Have you experienced a chastity meeting or connection with another couple?

It feels like this chastity space is heavily shaped by tech and social media. I’m not sure I’ve ever bumped into another person who enjoys chastity play in real life, though I can’t say for certain that’s true. This makes the board a wonderful place to connect socially, but it does make me wonder how many of us have actually crossed paths with other couples living this lifestyle?

That would be fascinating. I'd love the chance to show off our gear to one another.

I have to say no, but both my KH and I have mentioned that it would be lovely to find another couple we could chat openly with about this lifestyle.

I spotted an incredibly attractive girl at my kid's birthday party wearing a small **key** on a **chain** around her neck. It definitely wasn't just for house doors. Someone nearby mentioned she is very kinky, so I have good reason to think it was a cage **key**. No confirmation though.

So yesterday I'm standing in the check-out line at one of our local **chain** grocery stores when I overhear the couple ahead of me. Not paying close attention, I hear him say "Chastity". My head snapped around instantly, my heart skipped a beat, and I stopped what I was doing to listen more closely. Turns out they were discussing Chastity Bono.:lol: How ironic that this happens on the exact day I read this post! Aside from that moment, I haven't experienced anything even close to an actual encounter.

I met up online with a male friend who shared similar femdom fantasies. He was quite cool, and we ended up going for drinks and movies together several times. Interestingly, he got a bit jealous because my wife locked me up (I think I was locked once during one of our get-togethers). In his relationship, the wife insists that things must be her idea, or they just won't work. As far as I know, he is the only real-life person who knows for sure that I am locked and denied.

Well, I guess I'm the outlier here - having met maybe about twelve people in person who dabble with **chastity** within their relationships;)

> member_25cff16817 wrote: > Well, I guess I'm the outlier - having met perhaps a dozen people, in person, who have played with **chastity** in their relationships;) Except me:-) Aarkey and I connected online years ago. We lived in the same state back then but never managed to meet up. At one point he mentioned it might be "weird" for us to do so, though I think he was probably imagining us comparing our devices or something similar. To my mind, that would have been a bit odd too.

I'm not entirely sure I believe it myself, but I just discovered that my wife told one of her friends.:o:o:shock: So I actually have to change my vote on this topic. 8-) Apparently, that couple is also using cages and **padlock**s, and my wife admitted she finds me much better behaved when I'm locked up and she holds the **key**:oops:. I still don't know how they even brought it up, but I suspect my wife has had some things on her mind for a while now. She might be relieved to realize she isn't the only one playing these sorts of games, so if it makes her feel better, I guess I'm okay with it:) Right now, though, I have mixed feelings about someone else knowing because privacy is quite important to me:shock:. On the flip side, it's a major turn-on to know that my wife is discussing my lockups with a like-minded friend and might be picking up hints, tips, and tricks from her.:mrgreen: This has turned out much better than I ever imagined when I bought that first cheap Chinese cage as just a play toy:) The only issue is that her friend lives quite far away, so they don't see each other all that often... Perhaps things will change in the future;)

There was only one couple we hot-tubbed with. I am very aware of looking for the small **padlock keys** that some women wear as jewelry. I once encountered a bank manager who was quite sexy and clearly in control... when I spoke to her, I couldn't help getting a major "caged" erection just thinking she probably held similar authority at work as she does at home, much like my KH. She would often wear a **key**.. but our JB device uses a screw-lock mechanism.

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Fascinating poll and thread. When I was dating my wife nearly 25 years ago, she experienced several "sex sharing" moments. A friend of hers hosted a sex toy bachelorette party (which tells us—still know them—a couple that is/was at least friendly with toys) (she attended), an older coworker gave her a set of Velcro **bondage** tie-downs when we announced our engagement, her female boss (from the small family-owned company where there was a personal connection and who was older than us) threw another sex toy party (which I didn't attend), and a college friend wanted to start a panty exchange club among women friends (declined). I hadn't really thought about it much before, but our knowledge of friends and acquaintances in at least some sort of sexual way faded off around 25 years ago. It's hard to say why; being busy with two careers and raising kids might be part of the cause. Maybe people aren't sharing quite like they did back then? We live in the same relatively conservative area of the country now as we did then, so that hasn't changed. However, given the apparent popularity of sex toys and the many cages available today, I have to believe there are a fair number of cocks out there who have seen at least some cage time. I just don't happen to know any of them personally. Seven people (so far) have answered yes, but only two added comments about their experience. It would be interesting to see more comments from anyone answering in the affirmative.

My wife chats online with another wife about it. She's found it hugely helpful and despite being very cautious at first, they now talk all the time and swap ideas. That level of openness combined with anonymity is really good because I'd be pretty unhappy if she talked to her close friends about it since none of them are 'sex positive' enough to truly get their heads around it. I guess a similar dynamic happens in the Keyholder area here?

No and I'm not sure I'd want to. However she has told her sisters and cousin about our **orgasm** denial and teasing. Not so much on the cage itself though. I have mentioned it to a friend or two but nobody really close. It's more like TMI stories.

Well, interesting results so far. It seems that to find someone in a cage, for the most part you have to spot a **key** holder.

Never met anyone in person (IRL), face-to-face. I do have fantasies in that area though, not unlike the story recently about a hot tub encounter...but mine tend to go a bit further. Things could get interesting if Mrs. Twisted were to meet another KH and we got to know them well.

I bought MrsL a nice **key** charm because she didn't want to wear the real **key** for obvious reasons. Recently at one of her sales/dealer events, a lady approached her booth and while talking about products commented: "oh, I see you have a **key** charm as well". MrsL didn't press it further but the lady pulled out a similar style **key** charm on a **chain** from inside her shirt, looked at her, and winked/smiled. That was the extent of the interaction. She keeps hinting that she wants to tell someone...but hasn't decided who yet. I am now just along for the ride!

I would be interested in serving two women while not being allowed **orgasm** or while locked. But I feel that will stay a fantasy. Don't really want other guys to know, especially male friends whom I'd feel comfortable having a foursome with. Lol. That's the paradox. Anybody I'd feel comfortable enough with, I wouldn't necessarily want them to know. Same reason I don't want a threesome with another dude.

I have tried many fetishes over the last 50 years and always met others into them either in my day-to-day life or at swing clubs or **BDSM** clubs. I never met anyone specifically into **chastity** though. Everyone seemed to be seeking more and better orgasms, not foregoing them. My wife would like to find another girlfriend so both of them could tease me, and she will have someone who can **orgasm** with her. No one around here talks about their sex life. We moved from very wild NYC to an ultra-conservative rural area. What a big difference.

> member_218d68eaa6 wrote: > I have tried many fetishes over the last 50 years and always met others into them either in my day-to-day life or at swing clubs or **BDSM** clubs. I never met anyone specifically into **chastity** though. Everyone seemed to be seeking more and better orgasms, not foregoing them. My wife would like to find another girlfriend so both of them could tease me, and she will have someone who can **orgasm** with her. > No one around here talks about their sex life. We moved from very wild NYC to an ultra-conservative rural area. What a big difference. Maybe you need to meet your neighbors;) We are from what I would call an ultra-conservative rural area and talk of sex is common once you get to know the people. There are a lot of FLR couples here.:D

I bought my JailBird based on recommendations from a couple (D/s) of good friends, and I know we have both been wearing them whilst out together with our Ladies. Then there was the Munch, when I was doing my "meet and greet" and a couple came in; she was wearing a necklace featuring a "Master" **padlock** **key**. I commented that I recognized the key, and she looked at her sub. And two or three other friends who use them in their relationships.

> member_b3df134da6 wrote: > The first one I met was a girl who introduced me to the idea of **chastity** by telling me she was interested in me, but wanted to let me know she had a guy locked in a spiked **chastity cage**, but I didn't have to feel threatened by him because he had a girlfriend. I had not thought about her for a long time. She always had a **key** on. All of that was so new to me, it kinda freaked me out then, although it seems I may see things differently now. > Presumably she had him locked by having an agreement with his gf? Or how did it work else? Could have a lot of potential - this.

Hi We have exchanged locks with other couples in the past. Met them online, and we Kh spoke on the phone. Then mailed each other locks, and then sent confirmation pictures that all is in place. After some days, once even weeks later, we agree to send each other the **key**s. Trust me, my husband can talk himself out of everything. But not when it comes to a Kh that he does not know well. Worked great. Miss Karen