My wife has surprised me with her approach to chastity

We kicked this off roughly a year and ten months back, and I suspect like many of you, my wife initially thought I was crazy. I won’t walk through every step from her (and my) perspective, but the current stage is quite intriguing. She adores teasing me. Truly loves it to no end. That wasn’t what I anticipated. She remains a kind, thoughtful, and considerate person. Yet she manages to get me so riled up that I find myself crying several times each week. She enjoys sending me off to work leaking profusely, all worked up and thinking of little else for a while. Even when she isn’t in the mood, she still teases me occasionally just because. So, is this typical? (We are middle-aged with quite some marriage behind us.)

> member_53df7da97a wrote: > She adores teasing me. Truly loves it to no end. That wasn't what I anticipated. She remains a kind, thoughtful, and considerate person. Yet she manages to get me so riled up that I find myself crying several times each week. She enjoys sending me off to work leaking profusely, all worked up and thinking of little else for a while. Even when she isn't in the mood, she still teases me occasionally just because. > So, is this typical? (We are middle-aged with quite some marriage behind us.) I believe it can be fairly common; my wife really enjoys it as well.

My wife has grown quite fond of T&D. She also loves taking charge in the bedroom. Before we began our chastity journey, I wanted her to take more control there, but she always refused because she insisted I needed to play the role of "the man". Now, she has done a complete 180-degree turn. She takes control all the time, every single instance. Neither of us would have it any other way!

We've been at this for four or five years now, around the clock. My wife went from being a reluctant key holder to someone who doesn't want me to orgasm at all. She's done a lot of reading, and given I am 66, my prostate health would only see a small benefit with something like 100 orgasms monthly. She says there truly is no need for me to . orgasm, but time will tell. She allows it only if she senses mental or physical distress in me. I find myself in a unique spot. Long story short, my wife is bisexual and prefers sex with women. We haven't had intercourse in two decades. While she loves me deeply, the lust has faded for her. She would prefer no sex or orgasms from me at all, but because of her love, she permits me to kiss her while she uses her vibrator once a week as I remain locked. It might sound harsh and unfair, yet I am content with it. First, it is exciting knowing she truly prefers that I never orgasm again and has little use for my penis. Second, I feel I owe her for the 1,500+ FFM threesomes and other group or wild experiences we shared. As she puts it, she won't live long enough to catch up with the number of orgasms I've had in life. My masturbation stats beat hers slightly.:) So watch out what you wish for. My wife went from forcing me to orgasm to preferring that I never do again. We are nearing a point where I am mostly doing this for her pleasure, not mine.

Congratulations! I'm new to the scene and made a few schoolboy errors. The worst was assuming that because I am sexually submissive, my wife could slip straight into the domme role. Big mistake; she hated the whole thing even before I got the cage. I had to reboot the entire dynamic, apologize for putting her in such an awkward position, and reinvent our chastity/denial so she didn't bear responsibility for enforcement. That was about five months ago. The key is that since the burden of responsibility lifted from her shoulders, she has really embraced the scene and naturally moved into the dominant role she originally disliked. Absolutely splendid! I hope to get through 2018 without an orgasm (though one is planned for NY Eve).