Anyone Else Denied Erections Too?

My keyholder enjoys strict and very restrictive denial. We included a “no unlocked/unsupervised erections” clause in our chastity contract. Essentially, I stay soft while cleaning up, or if I’m outside the house without being caged because the cage is too obvious or limiting, etc. Being over 50, this hasn’t been as hard as expected; realistically, I only have an unlocked erection a few times each month. An erect state happens in my device nearly all the time now. My understanding of arousal has shifted over the last year to something that occurs while locked. Since I can’t be caged absolutely constantly, the deal is no erections. Do others find their relationship with their genitals changes too? Those on 24/7 chastity (I’m in there about 80% of the time) probably relate. How has your perspective shifted regarding what your genitals are and how they function? Is it better, worse, or just different?

This is quite fascinating. I'm doubtful that I'd personally take the no-erection path. Also, I don't wear a cage. But I am into chastity despite having sex with my wife. The thing is, even when we have intercourse, I don't finish; I pull out before climaxing and often don't ejaculate outside her body either. I've been in total chastity like this for three months and three weeks—though it's more "chastity with benefits" because I still get to fuck. But your extreme 'no erections' setup is intriguing. I'd assume you aren't getting orgasms either. And likely, you don't have intercourse with your wife much. So how does she handle her sexual needs? Does she see someone else?

We mostly use a strap-on for sex. Occasionally we use the original equipment (natural intercourse), but rarely—maybe a few times yearly. My keyholder is also a good friend of ours, which is a long story in itself, but it works well for us. Regarding sex, I've practiced Tantric methods for over ten years, so like you, I don't feel the need to orgasm during intercourse and haven't for quite some time. For me, we have ruined orgasms to prevent mood drops afterward. It's not that erections never happen; it's just that they only occur if supervised and requested, which is rare but distinct from being completely denied.

When the 'game' is active, I'm generally locked up for weeks or even months without release, often spanning a period of 18-24 months. Most of my erections happen while confined in the cage. Full, uncaged erections only occur when she wants to tease me and then lock it back up, or during 'allowed' orgasms. (One of my limits is having no more than three months between orgasms—long enough for her to make me incredibly horny and desperate. I think if orgasms were taken away entirely from me, I'd lose motivation to participate—you have to give the donkey a carrot every so often or it loses its value.) We've noticed that being caged for long periods reduces skin elasticity, so when an erection is allowed later, the skin feels very 'tight' and prone to chafing. Normal intercourse can be painful, with rougher handling being even worse. Since she enjoys slapping/spanking my cock, this must be avoided (the thought of my cock splitting open like a cooked hotdog is quite unsettling). Getting a full erection every week or two helps maintain proper condition and function. I have to say it was delightful waking up with a full erection that I could rub. I've really enjoyed my 'freedom' over the past year, though she seems poised to end it... which leaves me incredibly horny.

The mere fact that my KH doesn't allow an erection....would give one to her!

> member_b764c32ac7 wrote: > Just the fact that my KH does not allow me to have an erection....would give me an erection! +1 To clarify, I still count a caged erection as "an erection." There's still a noticeable bulge at the base and the flesh presses against the bars... sensitivity remains high whether caged or free. Just because it curves oddly rather than sticking straight out doesn't mean an erection isn't happening (in my humble opinion).

For us, only unlocked erections count. She loves it when I'm aroused while locked up. Having one outside her request or presence has serious consequences. > member_f4d8bd2438 wrote: > > member_b764c32ac7 wrote: > > Just the fact that my KH does not allow me to have an erection....would give me an erection! > > +1 >To be clear, I still consider a caged erection "an erection." There is still a significant bulge at the root and the flesh is pressing the bars... sensitivity is very high, caged or free. Just because it's oddly curved and not poking straight out doesn't mean an erection isn't occurring (in my humble opinion).

My wife became quite unsympathetic to my complaints about missing out on erections. I offered to do the work (uncaging, teasing, and recaging) but she wasn't interested in letting me out. I had no idea how good an erection feels after being denied 'full extension' for weeks. She didn't forbid them outright but expected me to just live with it.

That's the rule here too. My wife started by denying orgasms but got annoyed that I was getting erect anyway, so I switched to the smallest Jailbird cage at 1 1/4 inches. Now if I start to harden, the skin on my penis pushes out through the openings and pulls the ring forward until it hurts a bit. The current issue is that I struggle to get hard after being locked constantly. Until recently, I was unlocked for our weekly edging session; now I stay caged during sex too. Erections have become a reward for me rather than an orgasm.

Great to connect with other guys in similar situations! I get allowed erections on rare occasions when 'I'm needed for (no cumming) sex', and once a month to quickly clear out while she watches. She loves seeing me struggle and fuss, so finding it harder to erect pleases her. Occasionally I get unlocked so she can apply some cruel "toys" to my man parts. This doesn't always require or result in arousal. Essentially, we're working toward creating a sense that I am willingly impotent, with her owning control over when I can have an erection. Everyone is different of course, and yes, we have our quirks, but it's fun seeing what you can adapt to under pressure, and learning to appreciate things you never thought possible before. Like Vinnie mentioned regarding erections being the reward instead of orgasm. It's amazing how much pleasure you can find in small details.

This no-erection approach is very extreme. But I imagine it's fun. I hope the wife or girlfriend still receives many orgasms during this period of no erections that the man endures (or enjoys—depending on your perspective).

> member_0ecdfbd9a4 wrote: > This no-erection thing is very extreme. But fun, I imagine. I hope that the wife or girlfriend still gets many orgasms during these no erections period that the man has to endure (or enjoy--depending on her you look at it). My wife and my keyholder are two different people. My wife prefers toys, so we use a strap-on 99% of the time. My keyholder enjoys BDSM and denial. We don't spend more than a few days together each month for kink activities, although we hang out quite often; during those times things remain fairly vanilla to avoid jealousy or conflict. Going without erections makes all intimate experiences much more intense though. I do get one supervised ruined orgasm per month. Having a keyholder to serve is totally worth it.

I've been locked 24/7 for three years now, with only internal cage stirrings as my eractions. My Domme Wife/keyholder is quite strict and has gradually moved me into smaller cages. My current one is a stainless steel "Attica Hell 1.5" (a Chinese knockoff purchased via Amazon), which is well-made and fits very well. It's tight and has successfully prevented all types of erections, including nocturnal ones.

Samleo_1999, does this mean you haven't had an orgasm in those three years? You've gone without erections, but have you still managed orgasms during that time?

Yep. My wife is afraid of accidents similar to past experiences, so I remain caged for sex.

> member_0ecdfbd9a4 wrote: > This no-erection thing is very extreme. But fun, I imagine. I hope that the wife or girlfriend still gets many orgasms during these no erections period that the man has to endure (or enjoy--depending on her you look at it). I don't allow my subbie any either. And yes, certainly get all I want in that department.:D:D:D

> member_0ecdfbd9a4 wrote: > This is very interesting. I am not sure that I, personally, would go down that road of no erections. And anyway I am not caged. But I am into chastity, though I fuck my wife. It's just that, though I fuck her, I do not come, I do not orgasm: I pull out before I do and even then I do not ejaculate outside her body. I have been three months and three weeks in total chastity like this--well, it's more like "chastity with benefits" since I do get to fuck. > > But your extreme situation of 'no erections' is very interesting. I would guess that do not get orgasms either. I would also guess that you do not fuck your wife. So what does your wife do for sex? Does she have a lover? Sounds very similar to my case, except usually the dynamic involves her teasing my cock until I'm super horny, then me making love to her with my tongue until she cums. We only fuck about once per month. Kudos on three months in chastity without a cage! My personal best so far is just under one month.