On the path to beginning chastity: inquiries and shared stories

Hello everyone. I’m a young, uncircumcised guy full of lust.

Introduction I believe I speak for many men here: since we first discovered masturbation, our favorite companion has been the one always within reach. We constantly find and waste our precious seed without giving it much thought. Recently, however, I feel that releasing frequently (once or twice daily) is truly obsessive and wasteful—both in terms of time and energy. So, I began denying myself to boost my productivity. The Outcome I felt wonderful! Bursting with energy and feeling like anything was possible. The Drawbacks Perhaps it’s related to age? I am constantly erect and horny, craving release. The extra energy comes with some downsides:

1. During short denial periods of 3-4 days, I suffer from blue balls; sometimes the pain radiates down into my lower abdomen.
2. My erection stays hard almost continuously, accompanied by leakage.
3. It’s difficult to sleep or stay productive because of this persistent hardness. Consequently, I have to keep stroking myself just to soothe the urge (while still holding back from full release), which wastes time as I’m constantly touching myself in the process. Seeking a Solution I went online looking for answers. Long story short, I discovered chastity. Naturally, I can’t hold my own key if I want it to work effectively; otherwise, it defeats the purpose. I found someone capable of holding my keys and presented me with this challenge:
4. To help me last longer and reduce sensitivity, I am only released during edging sessions and remain locked 24/7.
5. I cannot cum until I complete an edge count of 500.
6. Without the key, I can’t stimulate myself effectively. Some basic questions for those with experience in chastity:
7. When practicing chastity, is it mostly teasing and edging? Is there absolutely no release? It seems harsh on a young stud.
8. Does wearing one create a visible shape from the outside? For example, under short gym shorts?
9. Is it comfortable to wear for daily activities / urinating (how?) / sleeping (how do you handle morning wood)?
10. Are there any long-term effects of wearing it? E.g., does it affect your tool in any way? Feel free to share other experiences, particularly from the first few weeks or those in long-term lockup without release: how do you cope with it? Can you function normally?

Hi Curious, Chastity isn’t a rigid kink with fixed rules; adapt it to suit your needs. Many chaste readers here use various types of cage (my personal favorite is a short stainless steel one), while others prefer willpower and the honor system. For some, chastity is a 24/7 practice for extended periods (perhaps even permanently), whereas for others, it’s just a weekend activity. Some still orgasm, others get milked or endure ruin, so there is plenty of room to mix and match according to your taste. Cruelty and denial are naturally part of the appeal for us. I understand where you’re coming from (forgive the pun). I think this because while I am currently locked during November and haven’t orgasmed yet this year (my review will be at New Year), I do remember enjoying a good edging session, so there is an obvious tension between what chastity play offers right now. While in chastity, I receive plenty of teasing and play within my cage, though nowhere near completion. I also run chastity alongside other kinks and fetishes, such as enforced nudity, naked chores, and lingerie/hosiery. Regarding visibility when wearing a cage: some are subtle, while others announce their presence loudly. My own short cage keeps my penis pointing downward, so usually there is nothing to draw attention. However, larger cages that point outward can be quite obvious. I do have some light chinos that fit rather tightly; these show off every ring of my cage clearly. Therefore, I would advise avoiding Speedos (though micro-cages might remain less noticeable). In terms of comfort, I certainly don’t want to live in pain, but I do need to know the device is there (otherwise, what’s the point?). A crucial piece of advice here is to get a cage that fits properly and isn't too large. Many sites offer guides on how to measure correctly, or you could start with something like a CB6000, which comes in many ring sizes and combinations. A close-fitting cage helps manage morning wood because your penis stays short before it "gets going." There will still be some discomfort and straining, but not the absolute agony I experienced with my first purchase. For urinating, try sitting down at least until you get used to it (you’ll likely want to avoid public urinals anyway), and dab thoroughly with tissue to prevent odors. Long-term wear in a properly fitting quality cage shouldn’t be an issue. While many cartoons and captions claim that key holders shrink their penises through extended cage use, this isn't necessarily true. Points worth noting: * Open cages with rings are easier to keep hygienic than closed ones, especially plastic models. * Cheap cages, particularly copies of expensive items, may have rough edges that cause chafing. * Don’t be too brave with your cock! You only get one, so take care. If any issues arise, remove the cage immediately. Welcome to our world, and enjoy (or suffer—it’s perhaps much the same thing).

I am locked 24/7 and have been since we got her first cage. Fit is crucial. It seems most of us think we are bigger than reality shows. A cage or tube that is too long allows the erection to travel too far forward before containment becomes effective. Nocturnal erections and morning wood will become less problematic as your body and brain adjust to chastity. Will they ever completely disappear? Not entirely. I woke up with a 'ball stretcher' sensation early this morning, but that was only the first time in several weeks. As Steve mentioned, "Don't be a hero." I was lucky because I didn’t need those extra hours each day to adjust to being caged. I have had to unlock for a few days at a time due to redness and rash. Health matters more than reaching some arbitrary goal. I found good luck with knock-off devices when searching for the right fit, especially regarding the Holy Trainer model. I started with a CBxxxx type device but quickly realized that neither Kitten nor I liked them much. I am now using an HTv3, though she plans to switch soon to a Mature Metal Jail Bird.

> 1. when you do chastity isit only Chasity, tease and edge? no release at all? seems cruel to a young stud * A variety of approaches exist here. I am rarely caged, but my partner understands my denial fetish and sometimes indulges me. Frankly, often she just gets tired and rolls over after her orgasm. Sometimes I get actively teased, and she decides not to let me cum. I became interested in chastity when I was in my late 30s or so. I did have some issues during my post-vasectomy period; my GP told me that if I ejaculated, the pain would resolve. It did. This took about five years after my snip until it stopped completely. The point I am making is that your body does need time to adjust. You are going from jerking off a couple of times daily to edging for multi-month periods—that has to be a shock to your system! Take it slow! > 2. when wearing it there any visible shape from the outside? e.g short gym shorts? * Not many people will actually look at your crotch. I was bench pressing once and looked down; in fact, I did see the outline of my lock. I wear a jockstrap most times while locked (and always during workouts) along with standard gym shorts, so while it is visible to me, I know others wouldn't notice as much. I generally agree that smaller cage sizes are better, one benefit being they are less noticeable. > 3. comfortable while wearing / peeing(how?) / sleeping (how you deal with morning wood)? * Highly recommend an open metal cage. I bought a cheap one from China and it is vastly easier to pee into and clean than the CB series. Definitely worth it. Morning wood isn't too painful for me. LOL, when using the CB device, peeing was actually among the easiest of the day because my straining in the cage aligned perfectly with my urethra. It was arguably even easier than peeing uncaged during morning wood! > 4. any long term effects from wearing? e.g affect the side of your tool? * To be honest, I have worried about this myself. There are many crazy opinions online regarding this topic. Fortunately, I don't lack inches that I'd like to keep back. No, I don’t think so. I agree with previous advice: listen to your body until it adjusts.

First, I would like to thank you all for generously sharing your experience with a newcomer. I liked the idea of giving up control of my packages and orgasms to the key holder, stopping me from masturbating however I want. However, the thought of no longer being able to cum when I wish scared the hell out of me. Not to mention that I get blue balls easily; my dick stays constantly hard even after just a few days of denial! I haven’t been sleeping well with a raging boner through the night. My key holder won't allow me an orgasm though; he likes tying up both my body and balls, edging me continuously while polishing my sensitive head. He permits cumming during the polish, but I am too sensitive to even think about it, and he casually hints at what happens after my orgasm. The thought of post-orgasm torture makes me beg him not to let me cum. I am only allowed to be polished and edged before being locked up again. I was considering that a longer plastic cage might be better since I can get more "stretch" and it looks more comfortable. However, having seen some really disturbing pictures of erections in small metal cages which look quite painful, maybe I should try an open metal cage first? Perhaps start with a short 1-month duration before being caged permanently?

Plastic is only suitable for short-term use because those designs are usually enclosed and promote bacterial growth. Metal is the way forward, even if you just grab something cheap from China initially to try out. Plastic also has a bad habit of cracking and splitting, which can cause injury if not caught in time. There is a thread in the Devices forum called "Shorter is Better" that details the path most people take from longer cages down to shorter ones. The basic concept regarding erections in a cage is that you either need one large enough to hold the entire length (usually impractical) or short enough to prevent growth. A short cage acts like preventing a salesman from putting his foot in the door; once an erection starts, it becomes uncomfortable until it subsides. A shorter cage prevents upward growth and simply feels like pressure rather than pain. Some of those extreme photos showing super-short cages with flesh leaking out may be intentionally dramatic for effect. I started longer but moved to a size shorter than I ever thought possible; I wouldn't go back.

> 1. when you do chastity isit only Chasity, tease and edge? no release at all? seems cruel to a young stud Chastity combined with femdom. No specific focus on my dick. > 2. when wearing it there any visible shape from the outside? e.g short gym shorts? No. Not in this device. > 3. comfortable while wearing / peeing(how?) / sleeping (how you deal with morning wood)? Peeing standing up is fine for me. Morning wood is okay—the device stays securely in place. > 4. any long term effects from wearing? e.g affect the side of your tool? None that I am aware of. I am on Day 93 of my 24/7 lock.