Re: (Norcalguy09) and so it begins

Like so many others here, my journey had to start somewhere. It began roughly a month ago, perhaps stretching back two months at the furthest extent. My wife and I have shared sixteen years of marriage, during which our sex life gradually slowed down and grew routine. Sex is mostly one position now—either in bed after the kids are asleep or squeezed into the shower when time allows. I adore my wife more than anything on earth, but our libidos are worlds apart. Like most men, I’ve turned to porn for enjoyment since I don’t always want to trouble her just to satisfy myself.

I’ve reached a point where I realize I’m being selfish and need to change. After finding this forum along with another one, I discovered that chastity might be the key to bringing excitement and intrigue back into our relationship. I brought it up with my wife and quickly purchased my first cage—a knockoff CB device. Within a week, I had determined the correct ring and spacer sizes for me, and set off on this path—or so I thought.

During the first week of being “locked,” I held onto the key. I would put on the CB device after work, which is usually when I selfishly relieve my pent-up desire. I knew that for this to succeed, I had to stop masturbating. Finally, the weekend arrived and my wife decided to play along a little. She isn’t opposed to chastity by any means; it’s just new and quite different from anything we’ve done before. She told me we could shower together and allowed me three minutes of PIV. Once that time was up, I had to stop and lock back up! This definitely got my blood pumping. I set a timer on my watch and quickly went about my work. Sex hasn’t felt this amazing in quite some time! In fact, her time limit turned me on so much that after only one minute of PIV, I was releasing inside her with force. My body shook and I felt faint as I pumped into her, and the orgasm lasted longer than any I’ve had recently. On a side note, I really wanted to go down and clean her up, but she has never enjoyed oral sex—not ever in our sixteen years together have I been allowed to help her cum orally. Anyway, as we finished showering, she commented that maybe this chastity thing isn’t so bad. She always tells me I’m too big for her and that penetration hurts, but those words—that my quick release was a good thing for her—made me incredibly happy and turned on even more. It has given me hope that we will get deeper into the chastity life and hopefully make it permanent. I love my wife and now I recognize that I love her even more because she wants to share this journey with me, however small a part.

Since weekends are the only time we have for potential playtime, I was hoping for some action this past weekend. Saturday arrived and she straight-up told me no. In our marriage history, “no” hasn’t been a word I often hear; she has felt obligated to say yes. She doesn’t currently enjoy sex—or perhaps hasn’t for many years—but always says yes for my sake, at least once a week. After discussing things, I realized that while I don’t get to make the call or demand sex, it is now in her court and she is slowly taking ownership of that role. I love hearing her say no! Sure, I want sex. But her saying no means she is in control, which may be hotter than anything. However, she did tell me I needed to massage her glutes after an especially good booty workout she had the day before. I was so happy to oblige! While she lay on the couch, I did my best to help massage and work out the knots all over her sexy backside for about half an hour. She grimaced and winced, but even those sounds were good signs that I was doing my job. Throughout it all, I could feel myself filling up in the cage, wishing I could press into her. This bit of teasing on her part—whether intentional or not—was amazing and so sexy. The next day we did our normal Sunday activities. Wearing a cage to church seemed a bit naughty but fun. We came home, had lunch with the kids, and what do you know? She didn’t ask; she told me to clean up the kitchen. More little steps in her taking on the female-led marriage that I crave! The kids went down for naps, and after cleaning the kitchen it was time to watch some football. She went to lie down a while later as well. A bit later, my phone buzzed with a text: “1 minute.” Her message was loud and clear. I quickly turned off the TV and headed to the shower. She was already stripped naked and warming up the water. There is nothing like seeing my wife wet and dripping in the shower, water running down her flat stomach and streaming over her breasts. I removed my cage as quickly as my hands could manage. She moved to the bench in the shower and proceeded to bend over so I could enter her in a standing doggy position. I set my timer and began finding my way into her opening. Sex is so much fun with this new approach! Before I knew it, seconds were ticking down as I hurried to enter her fully and pump my cock inside. Being locked for the week had made me think I could finish before time ran out. Sooooo close, but just not enough time. My watch buzzed and I was out of time. She stood up, gave me a smile, said sorry, and told me to lock it back up. We finished in the shower, and after letting my erection subside for a few minutes, I got back into my cage. I can’t wait for this weekend! I might not even get unlocked, but at this point, I’m so happy she’s playing along that I’d be just as content if she denied me the entire weekend. My wife is killing me in such a good way.

> Norcalguy09 wrote: ↑Fri Sep 28, 2018 5:58 am > wearing a cage to church seemed a bit naughty but fun. When you think about it, it's actually just the opposite. You are absolutely chaste, for your wife. Just like your wedding vows. "...promise to keep yourself...." specifically for her. That was one of the criteria my KeyHolder/wife had before we started -- is it supported by our religion or is it contrary? Very much supported! Game on!

After two weeks I am full of sexual frustration. To top it off, the wife is unavailable because it’s her period week. Not very sexy usually, but she made up for it by taking the lead and demanding a weekend of chores from me. She made many comments throughout the week that she wasn’t sure I would like doing all the chores she had in mind. My brain was screaming YES I WILL!! The fact that she is taking charge makes me overly excited. Saturday comes and I’m lined up with tasks. I sweep and mop the floors, fix a broken closet door, put a new handle on the back door, clean the guest bathroom, and then come the best part: she tells me to clean our bathroom, especially the shower. It needs to be spotless in case I let you out of your 🔒. Instant blood flow to my caged member. The evening comes and she heads to bed. Since I work nights, I typically stay up a few more hours. Usually just watching TV, but this night I decided to read some erotic fiction. Surely she wouldn’t approve, but I’m all worked up. My cage is trapping me so tightly, yet something happens that is a first for me: I can feel a climax building with zero touching on my part. Before I can turn off my phone and pay attention to the baseball game replay, I am cumming in my shorts. What just happened?! It didn’t feel bad at all, yet anxiety fills me because I got off without permission. To make matters worse, I hide it from my keyholder wife and try to move on. The rest of the weekend is pretty uneventful until time for work arrives. The week begrudgingly passes while my wife texts throughout saying she has more chores planned for the next weekend. She left me unlocked for work most of the week, but by Friday I had to lock myself up because I kept finding myself hard while she was texting. Saturday comes again and I’m busy cleaning some more. Wife comments many times that she’s loving this new arrangement. I too love seeing her happy and enjoying it. I try not to comment much as I sit caged in a bad way, but still learning. Either way, Monday is the last day of the weekend for me. She tells me that if I want to cum, I better be ready when she says so. Again, she’s not particularly into sex for her own pleasure, but she is doing this for me. Part of me wants to stay locked up as penance for cumming earlier in the week, while another part wants whatever she decides to allow. I told her that if she prefers it, I’ll stay locked, but she says no. “You will come shower with me and I’ll give you two minutes. If you don’t cum, then too bad.” She starts the shower and begins warming herself in the steaming water. I rarely get to see her naked and was mesmerized by her small breasts and hard nipples—they are absolute perfection to my eyes. I removed my cage and began stroking myself. I asked if I could join her, which she nodded yes for. I jump in and begin lube up my hardening cock. She makes sure to tell me to set the timer and not go over it. She checks my watch to ensure I’m honest, then turns around and bends over, presenting her tight backside. Leaned over the built-in shelf with water cascading down her back side, she allows me to slowly penetrate her and get her lubed up inside. She feels especially tight and hot within. Once properly ready, she tells me to start the timer. I feel like I might lose it on the first couple of thrusts but eventually settle into a rhythm. I don’t want to look at my watch, but I can feel time flying by. Twenty-seven seconds left and I’m building up for a powerful explosion. The seconds are ticking and I’m so close! Just as I am about to cum, my watch goes off and she pulls away. Her movement sets me off and I explode all over the wall and floor of the shower. One large shot followed by dripping cum. Without even trying, she has ruined my orgasm (in fact, she didn’t know what that was until a couple weeks ago when I hinted it might be fun to try). It felt so good to get some release yet not nearly satisfying enough. The best part is that as I moaned and came, she laughed at my plight. Normally I would be mad if she did that; this time it was music to my ears. Has she really started to embrace this that much already? I am truly uncertain how deep into this she is going. She has made repeated comments about liking me doing the cleaning, plus random remarks about being locked up. Then there’s her laughing at my ruined orgasm, which leaves me on cloud nine. I only hope this continues to develop and that she will get more pleasure from taking the lead in our sexual relationship. My wife and keyholder is simply the best!

Another week of work down and a weekend full of chores. Wife/KH is definitely into this part of the lifestyle. I am hopeful that after some time, she will begin to understand that all this is for her benefit. From my perspective, we have a long way to go; however, before becoming too negative, I really do appreciate her effort. As I’ve said in the past, sex isn’t among the top ten things on her daily mind. We’re about a month into these weekend chores now. I’ve grown to expect them and actually hope that it is her taking more of a dominant role, whether she thinks about it actively or not. I spent the first afternoon staying busy and really blowing through the list. Sunday comes around and I’m selfishly getting irritated because she hasn’t commented on denying me sexually for the weekend yet. I mention it in passing and she says no—not this weekend. Ha! I’m oddly ecstatic. She also mentioned, “Oops, I kinda forgot about that.” If I knew she was teasing me, I’d be even more excited; however, since I know she really did forget, I feel a bit bummed but okay with it. Oh well. I did get a slight feeling of the cage shrinking or my cock swelling until tightly trapped inside. It was a great sensation. Fast forward to Monday afternoon and after some more chores, I get ready for a shower. She meets me in the hallway and says she decided to give me fifty seconds of PIV. Holy junk!! The cage seems to be shrinking again. She hands me the key so I can unlock while she proceeds to strip off her clothes and jumps into the shower. Knowing she doesn’t like it when I oggle, I ask permission to enter the shower while she shaves her legs and warms up. She consents and I waste no time jumping in and standing in the corner. Feeling lucky, I ask if I may stroke myself until she’s done shaving and ready. Again she consents—it is my lucky day. I begin stroking while also lubeing up to be ready at a moment's notice. My watch timer is already set and I’m so ready. As usual, she bends over the shower shelf and presents herself in a standing doggy position. I slide in behind her and work myself into her, trying gently to ease inside her tight pussy (interestingly, after having our child, she is even tighter than before—a big thanks to her OB/GYN). She tells me to start the timer and I’m off pumping away. I can tell that I won’t last long but am unsure if fifty seconds is quite enough. She feels so good and I’m getting close. I don’t even look at the time because I can feel myself about to lose it. Just like last week, I start cumming inside her when the timer buzzes. I managed to get one burst into her just as she stood up straight and watched while the rest of my cum dribbled out onto the shower floor. The feeling is maddening yet amazing as I watch two or three more sad drips leak from my still-hard cock. I don’t know if I call this a ruined orgasm, but it’s certainly not normal to remain so turned on right after full ejaculation for me. Whatever it is, I both love and hate it simultaneously. Her smirk makes me think she enjoys putting me through this at least somewhat—and that is the silver lining to her forgetting earlier in the weekend. Chastity definitely takes two people to make work. While I know she doesn’t think about it as much as I do, obviously not wearing a cage herself, I love where we are and even more so where I hope we’re going on this journey.

Normally the weekend consists of chores, and if any PIV happens, it’s on Sunday or Monday. This weekend my KH/wife started having fun quickly. Normal chores were assigned, and then that afternoon she told me she needed to wash her hair. She also let me know she was going to give me 35 seconds for PIV. This time I had to wait until she had shaved and washed her hair before joining her; I wasn’t even allowed to enjoy the view of her sexy naked body this round. She seems to be getting more comfortable denying me. Once she finished in the shower, she told me to get in and lube up. I set my watch timer like always but unsilenced my alarm this time. Usually she allows a few extra seconds for me to work the lube into her and let her adjust to having me inside before starting the official count. Before I could start it, she reminded me not to pump too hard. In my mind, that was just one more way for her to control me—and I loved it! The timer clicked on and I began getting into a rhythm—not too hard but definitely trying hard to cum. Looking back, about a month had passed since the last time I fully came inside her or by myself. My body hasn’t gone this long in all my memory, maybe even years. I know the seconds are counting down and I am nowhere close to release; if I had another 30 seconds, I might have made it. I pull out of her and it takes what feels like eternity for my hardness to subside. Later that evening we sat on the couch where I was told to massage her sore quads. Better yet, she was only wearing panties and a tank top—nothing quite like teasing me by touching non-sexually while talking about this lifestyle. We discussed things for a while and I asked if she was getting more comfortable with it all. Surprisingly, she admitted that she is but still feels pressure to allow me sex sometimes. I reassured her that if I’m doing anything to make her feel pressured, let me know—especially regarding adding time to my chastity period. The conversation was unlike most talks about sex because we finished without awkwardness or irritation. It seems she’s coming along and will try stepping up more into the dominant role. Fast forward fifteen hours: I made what I thought was a lighthearted joke, but she let me know in no uncertain terms that it wasn’t funny—any jokes about her body are off-limits today. In the past we’ve joked about her butt or abs and been fine with it; not today. She told me I would not be having sex with her today and probably not tomorrow either. Feeling confused but a little turned on by her quick dominance. The weekend ended with her announcing she was going to take a shower alone—don’t even think about joining—and noted that due to unfinished chores, next weekend might also be off the table. My wife IS starting to get the hang of this!

Quick update. I asked my wife if I should wear my cage to work on Tuesday and she said yes—I think you should! Music to my ears. She thinks it would hurt or be a bother, but I’ve been trying to reassure her that it doesn’t. She is slowly weaving this more into our daily lives and is becoming more open to talking about me being in chastity. I’m excited at the coming prospects of this locked life.

It’s time to shower and she asks if I’ve finished all my chores. Not yet, but they’ll be done once I head into town to drop off the mail and donate those old baby clothes. She gives in, though only for a quarter of a minute. Thanks to being locked up, that brief window is nearly enough! For someone who doesn’t exactly crave sex, she’s quite content with our new setup. The burden of performance has lifted from her shoulders; she smiles and laughs just a bit more when I’m unable to fully finish. She also feels freer to simply pull down her pants to show off her fresh underwear. “Aren’t they adorable?!” Plus, she’s planning a trip in two weeks and hinted that I might not be released until she returns. It’ll be my first time locked 24/7 for such an extended period. Oh dear! I adore my wife!! Here’s hoping we get some PIV this weekend, but even if we don’t, the chastity life is treating us well.

Sweet release! It’s been since September 15th that I had a full one. My wife is heading off on a trip, and I feel she took pity on me; I’ll be locked up around the clock for the entire duration of her journey. With work obligations this week added to her trip, it will be nearly two weeks of being fully enclosed. This should definitely set a new record. PIV is now strictly at her discretion and has occurred five times over the last couple of months; even when she chooses that method, each encounter lasts only a few seconds. The most recent one was just 30 seconds before she instructed me to stroke myself until I came. I wasn’t about to argue and finished up quickly. While I know many of you experience longer intervals between PIVs or full releases, we are still learning the ropes here, and I look forward to sharing more as things progress.

It has been a week since my first full release in quite some time, and now my wife is away for seven days. I’m already feeling the pressure of pent-up desire, with nothing to do but gaze at myself while locked. My wife just texted me her list of chores. Does it ever fail to thrill everyone else when your KH takes charge? I love it! There’s no end to how much I appreciate this life. We are still figuring things out together, and I hope to bring her more pleasure through doing chores or perhaps one day she’ll demand that I attend to her sexual needs directly. I am at her disposal.

My wife has been away for a week now, and I’m thoroughly worked up. I can’t wait to see her, but there’s new news regarding our situation. I mentioned the random spinning wheel that lets us mix up different lock-up durations. She liked it and gave it a spin. By the time she returns, I will have been locked for two weeks total; with tonight's spin, I’m adding another five weeks! I am very excited yet unsure what to do with myself. Fortunately, I had to ask for the emergency key because a couple of hotspots are becoming raw and irritated. That’s unfortunate but hopefully only temporary under the honor system. On another note, I ordered a Holy Trainer V3 clone this evening and I’m looking forward to it. Hopefully, it will cause less rubbing than my current cage. I know a custom-made one would be superior eventually, but the price tag is steep and we aren't quite there yet. Like you all, we are slowly learning and growing into this lifestyle, and I am grateful that my wife remains reasonably happy to participate. I love her!

It’s been over a month since my last update, and life has certainly kept busy, with holidays, kids, and even surgery thrown into the mix. Regarding chastity, I’ve been operating on the honor system because I can’t wear a device right now due to where the surgery was. Apparently, going through a vein in the groin is easier for doctors but not so pleasant for a guy and his wife who are navigating a chaste relationship together. Anyway, I’m recovering and hope that within the next couple of weeks I can get my device back into position. I did order an HT v3 clone. I am eager to try it out; hopefully, the tube size is better than the smaller metal cage I’ve been wearing, which should help prevent more hot spots along my shaft caused by the tiny cage. About two weeks ago, I also noticed some unpleasant coloring in my pre-cum fluid. Not sure what triggered that yet, but I hope the new HT ring helps with it too. It didn’t seem like the previous rings were too tight or causing banging noises, but all my research suggests something might have been off with the sizing on one of my cages. We are currently looking at a potential release shortly after Christmas, though that isn't set in stone.... My wife enjoys this wheel-spinning game, so we’ll see what lands when the time comes. We’ve had some decent discussions about me being in chastity and her enjoying the lack of pressure to let me have sex. I’ve also tried suggesting giving her sexual pleasure, but she really doesn’t seem interested right now. I continue trying not to push too hard, letting her go at her own pace. Maybe she’ll never want that kind of attention from me; who knows? It is a bit disappointing because she used to enjoy using a vibrator greatly, though it’s ultimately up to her. I’d also love to perform oral on her, but that has always been off the table, except for one occasion during our 16-year marriage. She enjoyed it then but never again. All this is to say: I am willing if she ever wants to use me in that way, but until she says so, I’ll stick to doing chores and remaining submissive. I know everything revolves around her, and I keep trying to let her own our relationship across all its dimensions. In other news, she mentioned I might be useful for shaving her legs and painting her toenails.... something about having her make me do these tasks gets my blood pumping! We are still learning and growing into this lifestyle, and I truly appreciate everything she does.

Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about discipline and how she can take a more active part in my submission. I’ve raised this before since her main concern was that she doesn’t feel entirely comfortable spanking me. While I’d welcome it (even if it’s daunting), I’m okay with it as long as she knows she can do whatever seems right to her. Unlike previous times where our talks quickly turned into arguments, she asked me to come up with ideas for things I would be willing to accept or endure if she feels discipline is needed. While it isn’t quite full ownership yet, she is slowly opening up to more aspects of our chastity dynamic, and hopefully, we are leaning further into FLR territory. Taking it slow is what everyone says, and once again I am seeing that this really is the rule. I’m beyond excited and can't wait to see where this leads us. I might be warned to be careful what I wish for, but isn’t that part of why we love this lifestyle?! Love my wife and keyholder.

Mrs. Twisted has admitted that she enjoys slapping my cock and nuts. I don’t particularly love having my nuts slapped, but she finds it 'useful'—she doesn't need to use much force; to her, it seems like a not-so-'violent' act, and she has no trouble doing it...but even light force can be unpleasant for *me*.

> TwistedMister wrote: ↑Sat Dec 22, 2018 8:38 am > Mrs. Twisted has admitted that she likes slapping my cock and nuts. I do not particularly enjoy having my nuts slapped, but she finds that it can be 'useful'- she does not need to use a lot of force, it seems to her not to be a particularly 'violent' act and she has no problem doing it...but it does not take much force to be unpleasant for *me*. Sounds painful. I’ll make sure my wife doesn’t catch that idea.

A few new developments in our journey. Last night I went to the store to pick up the remaining items on the grocery list for family arriving over the next few days. Apparently, I didn’t read the instructions carefully enough and bought the wrong ziplock bags. She wanted generic instead of name brand.... This morning I woke up to my wife telling me quite sternly that I messed up and will be punished for not paying attention to detail. 😍 And seriously, at this point, I’m not even sure what punishment she has in mind, but she said it will happen after the holidays when everyone leaves. Later that day, after having lunch with my brother-in-law and his family, I was cleaning up all the dishes. BIL mentioned the dishwasher we fixed over the summer, and KH joked about her 'dishwasher' being just fine while referring to me. Shrunken cage again. She’s never made a reference like that before, and I was thrilled she said it. This evening, I gave her an early present: a necklace with a Greek key pendant. She mentioned in the past that she wasn't quite comfortable wearing my actual key yet, so I thought this would be a moderately vanilla way to get her on board. She loved it and said she’d be happy to wear it as a sign of our chastity lifestyle. OMFG! I’m thrilled. Happy developments here, even if they aren’t as hardcore as some others; this is awesome for us. Merry Christmas everyone!

I have a sinking feeling my discipline is coming soon, possibly another spin on the lock-up wheel. My last PIV was November 10, and I had been looking forward to a session after the 29th. It may now be pushed much further out than that. I’m so disappointed yet I know if she decides this way, I have to go with it. I don’t think I’ve ever felt this worked up in my life. I love my wife and enjoy serving her however she wishes.

With family in town, I assumed KH would be less likely to discuss our chastity situation or sex in general. I couldn’t have been more wrong. Over the course of the week, she has made comments—subtle as they are—that have excited and aroused me more than I can say. I’ve been trying to wake up early and clean the kitchen since it’s a main gathering spot in our house. My wife has commented on how good I am at cleaning or reminded me that getting chores done is my job. Nothing would tip off outsiders to our new dynamic, but it’s obvious to me. My cage has been constantly shrinking these past few days! The wife also decided to spin the wheel to give me more time for my lock-up due to my grocery shopping mistake! I love seeing her take to disciplining me. She is definitely growing in her control and I couldn’t be happier serving her and following her lead. That single spin only added a week, but at this point, I just hope I don’t do anything foolish that warrants more punishment. I’m looking forward to a possible release next weekend, though time will tell. In other news, she also decided to tease me by sending a sexy photo this morning. She said she wanted to start my weekend off right and help me wake up enjoying the fullness of my cage. Then she proceeded to take off her jeans and panties and handed them over for me to enjoy as I woke up. 😍 Everyone is leaving tomorrow or the day after, so I’m sure she’ll have serious chores to handle to get the house back in order. Can't wait! I love my wife and am glad that she is starting to own her dominance and owning me as well. Hopefully, she’ll let me paint her toenails and massage her feet once everyone has gone.

> Norcalguy09 wrote: ↑Sun Dec 30, 2018 4:18 am > My cage has been constantly shrinking the past few days! What a lovely and apt metaphor! I know that feeling well...

With my extra week in lockup nearing its end, my wife told me that as long as I complete the chores, she’d spin the shower wheel. For those who haven't heard of it: it’s a pinwheel where you can put whatever options you like into each slice of the pie. Ours ranges from 10 seconds of PIV to 1 minute and thirty seconds, with a few slices allowing her to dictate on the fly. Anyway, it landed on 25 seconds which she texted me. She also sent my new lock-up time right after that. All told, we haven’t had PIV since November 10. She hasn't yet decided if she likes physical T&D much, so mostly I’ve been without her touch. After the chores were done, we went to take our shower. As an aside, I asked her if I should clean up after myself when I cum or if she wants me to swallow it back? Not this time, but it seems she has been thinking about that idea since our last conversation. She allowed me plenty of time to stroke myself until fully hard and well-lubricated. I set my timer and entered her. She was so gracious; she let me push all the way in just to enjoy feeling her wrapped around my cock. It felt amazing! Once she got used to having me inside, she told me to start the timer. Before chastity, I could last quite a while back then. In fact, she often commented that she wished I would hurry up. That is no longer an issue; in fact, if I had ten more seconds, I might have fully lost myself deep within her. I’m not sure if it’s the countdown or just knowing I only cum when with her, but at 25 seconds, I had to pull out and spilled some onto the shower floor. Even ruined orgasms are amazing when you aren’t used to that sensation. It seems like in our recent sexual encounters, they’ve ended with a ruined orgasm, and I love it! I’m locked back up now, and throughout the evening, my cage has been filling up again. I can't believe how wonderful this chastity experience is! My wife is the most amazing woman I know.

The dream is becoming a reality for you, my friend. Well done!

@Yumbojones Indeed it is! Slowly but surely. Thank you!

Still a week left until possible PIV, but my wife gave me a spin on the play wheel last night. She had me unlock and stroke for nearly two minutes.... It was short but felt wonderful!! Frankly, this is a huge step in T&D since she has never offered to stroke me of her own accord before. I hadn’t mentioned wanting anything yet; she simply told me to go ahead and unlock. I don't want to read too much into just one occasion, but I loved every second! She also left some slightly worn panties in my sweatshirt pocket for me to find when I put it on earlier that day. It seems she is starting to either enjoy having me locked up and teasing me, or perhaps she is trying hard to tease me because she knows how much I love it—and by doing so, she shows her affection. Either way, I feel grateful. About a week ago, I mentioned possibly not cumming for an extended period this year. She quickly replied that the whole year would be fine with her. That escalated quickly!? Not sure if she is serious yet, but she has brought it up a couple of times since then: I am not to finish whenever we have PIV or tease time. She still doesn’t actively keep me locked 24/7 full-time, so it will be interesting to see if she starts taking that more seriously as her actions seem to progress lately.

The wife is starting to really get inside my head. She gave me the choice of unlocking for a short hand job or possibly having sex in the shower tomorrow, but no promises on tomorrow since there’s plenty going on....then another spin on the wheel to determine how long I stay locked this time. After three weeks without it and struggling to recall when my last orgasm was, I went with the immediate option! I’ll just say: it felt amazing and I really wanted to cum so badly. Time ran out and she quickly told me to lick it back up while spinning the wheel again. Another three weeks in lock-down! I’m crossing my fingers that more teasing comes soon enough; either way, she’s really starting to find her groove. So thankful for our chastity life.

Much has happened over the past year or so. Either way, we obviously took a break from chastity at some point. I’ve been feeling like I missed it for quite a while. About a week ago, I brought it up again and my wife/kh just shrugged and said “sure lock up if you want”. It wasn’t the ideal response, but I’ll take what I can get. Thankfully she doesn't mind the wheel of chance that limits my PIV time; she’s spun it a couple times in the past week. The first result was 2 seconds and a few days later came 19 seconds. Both were so frustrating yet incredible at the same time. I am not currently locked by her, but I’ve been self-locking in the evenings for a couple of hours before taking it off to sleep. I’m trying to tread lightly since this isn’t entirely her thing, though she is always gracious enough to play along. I do hope that she will get back into it like she did in the past, even though she requested we not jump straight into full FLR right away. Here’s to beginning the chastity life again.

It’s now been three weeks that I’ve not been allowed PIV. She spun the wheel and that’s what it landed on. KH has allowed me to play by myself for the first two weeks but forbade at least a week before we spin the wheel again. It’s been an interesting month anyway with my sister in law staying for an extended period and KH is very busy with all that is entailed with her being here. I’ve tried to be more active in helping and taking care of chores and projects in the meantime. Now that SIL has left I’m hopeful that I’ll be able to get back to serving KH more. I reckon we shall see. Hopefully I’ll post here later with an update as to where we stand with our love making or if I’ll be denied and whether I’ll be locked up more often. I’m trying to not be a pain and ease back into this lifestyle as KH is more comfortable.

I’m the luckiest man, it feels like. I’d probably say, most guys with a KH feel the same. Back from church and she texts me from the other room. I’ve been awarded 35 seconds of PIV and two weeks of additional denial afterward. She proceeded to meet me in the master bath with her pants pulled down telling me to get lubed and enjoy my 35 seconds. I absolutely did and nearly finished in the given time. As I pulled out she allowed me to take care of myself. I’m not sure I’ve cum that much in a long time. What an amazing feeling. While I asked if I could not finish she let me know that she said I should finish. What an amazing thought and feeling. Even if I’m doing the work, she is in charge. I’m excited to get back in the cage. I’m lucky to be in this spot and continue to be thankful for her control of our sex life.

Once again, a long break. Had a bad situation with one of my cages and that freaked out the wife and I for a while. Not sure what went wrong but I think the cage is too narrow and short at least for long term wear. It worked before, not sure what caused this. Anyway, that was months and I’m feeling like porn and taking matters into my own hands is just no good. All said, I’m currently in a state of chastity without a cage. So far I am doing alright staying chaste but I definitely crave being completely locked. Frankly I think she appreciates me locked as well. I’ve been looking at a Cobra custom cage and am seriously considering dropping some real money on a cage. Wife is tentatively onboard, I’m sure we’ll talk more seriously before I make the purchase. Definitely would appreciate any feedback or thoughts on custom cages. I like the idea of three diameter measurements for the shaft and length. 🤷🏻‍♂️ We did go back to a wheel game this past weekend for some play ideas. She used the hitachi on me to three edges which was incredible and something she has never really done. She has in the past either allowed a full release or made a duration time but never played with the edging. Quite a thrill to say the least. This post is all over the place so I apologize, just getting my thoughts out and appreciating this community being a place to share.

Wife and keyholder has been getting back onboard with locking up. This past weekend the wife didn’t spin the wheel but wiggled her toes at me and told me to get undressed. She used her sexy little toes on me until I very nearly lost it. As quickly as it began I was told we were finished. In other happenings, I had sent her a link that was posted on this forum that I thought would be vanilla enough but still represent my thoughts. She actually took some screen shots and let me know what she was comfortable with and what is a hard NO for her. She was apprehensive that I might have expectations that she’s not comfortable doing but the reality is, I know I need to be locked and will be happy to have her onboard. She’s very much not ok with me giving her oral pleasure and while I’d love to, I recognize that she’s never liked it so chastity or not, I can’t/don’t expect to give that to her. I’m excited that we are having more direct conversation and being open about this lifestyle. At this point I know she’s doing this more for me than for her. Again, I love her for her willingness to give this another go. All said, I purchased a Cobra and am hoping it will arrive this week. I get locked up and she gets to control sex and all things in the bedroom. Not your typical chastity but there are so many flavors that we are making it work for us.

Had the cobra for a few weeks now, I absolutely love it. So light and very comfortable. I’m surprised after not being in long term chastity for a while, this has been comfortable and very rarely do I need any lube or lotion to keep the ball burn at bay. Maybe that’s just due to a correct fit, finally. We’re now going past 6 weeks without a release of any kind. Pretty exciting. She’s allowing me to work up to being 24/7 since the new cage came. I’m thankful for that as the nights are the toughest or maybe I’m a little of a wuss when it comes to those night time erections. All said, she has firmly stated that it will be at least 3 months of no sex. I thought it was quite the jump but she is taking to the material that I gave her and she wants to follow as closely as she can to the site. Although much of the forum that she is reading talks about the male providing her pleasure in whatever form that may take, much of which she does not enjoy. At the end of the day, it’s all about what she wants and not so much me. I’ll post more as we continue down this road. While still very vanilla, I will absolutely cherish the effort she is making.

Not much to report. Still locked down. Looking forward to possibly getting a release mid December. Some days are so much harder than others with this long lockup, only six almost seven weeks but I’m starting to really crave the feel of my wife. She’s been adamant that we are going until at least December 14th, maybe more. It’s definitely interesting considering she’s not really wanting any pleasure or seemingly any sex, although that been going on for years. She’s definitely trying to make this more interesting than in past attempts. I’ll continue to try to be a good locked husband but it’s not always easy.

Unfortunately a bit of a set back. Too much friction in the cage and I’m having to take a break to prevent more skin rubbing. I’m still remaining chaste as I don’t want to ruin what has been going so well. Seems like the past week or so there’s been less teasing from wife, but it is what it is. Thankful she is checking on my lock every few days where that did not happen in past times.

Kh is sticking to the plan, zero physical tease until 90 days. She has been much more on the tease with pictures. Quick peeks up her shirt. Love her small breasts and sexy nips. She knows what gets me going. I messed up a few days ago and she extended the lock up another two weeks. Looking toward Dec 28 now for a possible release. I better be on my best behavior, it seems. By far this is the longest lock up and the most active she has been with being the key holder. We’re still rather vanilla but I’m so thankful for her playing. She’s very much engaged and not letting me steer this thing.

Recently my wife has been more open to chatting about the chastity lifestyle. In the past it has been very much my idea, my helping her with the roles and whatnot. She’s played along but it seemed mostly a game. She has slowly been being more assertive with her words and things for me to do/not do. We just talked about where we are in this whole thing, is it a game that she pushes my buttons because she knows this is my idea or is this what she can see for the future. She admitted she pushes my buttons but that this lifestyle is what we are doing. I started it and now there’s no going back. I’m a bit speechless/scared/happy, you name it and I’m feeling it. All kinds of emotions that I can’t really describe. Oddly enough I’m thankful. I still consider us quite vanilla but for this is quite a change in the dynamic than from ever before. On another update, she has given me dec 28 as a date that I will get a release and yet she just threw a curveball. I need to make sure the chores she doesn’t like to do are done to her satisfaction before family arrives for vacation in order to keep the possibility of a release alive. Mind blown.

It’s been a while since I’ve updated. Dec 28 came and went and I did not. Life got busy and release was low on the priority list. We did take a hike during January and wife mentioned we could sneak away and she’d stroke me for a few if I wanted. Oh I wanted alright. I can’t think of the last time something like that has been offered and jumped at the chance. We found a secluded spot and she helped unzip and began stroking. I was in heaven almost instantly. Just as I started to really feel like release might be possible she abruptly stopped and told me to zip myself back up. I can’t describe what a rush it was. So close and so far, all in the great outdoors. More life happened and we all got sick through the rest of January. This last Friday evening, wife said that I could have some piv with her before her shower. She made sure to know that I would be allowed to finish if I could but I was only allowed 1 minute inside of her. I lubed myself and her and entered her. She allowed herself to get used to me being in her and then she told me to stop my timer. Best 1 minute in quite some time. As my timer was going off I was beginning to lose it and she pulled herself off of me. I made quite the mess all over the floor. She told me to clean up and to run the laundry with the rug that I just messed up. I’m not sure what the future looks like but I know that I’m still on cloud nine. Hopefully not another 143 days but we shall see.

> Norcalguy09 wrote: ↑Tue Oct 26, 2021 10:54 pm > All said, she has firmly stated that it will be at least 3 months of no sex. I thought it was quite the jump but she is taking to the material that I gave her and she wants to follow as closely as she can to the site. A What material did you give to her? Curious to see as to add to the story. Sorry if you mentioned it already, been skimming your posts:)

Maybe I haven’t mentioned it before, @Infiniteice . It’s a site the secret to a happy marriage, something like that. More on the vanilla side but that’s about where we are. In other news, we pretty much fell off the wagon since the new year. I asked her if she’d be willing to go at it again as I really feel like it’s better for me not to have access to myself and quite frankly, she has said previously that she prefers when I am locked. I’m pretty sure it’s so I don’t last very long but that’s okay with me. I reckon we’re back on the wagon for now, we’ll see if she gets back in to really being more the driver or if she’s just going along with it. I’m probably being a fair bit melodramatic, seems like once she let me O, it was down hill after that. I’ll say it for myself, I just need to suck it up and stay locked and roll with it. Onward we go.

Slowly getting back to the locked life. It’s been such a long time. The wife and I talked briefly about locking back up and was quickly decided that I should. I ordered a new cage as instructed, one that is more to her liking. She’d prefer it to be pink. Not sure where that came from but I’ll take it. She also said this will be a long lock up, though I will be out when she wants to feel piv. After a pretty short week she gave me 4 minutes to enjoy her. I lasted all of 2 minutes and 18 seconds. I’d say, though it’s been so long, it feels so much better being locked and focusing more on her than myself.

Just a quick update. Bought a new device. Found out that the larger ring allowed me to sleep caged without a single wake up through the night. Told the wife and now I’m just a bit scared. We’ll find out how this is going to go.

It’s off again/on again. It’s on again now. Today marks 3 weeks locked and I definitely am feeling it. Wife spent the day subtly tempting me in a form fitting top that blows my mind. No clue when or if I’ll be getting out. In other news she downloaded an app that seems to help with keyholder maintenance that she can somewhat create a framework and then not have to do all the work. I’m hopeful that this will help to keep us going down this road.

What’s the app?