A Week's Worth of Chastity Play

I’ve been posting here as “tcs” for a long time. I just switched my login. It feels like an eternity, over six months since we last engaged in chastity play. The past week has given us quite the boost. I am currently on Day 6 of wearing the Jailbird cage. I took it off briefly this morning to check that everything was fine. It seems our activity picks up after trips together happen as well. She had her period this week, which made it a good time for play. The best part is my wife, J, really seems into it. She told me to wear the cage on Sunday. I felt somewhat buzzed throughout the workweek and struggled to focus at the office. On the other hand, getting out of bed was tough, but the JB tends to jolt me awake in the early hours, so I started my day earlier. Yesterday was particularly hot. We did some text role-play and managed lunch together. We fooled around quite a bit last night with the JB staying on. “One more day,” she said. That was the hardest part. I had more trouble with ballburn this morning, which is when I finally took the cage off. She told me that I am much more attentive and patient while wearing it, so she wants me to put it back on. I’m 50/50 on whether this will last through the weekend. She grabbed my cage a lot more during our fooling around last night, which is unusual since she is usually more ambivalent. I could barely feel her fingertips pressing through the metal yet had to slow down occasionally. We have been together for almost 20 years and have plenty of experience with various kinks. With life getting in the way, this has been our most significant D/s play session since spring. Still, it feels new again. So, it’s Saturday morning and a few things are on my mind: How long will she want to keep this up? Usually, she finds this tedious by now and ends the ride. I intentionally tried not to pester her with details about my situation this week. Instead, I focused on other things that might turn her on. Should I try jogging with it on? I’ve done this once or twice without issue. Will I be able to concentrate if I keep wearing it? If the play continues, how can I organize myself so we have passion when together, but I am not totally obsessed and unable to do anything else? That is something I struggle with.

You can get through ballburn without unlocking. Have you tried applying some lotion, moisturizer, or silicone lube under the bottom of the ring? Also, keep that part stretched side-to-side to avoid getting the skin pinching together or doubling on itself. That causes quite a bit of ballburn. To prevent irritation during exercise activities, I use a sports lubricant in a roll-on bottle. Before putting on my jockstrap, I lay some lube under the bottom and sides of the ring. That helps significantly; before that change, chafing would start after 30 minutes of spinning. The longer you stay locked, the more your mind and body get used to it. Soon you will find yourself forgetting that you are locked up. It becomes part of who you are. You'll be able to concentrate with no problems.

Thanks for the encouragement. I have tried some methods before this little episode has been more impromptu, so I need to manage things better. My wife is more interested this time around, which adds a new layer of diminution. Other times she's been distracted by other things or just "meh". I keep thinking this will fizzle out before I really adjust, but being caged for a week straight at her encouragement is exciting.

Welcome back tcs, ahem. . . I mean fuzzydunlop > member_d601666aa2 wrote:How long will she want to keep this up? Usually she finds this tedious by now and the ride is over. I intentionally tried not to pester her with the details of my circumstances this week. Instead, I tried to focus on other things that might turn her on. Exactly. You mentioned she said you are more attentive while locked; well, keep it up. It will be a win-win for both of you. > member_d601666aa2 wrote:Should I try to jog with it on? I've done this once or twice and been ok. Wear supportive underwear and you should be fine > member_d601666aa2 wrote:Will I be able to concentrate if I keep this up? Remember the first time you put a ring on your finger. It was very noticeable with me for a few weeks, and then it just became part of me. The same will happen with you, but it takes time. Once properly adjusted, you should be fine. Find yourself a good lube like ManagedMan suggested. Keep some in your bathroom, car, and workplace. Anytime you feel the "ball burn", apply a little dab to the area. > member_d601666aa2 wrote:IF the play continues, how can I organize myself so we have passion when we are together, but I am not totally obsessed and cannot do anything else? I am bad at this. Not IF, but WHEN the play continues:D let her organize the passion.

For me, silicone lube applied with a Q-tip works well for 'ball burn', and lasts pretty much all night through the next day.

Well, the chastity streak ended Saturday night. I can't really complain that things got very heated and the finish was very hot. I do end up with some mixed feelings afterwards because it takes so much energy to get back to that point. As of Monday morning, we have had some hot talk but I am still a free man.