Why Did We Get Into Chastity?

I searched for this topic but couldn’t find anything related, so please excuse me if it has already been discussed. I am wondering why you got into chastity and whether it met or exceeded your expectations regardless of what they were? For me personally, it was a way to revitalize our nearly non-existent sex life. At first, the journey with chastity had its ups and downs at least. I remained patient despite feeling frustrated, yet persistent enough in my efforts. I am glad I stuck with it because chastity has far surpassed what we expected—our expectations as a couple. Our intimacy is stronger than ever now. We are having amazing sex frequently. Although I do not have orgasms during the lockup, there is still plenty of sexual activity exactly how I enjoy it (feeling horny and frustrated). And best of all, we truly appreciate every part of our new lifestyle together, not just the chastity aspect itself. This was something that had been missing for many years. I must mention that what I imagined chastity would be like differs greatly from my actual experience. Fantasy and reality are indeed two very different things.

"Chastity" emerged for me as a mix of experimenting with restrictive devices (like the 'gates of hell' and 'stallion guard') and realizing that I get aroused by strong, dominant women and being forced into "kinky" activities. Before this shift, I was usually the one taking charge in relationships, even though I had a tendency to pick strong partners; however, I wasn't fully conscious of doing so. It hasn't met *all* my expectations, but honestly, my desires might be slightly more complex and twisted than average people's. It definitely pushes our sex life into overdrive, which is thrilling despite (or perhaps because of?) having fewer orgasms. Additionally, it brings about certain behavioral changes that I believe Mrs. Twisted really enjoys.

For me, it started when I saw an online porn video of a guy being teased inside a cage and thought it looked appealing, so I sought out more content. This led to further research on the topic... The fictional stories were exciting, the practical side of actually living this lifestyle was confirmed by users in this forum, and the prospect of having better sex with more intense orgasms while becoming a better lover for my wife convinced me to at least give it a try. Regarding my expectations, I haven't been doing this long enough yet to provide an answer that would be truly meaningful to you. Shortly after starting out, I was locked up continuously for five straight days during a business trip and received a much-needed orgasm when I got back... It was intense. Then, she made me wait another ten days before allowing release with some breast stimulation... My goodness, I had never produced that volume of cum before. Currently, it has been nine days since my last release, and I am wondering when she will decide to let me come again. I hope the orgasm is as intense or even more so than the previous one. The sex we have between releases has been fantastic, despite being denied release or having to stay caged while pleasuring my KH. She seems simultaneously hornier and more satisfied. It could be because we are still new to this dynamic, but I hope it doesn't change.

> member_d99507a7e8 wrote:I am curious as to why you got into chastity and has it met or exceeded your expectations no matter what they were? YES. Next month, my wife and I will mark the fifth anniversary of me being chaste. She mentioned just last month that our sex life in these past four-plus years has been better than during the previous fifteen combined.:shock: I thought it was pretty good back then too, but now I realize it was good for me while not quite so great for her. My main focus is on pleasing her, and achieving that goal gives me immense satisfaction. It really is a win-win scenario for both of us. Neither she nor I have any desire to end this arrangement.:D

> member_d99507a7e8 wrote:I am curious as to why you got into chastity and has it met or exceeded your expectations no matter what they were? At first, it was just another kink I wanted to explore. Our marriage had fallen into a routine rut, so this was an attempt to liven things up entirely on my part. My wife/KH wasn't particularly interested for quite some time initially. It has greatly exceeded our expectations; our marriage is much improved and the sex is outstanding. She is significantly happier, and I am too. > member_d99507a7e8 wrote:I do have to say that what I thought chastity was going to be like and what I have experienced aren't even close to each other. That holds true for me as well. I assumed it would center around my needs, but it isn't. I never anticipated changing so much as a husband; becoming far more attentive to her and what she desires has been the surprise. I am currently at six days locked up 24/7 and ready for anything; I would do nearly everything to get unlocked and have fun again, which she knows about and enjoys.

For me it began as a kink I had observed in porn videos when I finally purchased a device. It took forever to get my Wife on board and then there were several false starts before we reached our current state. Now she loves it so much, and we have established a very good rhythm. With my new MM Queens Keep fitting almost perfectly, she wants us to try 24/7/365 this year. In fact, it has come to the point where she is making me check my luggage for an upcoming business trip so that I can lock myself in with numbered keys during the three days I am away. There is no turning back now.

I have been married for thirty years this year. Throughout the marriage, I was always frustrated by the quantity of sex we had. I made up for it through frequent masturbation and a rich fantasy life. Last late last year, I stumbled upon chastity and thought it might be the solution for me. Interestingly, now I cum less often but enjoy our shared sex life more. For my part, I love having my wife in control of both my cock and my orgasms. This has allowed me to be more honest with her about my submissive kinks. She was initially hesitant to try this "game" with me but has since warmed up to the idea, leading to significant changes in our dynamic over the last few months. I don't know exactly where we will end up far into the future, but I know it is something I want to pursue long-term. I already have an MM jailbird on my construction list and am anxiously waiting for its arrival.

We’ve been wedded twenty-six years and have tried chastity many times at my behest to curb a masturbation habit. Even back when our sex life was roaring early on, I’d still jerk off two or three times daily. Once MrsL found a new way to get involved, she finally saw the beauty of holding power over my orgasms. Since January, I’ve been capped with just two allowed releases and locked around the clock, except for CrossFit sessions. Before, she always talked me into unlocking when travel came up...which ruined the point. This time, she said not to even mention it, so I didn’t. She told me this morning that she might be ready to raise us to a whole new level....which is absolutely fantastic! Yesterday I asked about ordering a custom-fit steel cage....SHE SAID YES!!! Taking measurements next weekend and moving ahead.

I have to admit I’m impressed, gentlemen. It’s clear we march to a different tune than the stereotypical "so-called" macho men. I used to be one of those guys and there is no way back for me. There is no changing our current relationship. Keep them coming, folks. (Posts, that is!):lol:

I’ve written over half a million words on this already. The bottom line is it seemed thrilling to give up sexual control. After fifteen years of thinking about it, I asked Mrs. Lion. We have been actively practicing enforced chastity for more than a year. I like coming. I like being controlled. I love the attention. Before lockup, our sex life had mostly vanished. It’s back again in its own way. We are closer and happier. There are many challenges as we struggle to get things right. Neither of us wants to quit.

I’ve written about our first time stumbling onto male orgasm denial before in the archived discussion. That remains one of our hottest sex experiences. During our heavy child-rearing years, our sex life plummeted. She was constantly tired and "not in the mood" while I grew increasingly frustrated. I wasn’t much of a message board person, but I came across some boards about male orgasm denial and cuckolding. At that time, I was being denied sex but in a very un-erotic way. I was surprised how much that turned me on, sort of eroticizing what had been a major source of frustration. As I was often horny as hell while my wife passed out, I just read more about it and "came out" to her regarding my kinky desires. I’m very happy she accepted them. There is certainly a submission side for me here. Another motivation is that I always felt like I had to coerce my wife into having sex with me. It wasn’t something she necessarily wanted (she has a low libido), but would "cave in" just to stop my pestering. I think her not feeling "obligated" and sex being primarily about pleasing her has totally squashed that idea now. It took my wife a while to wrap her head around the fact that not getting off was very arousing for me. We’ve since ventured into other kinks, and my very vanilla wife has surprised the heck out of me with some of the things she’s done. Another bottom-line explanation is that I’ve always known I’m a kinky person, and I’m the type of guy who likes to explore...

> member_b22d00cd9c wrote: > I've been married for 30 years this year. Always frustrated with the quantity of sex in our marriage. > I made up for it with a lot of masterbation and a rich fantasy life. Stumbled onto chastity late last year and thought it might be an answer for me. Funny, now I cum less and enjoy our sex life more. For me, I love having my wife in control of my cock and my orgasms. I've been able to be more honest with her about my submissive kinks. She was hesitant to try this "game" with me but has since warmed to the idea and things have really changed in the last few months. Don't know where we will be far into the future but I know it's something I want to do long term. I've got s MM jailbird on the build list and anxiously waiting. same as for me after marry for so long sex was like dropping out of picture i was masturbating to much porn our marriage falling apart did some research an hence lock in cb3000 pick up our marrige an never been better