, "Well, there's one way we could get things sorted out. You could tie my being unlocked to working on the trailer." Without missing a beat, she replied, "Okay honey, fix the floor in the trailer." I was pleasantly surprised that this happened so quickly and easily. I had started on the floor a few weeks ago but kind of let it slide afterwards. Looks like I know what I'll be doing when my days are off. And who knows exactly how long it will take! I really like the coffee can game idea. There are plenty of things I'd love to do and try out, though I haven't had the guts to bring them up yet. It could be a fantastic way to introduce these ideas to my wife. I just need to move at a steady pace since I've already learned that lesson: don't try to rush too far ahead.