chastity is also needed by some men who are gay

Hi I only say that because everyone here seems to be straight. That’s fine, you are in the majority after all! I started masturbating when I was 11, about four or five times a day for most of my teenage years. I didn’t have my first sexual partner until I was nearly 30 - quite a bit of wanking! Even though I love my partner dearly, I never stopped masturbating during our 18-year relationship. I felt guilty every time. I kept it secret, doing it when he was out. I enjoyed watching porn and edging. When I work from home or am alone at home, I can spend four or five hours on masturbation. I’ve tried to stop in the past but just couldn’t. This meant that there were times when he wanted sex and I wasn’t up for it, having cum earlier that day or previously. I haven’t had an orgasm since Monday. That may not sound impressive to some, but for me it’s quite an achievement. My partner is overwhelmed with all the attention he is getting. Last night we had the best sex in years. And I never achieved orgasm - because I didn’t want to. I’ve ordered a device because my partner will be back at work on Monday and I’ll be home alone again. I dare not trust myself. Carpet fitters are coming in the morning, leaving just the afternoon for me to occupy myself. Hopefully, I’ll be locked away by then. OK, I have the key but it helps. I also know that my partner will immediately tell if I have cum. I won’t be the same person again. On Monday night he is out with friends. He will hold the key by then. So I’m coping using the honor system right now. At this moment I don’t care whether I ever have another orgasm. Though I’m sure I will. But when I do, it will be shared with my partner. I will certainly experience fewer orgasms. My partner however will be having more sex than he’s ever had. I’m posting this little missive because I hope to finally crack this problem. Wish me luck

I'm replying because I am also a gay man, and joined this site just a few hours ago while wondering whether I might be the only one here. So mainly I wanted to say hi. My situation is different - I live with a partner and we haven't had sex for about a decade, but I am reasonably regularly serving a Master who likes to discipline me and is interested in putting me into chastity. That is something that I have tried before and find very erotic as a form of submission. I am considering what cage to buy (I am currently wearing an ill-fitting one) and how I can build chastity into my lifestyle. Hoping to get tips and inspiration from here and maybe make friends.

You're right that, as in the world, most here are not gay. Don't let that discourage you though. I think if you read some of the older posts you'll find there's some gays here although they don't seem to stay active. Another thing you'll find is quite a few of these straight guys here have a fantasy of participating in gay sex, oral and anal. Using the word "gay" in the search box, in the upper right, resulted in 28 pages of posts containing this. There's also a thread titled *"Any gay members?"* You may want to check it out. I feel you can be comfortable here and not worry about any conflicts because of your sexual orientation. The only thing we ask is that your keyholder doesn't confer with the women here to give them insider information how to make our containment worse.;)

> member_75c78a1ec7 wrote: The only thing we ask is that your keyholder doesn't confer with the women here to give them insider information how to make our containment worse.;) Yeah. What he said. My wife doesn't need any more ideas!:lol: We welcome all cool people here.

> member_75c78a1ec7 wrote: You're right that, as in the world, most here are not gay. Don't let that discourage you though. I think if you read some of the older post you'll find there's some gays here although they don't seem to stay active. Another thing you'll find is quite a few of these straight guys here have a fantasy of participating in gay sex, oral and anal. > Using the word "gay" in the search box, in the upper right, resulted in 28 pages of posts containing this. There's also a thread titled *"Any gay members?"* You may want to check it out. > I feel you can be comfortable here and not worry about any conflicts because of your sexual orientation. > The only thing we ask is that your keyholder doesn't confer with the women here to give them insider information how to make our containment worse.;) Well said.

Keep in mind that a device doesn't care if your penis is straight or gay. It's going to work just the same, no matter your orientation. And that's one of the reasons we try to "keep it real" around here - you're going to have a period of adapting, and you'll have questions. The practical aspects of wearing a device - comfort, convenience, and security - will be the same for everyone, so all benefit from the discussions. > member_75c78a1ec7 wrote: The only thing we ask is that your keyholder doesn't confer with the women here to give them insider information how to make our containment worse.;) :lol:

Thanks for these welcoming comments Robsleaze - wow! master-slave wow! Really exciting. Love to try that but would be waaaay too afraid. My partner is sexually very conservative so got to go slow in adapting to a device, let alone anything more...exotic! Just an update on my device - it's crap and is packaged up ready to return. Bugger! Need a device quick but ought to take the custom route - not quick. Don't know what to do. Whilst I'm desperate to remain chaste, I don't believe I will get through all next week unprotected. Help!

> member_e87716bb8c wrote: Thanks for these welcoming comments > Robsleaze - wow! master-slave wow! Really exciting. Love to try that but would be waaaay too afraid. My partner is sexually very conservative so got to go slow in adapting to a device, let alone anything more...exotic! Don't get too excited Bomd - I said that I have a Master but not that I'm his slave. Apart from anything else I don't live with him but have another partner who knows nothing about him or my deep desires. If I could choose the perfect life I would without question be a kept slave - but that's not about to happen and I am content with my compromises. Apart from anything else in my perfect fantasy life I am 26 years old and I never get ill and never get older! But in reality my Master does beat me and uses me for sex, expects me to show humility and to be obedient, all of which is great.