Blog-style notes for my wife

My wife and I rarely discuss our sex life out loud. It’s not that I’m unwilling to, but she keeps things private. What has developed instead is what I’d call my personal blogs directed at her. I’ve started writing notes to share how I feel and what I desire. They’re somewhat similar to the blog-style posts some members here create, though mine have been one-way so far. Some of these messages contain fantasies I might never show her now but could reveal later as our relationship grows. Occasionally I get the sense that I’m taking charge from a subordinate position, yet for me it’s a comfortable way to communicate and I enjoy writing them. Hopefully she’ll eventually join in by writing back on her own, we shall see.

She doesn't feel at ease talking to you about sexual matters? How do you truly know what she enjoys? And how long have the two of you been together?

I follow a similar approach since I'm obliged to write a "report" for MsM every Tuesday. It covers the events of the past week along with my feelings and fantasies. I find it wonderful because it allows me to speak freely without worrying too much.

Yes, communication is crucial—no matter how you prefer to do it—and I often discuss its importance on our blog. It's great that you have an outlet for expression... Perhaps she will begin commenting back or writing notes soon; time is on your side.:)

We'll have been married for thirty years next month. We communicate quite well generally, just not very openly when it comes to discussing sex. I want to change that dynamic and am already noticing improvements since beginning my time in chastity. The thing is, once we are in bed together, she can transform from a nun into an entirely different person. Just last week, while I was pleasuring her, she teased me by asking if I had bought the butt plug she said she told me to purchase!! Then she went on to say that she wanted me to have it inserted during work hours and keep wearing it until I returned home! So I know there are a few kinks hiding in her mind. I just need to find the key to unlock them.

Well, simply keep being supportive and help make her feel comfortable with everything related to her sexuality. I am confident she will eventually open up more to you. As you mentioned, it seems like there are some interesting and fun ideas floating around in her head.:)

I really appreciate this concept. Our blog is online and has provided an excellent opportunity to share things we might not otherwise discuss verbally. We have made countless course corrections, resolved misunderstandings, and established preferences and dislikes using this medium. Blogs don't need to be public. You can set up a private blog on by making password-protected posts the default setting. The advantage of an online record is that you both can easily refer back to earlier entries. Our public blog has nearly 800 posts now, with each of us writing one daily. Aside from offering resources for others, all these posts chronicle our progress and give us an invaluable tool.

That's a wonderful idea Tame Lion and I'll definitely look into it. She might be more inclined to respond using that method. On another note, I really enjoy your blog and feel like I've learned much from your writings. Sometimes I feel as though I'm navigating a wide river, so it is nice having guideposts to help steer me in the right direction.

> member_b22d00cd9c wrote: That's a wonderful idea Tame Lion and I'll definitely look into it. She might be more inclined to respond using that method. On another note, I really enjoy your blog and feel like I've learned much from your writings. Sometimes I feel as though I'm navigating a wide river, so it is nice having guideposts to help steer me in the right direction. Thank you for the kind words. We have been trying to blaze our trail for over a year now. I am happy that we can be of some assistance to you. Please do not hesitate to comment on the blog; we love hearing from readers.