Re: Want2BLocked: One Brit's Path to Chastity and Control

Hello everyone,

Here I am now. I’m a 51-year-old man from England, married for 28 years to my wife who is also nearly 51. I’ll call her Lady S or LS. While I consider myself open-minded, she isn’t quite as much so. Our sex life was wonderfully wild and interesting until 2002, but after our second child arrived along with some of her medical issues, it settled into a more routine pattern. Jumping ahead to December 2018: once LS stopped taking certain medications (specifically PPIs for gastric issues), she became like a force five hurricane. She started waking me up two or three times a night for sex. The woman who rarely initiated desire now wanted it and even asked to be tied down using new bed restraints we bought, along with a larger black vibrator that I purchased as a treat. We enjoyed wild touching during the day and night. She even sent me naked and semi-naked photos while on business trips. Around this time, I started experiencing ED, but those little blue pills handled it well. I’ve always preferred her to be in charge; indeed, I wanted her to take another man or have a threesome, though sadly that might be too much for her. She also feels less attractive now due to her size increasing from UK 10/12 when we met to an 18 lower half and 22 upper body. Despite this, I still love her and appreciate her figure. I’ve always been interested in having her dominant in the bedroom, even if she can be hesitant about it; we have had some intense times like that before. Since around May 2019, I’ve dropped hints and sent a message asking if she could become my keyholder. My initial request confused her slightly, so I sent over photos with captions to explain what I meant:

1. Lock me up in chastity.
2. Hold the key.
3. Control my orgasms.
4. Tease me regularly.
5. Provide mild humiliation. To be clear, while I don’t mind others cross-dressing or experiencing more extreme forms of humiliation, that isn’t what I’m looking for. Her first reaction was disgust. Then I asked if I could buy a device and wear it on my birthday in early October. LS: That doesn’t seem fair. How much are they? Me: £20 plus £2 for postage. LS: Go ahead then, but I’m not entirely happy about it. I ordered the CB6KL, also known as The Curve (House of Denial is a brilliant company to deal with). I tried it on several times. I chose this model because I have some girth and other options didn’t seem right for me. Initially, I was pleased with how it felt and looked forward to my birthday and the day I would be locked in. I managed to find a PDF of ‘A Keyholder’s Handbook - Woman’s Guide To Male Chastity and Sexual Teasing’ by Georgia Ivey Green which I printed out (every single page) and showed her. She said she’d look at it, though it is quite a substantial book rather than just a small booklet. The week before my birthday, LS came down with a rash (not related to sex) that left her feeling down and disgusting in herself. She promised to “owe me one.” I’ve been wearing the CB6KL on and off for a few hours each day, but it hasn’t quite felt right yet. Something was missing, though I couldn’t pinpoint what. Then last week, while watching something arousing (come on, admit it—porn lol), as I got hard, it hit me: I wasn’t feeling restricted at all! I remeasured myself, checked the House of Denial website again, and took the plunge by ordering the CB6K instead. It arrived on Friday. I waited until LS was asleep in bed before trying it on with porn playing immediately; I felt the difference right away. On Saturday, I experimented with various rings, spacers, and pins to achieve a secure fit. That is where things stand as of today. I’ll need to handle her questions when she asks them. The journey begins…

Quick update. LS is still feeling under the weather and so am I. So I'm taking it easy and waiting. We have a day off together on November 14th. Maybe that's when things will start.

> Want2B_Locked wrote: ↑Mon Oct 28, 2019 8:41 am > LS is still feeling lousy and so am I so I'm sitting back and waiting. Hope y'all feel better soon.

I’m doing okay with just a shoulder injury. Made a big step today. I decided on the spur of the moment to wear it to work. Feeling slightly awkward at the moment.

Hi Want2B_locked, a fellow Brit! That’s the exact same book I bought and asked T to read. She read through it and started enjoying knowing she could have 100% control over my erections and orgasms. I asked her to indulge me for April, during which time I would pleasure her wherever, whenever, and however she wanted—a task I admit I’d been somewhat slow in doing previously. But you haven't mentioned what Lady S gets out of this arrangement?? It’s working well for both T and me. I wear it to work (congrats on your first day!), but then follow instructions to lock up as soon as I get home, showering at night with the device in place. Then I unlock to shower in the morning before going 24/7 over weekends. I’ve tried more expensive plastic and metal cages, but ironically, the cheapest ones I found fit me best—snug, no chafing, slightly flexible—and come in clear, black, and pink (T’s favorite!). I can wear them 24/7 without any discomfort at all. An eBay search for... “The 100% Biosourced Resin Male Bondage Cage V2 Small Chastity Device A239”. ...or part of that description should find it. Good luck!

Currently wearing the House of Denial's CB6k and it’s fine. Only cost £13.98 including postage. Just a dull ache to remind me it's there. What does Lady S get out of this? Well, my wife likes control, so that is one benefit for her. She will have full control over my orgasms once she takes the key. I'll keep a spare on my key ring just in case of emergencies, but we’ll need to discuss that further. I tend to do days out involving train travel, so it might be that those days I am unlocked and trusted until I get back home. She hasn't read the entire book yet, though she has been going through it in small stages. We still need to sit down and talk about rules, safewords, and what we want from this dynamic. After all, I would deprive her of PIV or anything else she desires if needed. If she wants me to tie her up and tease her for a few hours, I’d have no problem doing it. It’s really about both of us.

> Want2B_Locked wrote: ↑Tue Oct 29, 2019 6:14 am > After all I would deprive her of PIV or anything else she wants. Once your Lady takes possession **or** the keys you won't be denying or depriving her of anything. It becomes her property and if she wants PIV, she has the keys. What you get out of it is also her decision. She may allow you to climax or she may deny you that pleasure. Your only choice is obedience to her desires.

Hit a blip. the archived discussion Following on from this I've been thinking about boundaries, **safety** and things. I know once Lady S **lock**s me in she is fully in charge. I feel that there should be certain boundaries. 1. One of my passions is travelling around by train for hours. Therefore I feel on those days due to the very limited toilet (and in some cases bad) toilet facilities I should be allowed out. After all I can't touch myself in public. 2. A set of **safe word**s. One for removal of the CB6K due to emergencies (like pain or suchlike). One for other reasons. Everything else is her rules. Thoughts?

When (if) I have a "full time" **key**holder, as in an actual romantic relationship involving **chastity**, I feel like I would want to have a safety key with me at any "risky" time. Sealed, signed envelope for example, or a wax seal with a pattern only she has control of, something like this - that keeps me honest at all times, but is easily accessible in case of emergencies. I would consider almost **any** significant discomfort to be an emergency. I don't **want** to be out, so when I do need to, it means it's serious. And if I consider your example - I'm on a long train ride, something starts hurting quite bad / different to usual mild discomfort, I break the seal and remove myself, inform the mistress (when and what's the reason), relock myself when safe (at my hotel or whatever), inform again, etc. I would want this to be a very clear "non-punishable" (unless in fun ways;)) case. I'm locked in for 17 days now, and during those days one night I woke up with really significant pain from a night time erection, and I just had to unlock myself - usually taking a piss resolves this, but that night, I felt like I could barely make it to the toilet. I feel like I could be trusted with unlocking myself for the night and just relaxing (and I was - just slept through the night). Locked myself back in in the morning. I am not really in a relationship, so it's a bit of a different case, but in one with a keyholder, I would want that ability. You're at the beginning of your journey as I understand it, so you should **always** have this ability. If you settle on a device and wear it with NO emergencies for a month or two, then and only then it might be reasonable to have "no way out" during a normal day. Until then, even just going to work or being alone at home, you NEED to have a way out. Just in case. And you should not be judged for it. And even after you settle on a device that is 99% comfy, if you run into a situation (going abroad, or just several hours away) where you can't reach your SO/KH within a reasonable time, you should have an emergency key with you. And you should not be judged for using it under those circumstances. After all, what use is a broken/disfunctional dick to your mistress?

Perhaps I am being a bit hard-core, but I can see very very few reasons to have an emergency **key**. Obviously official security scans could lead to problems, so wearing a device likely to trigger a scan would be un-necessarily awkward for all concerned, and any medical treatment you know is going to require exposure should require a release. From my own experience, with a JailBird, the only time I have seriously regretted not having a key was when one testicle pulled slowly and very painfully through the gap when I made an inadvertant stretching movement whilst at work, but having the key wouldn't have stopped the pain though I could have re-locked with everything in the right place! As it was I spent a rather uncomfortable 100-mile drive home with "one in, one out". I subsequently closed the gap a bit with the judicious use of a vice and hammer! A plastic device isn't secure, the careful application of force or simple tools will provide a release, though getting a device that fits accurately will dispense with most of the pain from erections etc.

> _lj_ wrote: ↑Wed Oct 30, 2019 6:13 am > Perhaps I am being a bit hard-core, but I can see very very few reasons to have an emergency key. > Obviously official security scans could lead to problems, so wearing a device likely to trigger a scan would be un-necessarily awkward for all concerned, and any medical treatment you know is going to require exposure should require a release. > From my own experience, with a JailBird, the only time I have seriously regretted not having a key was when one testicle pulled slowly and very painfully through the gap when I made an inadvertant stretching movement whilst at work, but having the key wouldn't have stopped the pain though I could have re-locked with everything in the right place! As it was I spent a rather uncomfortable 100-mile drive home with "one in, one out". I subsequently closed the gap a bit with the judicious use of a vice and hammer! > A plastic device isn't secure, the careful application of force or simple tools will provide a release, though getting a device that fits accurately will dispense with most of the pain from erections etc. Hi As we're only starting out on this journey we're a initially cautious, well her more than me. Lady S has a lot of stress with work so talk has been less than flowing.

Tomorrow is a big day. A day off work and hopefully the start of Lady S being my keyholder.

Well I am sitting here caged. Lady S has the **key** (need to get her a chain for it). It went well. She made me put it on and took the key. I have spent the whole day giving her pleasure over and over. She unlocked me for a short while and insisted on PIV and for me to come. I've told her I want to stay like this but I'm not sure she has grasped that yet. She did get off by tell me what to do. and how she wanted me to please her. She was a bit reluctant to let me go out and drive but it went well. She's away for a business meeting next Tuesday so I am going to ask her to take the key.

I already wrote a big bit of text and my phone went on the fritz ..... Friday I self locked. Lady S was not impressed and I sheepishly took it off. Yesterday (Sat) we found we had the house to ourselves. I asked about locking up again and maybe edging and she was ok it seemed. I was summoned up to the bedroom. We're both new to all this (plus she's not fully read Georgia Ivey Green's book yet) so I had to explain. I told not to let me cum no matter how much I begged. She used our under bed **restraint**s to secure me. She did an amazing job too. I asked for a little humiliation but it think that was a bit too far for her at the moment. She told me to put the cage on when she released me. In a fit of rushing I have cracked one of the rings and I will have to fix it. Luckily the slightly smaller ring fits. Lady S had me get her off a few times then told me to PIV and cum. Once I had, I then used the smaller ring and locked back up and spend the rest of the day in it. She wouldn't wear the **key** on a chain this time. Again these are baby steps for her and us as a couple. I've fixed the ring, just need to file to finish now. Today we've been less than amicable about a few thing but she thawed later in the evening and I am trying to get her to take the **key** on Tuesday when she has a meeting a few hundred miles away. It'll be a test for me and us. She made a comment about it this an every day thing now. I so wanted to say yes ... Every day all day but as i say ... It's a learning curve. Onwards we go.

The fix of the ring failed. The two breaks broke again. Since the last **lock** up she's been a bit funny at times. I mentioned to book and was told its "too big" so I am looking at the Lucy Fairbourne book which is smaller (is it any good?). She has a works night out on Thursday and I asked about her taking the key for the day. Sunday just gone we had a huge row and she said "get someone else to look after your stupid **key**" She's thawed a lot past two days then this morning I got her off using hands in bed. I will broached her taking the key in the morning. Her Christmas party is 20th December and I asked her to take the key and she said "Don't think so." I countered with why not. It'd be in your bag. I think I am making a little headway. It does seem to be taking ages.

I almost give up... Asked her to take the **key** tonight witj her and I got a lot of BS hassle.

Don’t give up W2BL! I share your urges and needs - and my KH is really getting there. It’s so hard to explain what we want and what we feel to a woman. They’ve spent their whole lives believing a man only ever wants an **orgasm**, but suddenly he doesn’t ...well he does ...but he doesn’t ...but he will have an orgasm if she, as his key holder, orders it ...but she can take you to the edge time and time again and then lock you back up without an orgasm, and suddenly you’re in heaven!?!? I don’t understand how all this can work for me, and maybe that why it works for me and T - because she knows I don’t understand exactly what testosterone does to my brain either - it’s a shared journey. Are there tangible benefits to her? I mean, if you’ve licked her to orgasm every night for 10 years what additional benefits are there for her now other than you have a cage on? I rarely licked T (too intimate? Whatever...) but now if she doesn’t demand it I’ll ask her every night “is there anything I can do to give you pleasure my darling?” Sometimes yes, sometimes no, but she knows I’ll superglue my tongue to her clit if she asked me to! Just a thought - how about Royal Mail being your key holder and just putting the **key** in the post each time you have it (2nd class post!). Each time it arrives back ask her if she has plans for tonight. If not, back in the post. She can of course have an orgasm from you, but unless the key is in your house it won’t be PIV. Just a thought - hang in there!!

Thanks E+S1 Each time the subject comes up I get the **stock** phrase "You know I'm uncomfortable with it". She won't explain what she is uncomfortable for her. She was "worried" if something I never had a key - I have a spare at hme. Or if we were out ... well she'd or I'd have a key.

Well the past few weeks have been somewhat of roller coaster with Lady S. *December 2019.* So earlier in the month I mentioned her maybe taking the **key** to her Xmas party (20th Dec) This caused a bit of a disagreement. Ever since we have had a car there has been a bit of banter about her 'paying her taxi fare in kind to the driver (me) for picking her up from her Christmas party'. This year she blew up massively and irrationally. Two days of moods. Christmas Eve brought a huge surprise. We woke up at 4am and she wanted me to play with her. Then she edged me three times and when I mentioned being locked up she agreed. She even **lock**ed the padlock in place and wore the key around her neck all day. When it came to bath time for me I asked her to unlock me, she just said "No, why would I do that?" and giggled but did unlock me (*OMG it was hot hearing her saying it*). After my bath she locked me back up and didn't tell me to remove it when going to church on Christmas Eve, something I thought she would do. I spent a wonderful **16** hours locked up. Christmas day she let me use the butt plug on her, something she would normally never do, and I can honestly say I know she enjoyed it but she won't admit it. I made her cum but when she went to ride me I went soft (*Damn you ED!!!*) and she got a bit moody. When I dressed I locked up. She had her bath and looked at the **key** on the chain and said "Really? I wore it all day yesterday for you." Shook her head and it was clear she wasn't interested. Cage removed. Well it's Boxing day and later I'll be taking our lad to his girlfriend so I doubt I'll be locked. I'll be trying to get her more on board in the New Year. Onwards and **lock**ed-wards.

Well it's been almost a years since I posted. Let's face it 2020 has been a utterly awful year for us all. I have had Covid-19 myself as has the wife. And neither of us have been interested in any sort of intimacy since we got it and even now we've cleared from isolation. Locked/Cage wise things have not gone well mostly. It's been an awkward subject, to the point the Georgia Ivey May book got binned. Later in the year we did manage one significant session. I suggested we lock me and I spend the time in bed on a Saturday morning pleasing her with no pleasuring or even teasing me. It went well. So much so she even tugged my uncaged cock next morning and asked why he was "out". I immediately locked up and pleasured her again but I was not allowed to wear it during the day. She complained it makes a noise when I walk, I put an elastic band around it to hold it in place. Then we got freakin' Covid-19. Since then .. nothing. Once we get ourselves better (probably New Year) I am going to try again.

Hello all, In December I decided I needed to push my own limits. I did a full 12 hours self locked. Then did a full15 hours self locked. then only managed a 9 hours due to an issue with a type of dry skin and bruising. Nothing over Christmas. A few nights ago before going to be the LS (wife) was asleep and I put it on on impulse. I slept ok with it (maybe ED was a help here) but I went a full 26 hours self locked and was mighty proud of myself. I need to sit down with LS and try to get her to talk. She's still "uncomfortable" with the idea. She's 52 and still awkward talking sex with me her husband of 30 years. Any ideas on persuasion, well more how to allay her fears or questions?

What a turbulent year we have all Had. In my own relationship things have been on and iff. No advancement in the **chastity** department. I still self lock sometimes. Back in mid November we had a major row. During a resulting conversation she threw at me the fact due to the ED quote "don't you find me attractive, it's not like stay hard without those pills". Then I had thrown at me "... wearing that thing". And you still up it I hear you putting it on or taking it off at night." To the staying hard I got really angry but didn't make a vile comment back. I did tell her tht ws hurtful. To the wering that thing ... I said sometimes. To the last bit I said no it's off by that time if I occasionally do wear it. The last we used it she actually appeared to enjoy the experience. God only knows where to go now. Ideas please people....

It's been about 7 months since I was here. A few changes. The metal cade I had was sometimes causing me pinching and a little discomfort. I've still been self-locking on and off and despite the above issues enjoying it. The wife LadyS has had a few health issues so not tried to ask for her being my KH but now hopefully she is on the mend I may ask again. (Advice on this on how to ask please) On one occasion I took the metal cage my pool little thing was sore and bruised. I also found as it was enclosed it was somewhat unhygienic at times. The other issues was it was a little too large on me and I had a lot of "growing" room. I searched about a bit and found one that was open with bars. 4cm length that gave no "groowing room. Didn't pinch. I must admit in my excitement I did trap a little skin so the new cage only had about 8 hours wearing time the first time but when wearing it it is a LOT more comfortable. I'll give it a few days on and off wearing to see how I go.

Hi all, Been a interesting couple of weeks. I've broken a person best at 26 hours BUT then had to relinquish it as I though LadyS was up for some PIV but it never happened. Then put it back on and again a but ... I had a Covid Jab which has left me very rough. We'll see later in the week.

It’s been a while since I last posted here: I tried wearing it on and off from my November update through early January, when some issues arose. The following days saw me lose all hope of ever finding comfort again. I decided to quit completely. On Tuesday the 31st of Jan, I put it back on for twelve hours. During the night, around 2 am, I woke up with an erection (which is rare for me). Combined with trapped skin and other problems, I took it off. Yesterday at 3 pm, I put it on again. It slipped right in. After applying some moisturizer and making a few adjustments, I was good to go with self-locking (I’ll discuss that more later). Around 4 am, I woke up feeling slightly uncomfortable, went to the toilet, then returned to bed until my alarm. As of now, just past the 24-hour mark. There have been some minor discomforts at work, but generally everything is fine. Self-locking: LadyS has shown complete disinterest in being my keyholder despite my requests. I’ll try one more time, but for now, to ensure I can last a while, I will self-lock. It feels somewhat pointless because my main need was for LadyS to hold the key and control me—not necessarily into all of BDSM, but having her manage my release and orgasms would have been nice.

It takes time. It was eighteen months before my wife took the keys. This gave me time to adjust and get used to wearing it. It also allowed my wife to become accustomed to the idea and see what difference it made while I was locked. My wife wants me locked because she believes I am a better all-around person when in a cage. Don’t lose heart, don’t push too hard; just let her see how it benefits you, which in turn helps everyone else. Good luck.

I agree with Pickle. It took time at first. I thought it was very strange for a while but soon opened my eyes to the benefits! Now I wouldn’t have it any other way!

So a little catch-up since my last post in February. End of February: Managed a 45-hour self-lock. March: Went through several self-locks, nowhere near my personal bests. April – nothing with LadyS apart from vanilla stuff. Two periods over 40 hours of being self-locked. May: Offered LadyS a full body massage. She said yes and I told her she had to ask me to lock it up first. She did. I locked it and used my hands and tongue to make her cum, keeping her on the edge repeatedly. She was fine holding my cock in the cage while we were at it, and then she put her foot on it when I was massaging her legs. Later, she threw toys out of the pram after looking at the cage. Complained that I had a new one and kept it from her, then stayed moody for the rest of the day. I tried to explain that the old one pinched and made noise when walking, which she hated. It was taken off about five minutes after getting out of bed. June: Nothing notable; even self-locking took a backseat. July: Asked if she wanted another full body massage. She said yes and again I told her to ask me to lock it. She did. I locked it, used my hands and tongue to make her cum repeatedly. Made her cum. She held the key in her hand all during this time. Then after she fell asleep... When it came time getting ready to go out later, she had put the key on the side table and it wasn’t mentioned. Later in the day she asked if I still had it on, and I said yes. She seemed unphased. Then at bedtime she told me to take it off, which I did. We have the house to ourselves tomorrow, so I may approach for some intimacy and suggest being locked for the day or the rest of the weekend. Here’s hoping.

Just a quick update. I've been locked since Wednesday afternoon (self-locked). Had two nights of interrupted sleep with night erections (where are the hard ones during the day or when LadyS is involved?) I'm going to suggest I give her one or two morning pleasures, keeping things moderate so it's not a total wipe-out for me—her phrase—which happened last week. I was locked and brought her from orgasm to orgasm, leaving her completely exhausted all day!! Let’s see how this goes.

> Want2B_Locked wrote: ↑Fri Jul 28, 2023 10:02 am > Couple sleep interrupted nights with a night erections (where are the hard erections during the day or with LadyS?) I agree! It's so wrong that night erections don't need the help of a blue pill!

> Curtis wrote: ↑Fri Jul 28, 2023 11:00 am > > Want2B_Locked wrote: ↑Fri Jul 28, 2023 10:02 am > > Couple sleep interrupted nights with a night erections (where are the hard erections during the day or with LadyS?) > I agree! It's so wrong that night erections don't need the help of a blue pill! I agree. No doubt LadyS would say it’s because of her influence that I can’t get hard during our intimate moments. UPDATE: It is 06:30 GMT. I was awake at 03:30 with uncomfortable night wood. I went and peed, and it took about forty minutes to calm down fully. Last night’s was quite painful in the scrotal area (well behind beyond the ring). Cuddled LadyS on and off for about an hour and a half. She came too and I offered her a morning pleasure. Not a wipeout one, just a nice baby oil massage. A lot of time spent on her breasts and I used my fingers to get them steamed up. All while I was naked and caged. Afterward I spooned her, still naked and caged. I love this. Left her sleeping upstairs in bed. That was twenty minutes ago and she is still sleeping; at least that’s what I think so far. She appears online on her phone lol. I'll try again tomorrow to give her the same treatment. EDIT: She's now awake and downstairs, saying she doesn't feel well. Seems one step forward and two back.:(

At 18:00 today I offered the same massage and pleasure as this morning. It was vehemently declined because we are out all day, and she doesn't want to "be exhausted all day". On the plus side, I've now broken a personal best and am up to 3 days and 4 hours. Okay, not on any level compared to some of you guys here... but I think I’ve done well.

Finally succumbed to the pain/discomfort under the scrotum at 4 am. Out all day yesterday and finding a clean public toilet was a huge challenge. Final time locked = 4 days 13 hours I may give it a rest for a day or two.

Well it's been a little while but I relocked on Monday after work. I'd intended to give only a couple of days but my shaft felt more tender than normal, so I decided to take a slightly longer break. Then life got in the way and Saturday came around; she unlocked me because she wanted PIV. It was rather passionate and better than usual. She remained unaware of the cage for those 4 days. So on it went Monday again. Every night since then, my sleep has been disrupted. With our lad moving out later in the year and our lass heading back to Uni, we'll have some alone time. I might be able to talk to her again and try getting her to give it a good go this time. She wasn’t interested in the Georgia Ivey Mae book or any other by the looks of things, but thanks to a post on here I've read site a couple of times and there is some great info and help available. IF, and it is a big if, she tries, I will recommend this site for her to read.

Good morning everyone, A few updates: 1. I’ve just beaten my personal record; it’s now been 4 days and 16 hours since locking up. From this point forward, the outcome is positive no matter what happens. I plan to keep wearing it (with one exception noted below). 2. Every morning, I take off the cage but leave the ring in place so I can shower properly. Since I have a foreskin, leaving everything on gets a bit unhygienic otherwise. 3. Earlier today, I took the whole thing out for a bath and lasted an entire hour! To be honest, I edged three times during that time without any leaks or spillage. 4. Ever since locking up each Monday night until now, I’ve been cuddling close to her with my cage pressing against her backside. She either hasn’t noticed it or just ignores it. However, she did complain last night about having my hand on her breast; she didn't enjoy being woken up by this gentle groping, though I was doing it innocently without realizing. Just now, I suggested to LadyS that we go upstairs for some oral attention from me. Her response? "No, I don’t feel like it right now." We are heading out all day today for a walk around London and the weather is going to be hot. I’ll have Vaseline in my bag so I can reapply if needed during the day to help with comfort. Let’s see whether she feels up for a massage tonight (with me still caged) or perhaps tomorrow morning. Maybe even leading her to an orgasm.

Good morning everyone, Her alarm went off at 6 am. I let her wake up fully before approaching her. Then I asked if she preferred me to take a little blue pill or simply pleasure her naturally. She told me to do what feels right. When I checked whether she wanted penetration or just external stimulation, she seemed more keen on the latter than being inside her. I spent quite a while working on her breasts using baby oil and her favorite small pink vibrator in various ways. She managed to achieve a couple of nice orgasms. Surprisingly, she even allowed me to place the little pink Vibe near her anal area. Throughout this process, she kept calling it bad and naughty, yet admitted it felt good too. I remain locked up now, nearing the end of my sixth consecutive days in the cage. Does anyone else think that removing the device just for cleaning counts as cheating?

> Want2B_Locked wrote: ↑Sun Aug 20, 2023 3:16 am > Does anyone feel the unlocking for the cleaning is cheating? Not at all. If it’s necessary, then it must be done. I don’t need to come out of my cage just for hygiene reasons. My device has an open design (like a birdcage), making it easy to clean in the shower and dry with a hairdryer. Plus, because I have a urethral tube inserted, I can urinate properly without any unpleasant smells or mess. Sneaky edging is another matter though... I’m not sure that would slip past scrutiny?

No cleaning doesn’t count as cheating. It’s proper hygiene, and your keyholder should not only permit it but actually insist on it. I wear a cobra-style cage that is fairly open; this allows me to clean myself in the shower without ever removing the device entirely. That said, there are still times when deeper cleaning is needed, such as after swimming where I need to rinse off chlorine from both my skin and the cage. As for edging? Enter at your own risk.

I’ve now reached day seven plus. Thanks to everyone for the input regarding cleaning; I understand your points fully. Regarding edging: I had assumed that since LadyS is my keyholder, she might occasionally allow me to edge. But no more of that from here on out—it could easily become a slippery slope.

I’ve cleared the eight-day mark now:) Also, for the past two nights, I haven’t been woken up by my nightly erections.

> Want2B_Locked wrote: ↑Tue Aug 22, 2023 1:48 pm > Also past two nights not been woken up with the nightly erections. It might sound strange at first. You’ll actually start to miss that sensation of waking up hard. And then you really appreciate it when those morning awakenings return.

Well, I did it..... It might be a shorter duration compared to some of you guys, but.... Ten Days!!!!! 10days.JPG 10days.JPG (17.28 KiB) Viewed 79331 times

Good afternoon everyone, Thought I’d share an update. My last continuous session lasted another full day longer. Total time in the cage is now 11 days and 15 hours. The reason for this extension was that LadyS wanted some intimacy. We shared a lovely moment where she edged me three times, followed by some pleasant PIV intercourse. Afterward, things started going downhill slightly. I experienced mild depression because LadyS and I weren’t seeing eye-to-eye regarding the situation. Work stress also increased significantly. Then something happened at my job that caused excessive tension, leading to a constant migraine. Combined with feeling stressed and depressed, coupled with some panic attacks, I felt like wanting out completely. I received medication from the doctor which unfortunately made me feel even worse initially. So I stopped taking them since I already have ED (Erectile Dysfunction) anyway, and they would exacerbate that condition. Yesterday, I locked myself up again for a few hours, and it was wonderful; I loved feeling secure once more. Before going to bed later, I removed the device so I could get decent sleep. As I sit here writing this update, I am back inside my cage now. I intend to keep wearing it for another couple of days to build up toward a solid duration and perhaps even set a new personal best record. I’ve been reflecting on why my home life stress (as opposed to work-related stress) seems partly rooted in my desire for LadyS to be my primary keyholder, which she has largely refused. I feel that once our daughter returns to university and our son settles into his own place, she might soften up a bit more. That is what I am hoping. Let’s see how events unfold.

Greetings everyone, I unlocked myself last Thursday as we were preparing to travel and take our daughter back to university. LadyS was absolutely wonderful in bed at the hotel on Friday night. She permitted me to finish inside her. On Saturday, we had a long drive home, stopping off at several locations along the way and having a lovely time together. This morning when we woke up, she complained of an ache in her back so I offered her a "proper" massage. At first, she hesitated because sometimes I go too far and leave her exhausted for most of the day. However, I reassured her that she would be in charge this time; I promised to do only what she desired and give her full 'control'. She agreed. I gave her a thorough massage covering both front and back using baby oil while keeping her on edge throughout. She must have realized I was still locked because she could feel the device pressing against her leg, arm, side, and later when we were cuddling in the spooning position near her buttocks. Afterward, I came downstairs to make her coffee and handle other tasks she requested. The key has been left right next to her phone so there is no chance of missing it. We have the house entirely to ourselves for all week. Let’s see how this dynamic plays out.

Update: She has completely turned against me. Here are some quotes from her: "I hate it." "It makes me feel sick knowing you have it on." "I dislike that you wore it out of the house for all day long." "Don’t touch me!" My journey appears to be coming to an end.

Ouch!:cry: Sometimes I believe partners don’t fully realize how much their words can hurt. Sorry to hear this. Good luck with everything.

When my wife and I began our chastity journey together, there was a moment when she handed back her wedding ring, stating that she couldn’t give me what I needed. But we talked extensively about it, and for the past year, she has served faithfully as my keyholder. Hoping you can also talk things through and move forward slowly with patience.

I sympathize with you, brother. I’ve experienced some pretty low moments myself and was ready to throw in the towel more than once. My advice—and remember that quality matters—is to keep both your cage and your desire out of sight for a while. This gives her time to cool off and allows you space to contemplate what you truly want. I am seeking intimacy and new shared experiences with my lady. It took years, but eventually I was able to explain and demonstrate these needs to her, which helped open up communication between us. Lately, I’ve developed an interest in receiving spankings from my wife. Why? I’m not entirely sure; I never had erotic spanking before, nor am I certain I’d like it much, but I want to try. For about a year, I kept hinting at it, bought some implements, gave her information materials to read, and hinted again with no success. A few months back she simply said she couldn’t see herself doing that activity. At that moment, I was able to let the idea rest gracefully, saying I understood and hoped one day she might feel differently. She smiled and replied yes, perhaps she will. If I continually press too hard to get my way (my ass lit on fire), she will withdraw and harden her defenses against me. That is what I want to avoid; she is a strong woman after all.

Best wishes to you. I hope matters have settled down and your wife becomes more receptive.... some people truly need time to put things into perspective and realize when they possess a good thing.

Sorry to hear that. I can only suggest that you put the whole subject on the back burner for a while, after all those years your relationship is surely more important than being locked. I first talked about it with my wife ten+ years ago and she agreed to see what it looked like and its been intermittent, I've never worn it unless she's told me to and its come off the moment she mentions it. Sometimes months unlocked for few days locked but I've never pushed it asked for it or put her under any pressure. It usually comes about if we've been mucking about and I've light heartedly challenged her authority, that can lead to her saying I need to be put in my place, "Cage on". Now for the first time after ten years I've been caged for 5 weeks, she says it's until February (and that date is slipping back), it may be or tomorrow she may say that's enough, if so well its been an amazing experience, but she's 100% in control and I've proved it to her. So my advice is drop the whole subject, put everything away. She knows what you'd like but let her do it in her own time on her terms and rules. It may not happen but you sound like you otherwise have a great relationship, enjoy that in the meantime.

Greetings all. It's been a bit. I've been self-locked for the occasional day or two now and then, but I'm currently on Day 6 of this session. Back in December, she offered: "Would you like one of those special Keyholder massages?" She said yes, with the caveat that she had to tell me to lock it. She did. The offer came up again in January; she agreed under the same conditions. When she told me to take it off, I did. I played by her rules. Her old small vibratory device is getting worn out after years of service, so we ordered a new one—a 10-speed model that she loves us using. The past few weeks have seen both of us under the weather. This week, she's been sleeping in the spare room to avoid spreading germs further. She always claimed she never masturbated because it didn't feel as good with her alone compared to sex with me. I happened to look into her bedside drawer for a phone cable and noticed the vibe was missing. I checked all the usual spots but couldn't find it there. Curious, I went into the spare room and discovered it under the pillow of the guest bed:o:o:o It makes me wonder how long she's been using it secretly. This feels like a MASSIVE shift in events. The woman who flatly refused to admit enjoying vibes (we own three) seems to be using this one now. She is so confusing 😕 Let's see how it plays out. EDIT: I got home and checked... the vibe has been returned to her bedside drawer. I'll be keeping an eye on this.

Quick update. I'm almost at day 11 of being locked. She hasn't touched the toy on her own since that incident mentioned above. She's still staying in the spare room and feeling a bit under the weather. Onwards.

An update. 1. She hasn't touched the toy since that Saturday. 2. I mentioned in passing a couple of times about bringing her "little friend" (the vibrator) up to where she's sleeping, but it was just ignored. 3. I have literally just passed the 14-day mark while locked—a real achievement for me.

A little catch up. I've been locked for the past 6 days with no major problems in general. There were a couple of nights where I had really big, hard erections. These eased when I went to the bathroom and took a leak. Yesterday was a challenge. I like nothing more than hopping on trains and traveling around the country. So I did that. 490 miles traveled, getting on and off trains. Over 16 hours out of the house. Finding clean toilets to sit on (or use in service) was tricky. But I managed it all okay. Quite pleased with myself. LadyS has been ill intermittently, so PIV is out of the question. I've offered various options involving just her and my tongue. I mentioned a few weeks ago that LadyS had taken the new vibrator up to her room. Since then, nothing.

Okay, those recent night-time erections are a pain... literally. For two nights running, I've had to get up and urinate to relieve the pressure. The last night, I even skipped clothes and felt better for it. Why do I end up with big hard erections at night, but when LadyS is around, ED kicks in? Makes no sense!

Well, things have gone to pot massively in the past week. I was happily carrying on with self-locking. On Tuesday (14/05), LadyS had a fall and went into hospital to see the doctor. On Wednesday (15/05), I was locked when we went along. Bad news: it's the big C 😪 We got home and talked about it. I took off my lock and unlocked myself. Since then, I feel sort of numb.

Sorry to hear this. Terrible news. I hope all goes well, or as well as can be expected.

> Want2B_Locked wrote: ↑Mon May 20, 2024 7:18 am > Well things have gone to pot massively in the past week. > I was happily going on self locked. > Tuesday (14/05) LadyS got a fall from the hospital to come in to see the doctor. > Wednesday (15/05) I was locked and we went along. Bad news the big C 😪 > Got home. Talked. > I went off and unlocked. > Since then feel sort of numb. Hi all, I think I'm in a place now where I can talk about the past few months. As mentioned, LadyS was diagnosed with Thyroid cancer. On 11/06 she had her whole thyroid removed (another biopsy showed cancer on both sides). During the operation there was a problem, and she now has a quiet voice which is likely permanent. On 27/6 we went to the hospital, and thank God, she is now cancer-free. The week away at the beginning of July pretty much brings us up to date. It's been an insane rollercoaster for the past 8 weeks. We haven't had any intimacy since mid-April, which is driving me a bit mad. I doubt there will be anything like that again until late August or even September, despite offering to go down on her. I self-locked five days ago and have felt much more chilled out and focused. Hoping to break my own record this time. I really hope we can sit down so I can make my case for her to become my KH again. Anyways. Waffled on enough now. Hope you are well.

Great news that she is cancer-free. Glad to see you back on track.

Best wishes for a speedy recovery.

Been a few strange days. I've been happy being locked, although there's some odd soreness in my scrotum. Vaseline has helped. Bad sleep is only due to dreams (not nice ones, I might add). Night wood seems nowhere near as hard or stiff as it used to be. During the day I'm okay, but after work I've fallen into a bad habit of looking at porn or reading erotica. It's like I am pushing myself to get hard, which isn't easy with ED. Achieved Day 10 at 3:30 PM today. Edit: This morning while adjusting the cage, a flow of seminal fluid ran out... quite a surprise.

How strange. I can now reply. Well, I locked up and passed the 10-day mark, and am currently at 23 days!!! I've beaten my own personal best of 14 days. Occasional discomfort at night again, but no problems for the past two days. Woke up Sunday morning and within five minutes got the hardest and strongest erection in what seems like a year. Even while locked it was strong and lasted a while. A bit of a surprise to me given I've had ED for the past 5 years or so!!!!! I have suffered over the last few weeks with some pain under the scrotum, but that has eased a bit. LadyS hasn't noticed me wearing it, or if she has, she hasn't said anything. Onwards towards the 28-day target and then beyond.

Sun 04/08 update I dropped our daughter off yesterday to her boyfriend for a few days. While out, I lost one of my cage keys:o:x I have a spare and it works. I'm now about to order a replacement (which comes with the lock) so that should be here later in the week. Also last night: LadyS received some erotic play from me. Nothing too excessive, but it was the first time since her operation.

Milestone reached today. 28 days. The next milestone is one calendar month.

Yesterday I hit the 1-month milestone. Longest lock-up ever for me. Still having a few issues with under-balls pain that comes and goes during nightly erections, and the underside of my shaft has developed quite an itch. I may have to break free just to sort out that last issue:(

> Yesterday hit the 1 month milestone. > Longest lock up ever for me. Congratulations. I’m approaching the halfway mark to the 28-day goal myself. Keep us posted.

Afternoon all, On Aug 10th I posted that I'd set a personal best and mentioned some issues with the area under my balls. What I hadn't mentioned was that on that same day, LadyS had an accident. The fall resulted in a broken ankle. By the 12th, the pain and irritation behind the balls got so bad I had to take off the cage. It took another six days for things to calm down and my skin to return to normal. Also, our daughter had surgery a few days later, and I ended up rushing her to hospital that same day. All in all, life here has been an utter nightmare. I'm now locked back up. Hoping that in the not-too-distant future LadyS might ask how she can repay me... maybe I can persuade her to be KH for a while so she gets plenty of benefits from it. I doubt it will happen, but I can try.

Sat: Made a bloody daft decision. With my ED, I don't fully achieve an erection during the day (though for some reason I can at night!), hence using the old blue pill. Enter the daft decision—take a blue pill while wearing my smaller cage. Jesus wept. Well, he would have done had he been in my shoes or, in this case—in my cage. At one point, almost his whole head was poking out through the bars at the end of the cage. It took quite a while to calm down. Lesson learned. Sun: After yesterday, I woke with another raging erection again. A trip to the bathroom relieved it and I went back to sleep. When I woke an hour later, the under-balls pain was back. I ended up digging out my old larger metal CB6000 knockoff.:o Once on, it felt WAY TOO LARGE:o:o:o A couple of hours in, all the pains from earlier went away, and after a bath I reunited with my normal smaller cage. Ahhh, it was like coming home. With LadyS still in bed recovering from her broken ankle, I have been getting lots of thank-yous. The last one prompted me to reply (a little too quickly) "well when you're up and about maybe you could grant me a wish." She looked at me curiously. I didn't elaborate further. My plan, if it works, is to ask her to be KH for a few weeks so I can show her all the benefits she gets from my being locked. If she agrees, I will show her the website The Secret To A Happy Marriage. Hopefully it'll convince her that I am not a complete freak.

Well I had to give in. Yesterday the underside of my shaft was red raw and very sore. A regime of cream and moisturizer has brought it back almost to normal. The under-balls area is fine.

OH MY GOD WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME?????????? That's what is going through my head a lot at the moment. A little recap: The under-balls problem is now all fine. The issue that made me take the cage off after 14 days on 07/09 has returned. Then, when I thought it was cleared up, I put the cage back on but only lasted 7 hours. The sore itchiness came back to the underside of my shaft. Since then a regime of medicated moisturizer has helped while flaccid. When erect there is a sore patch. So moisturizing while hard has begun in earnest! I decided to take both metal cages and give them two very thorough cleans just in case. I'm almost desperate to get back into the cage. Almost to the point of wanting to risk the soreness again! What is wrong with me? Am I addicted? Why do I long to be back in? Help!

Well you do miss it when it's not there that's for sure. I liken it to a grown-up soother or blanket. That feeling of being safe. Hopefully, it's not an allergy to the metal. I had that with one of my rings after wearing it for a year; I can no longer wear that specific one. Hope it gets sorted out.

There's nothing wrong with you. The cage gives a nice protected feeling and an erotic sensation. It makes you excited, which feels great knowing that it will last. Everyone knows that feeling when you are almost cumming but just don't want to come yet. Because that specific feeling actually feels euphoric. People aren't addicted to the cage itself, but rather to that one special feeling. The cage is a tool to get and keep that feeling. At least in my case, that's how it works. And maybe that applies to you too; there's nothing wrong with that at all.

> Everyone knows that feeling when you are almost cumming and you just don't want to come. Perfectly stated. Happened to me a few days ago. She desperately wanted my cum, but I was confused about giving it up.

Thanks all. I tried again in my metal cage but was back out after 12 hours with dry skin and irritation. 48 hours out of the cage using medicated Moisturizer (Cetraben) cleared it up by about 90%. This afternoon I reverted to my old clear plastic cage. So far so good (for these past 2 hours). I don't think the irritation had fully cleared up in previous attempts. > Mr Pickle wrote: ↑Mon Sep 23, 2024 12:03 pm > Well you do miss it when it's not there that's for sure. > I liien it to grown up soother or blanket. That feelingnof being safe. Yep, that feeling of being secured and safe. Nothing like it. > waki86 wrote: ↑Mon Sep 23, 2024 12:52 pm > Everyone knows that feeling when you are almost cumming and you just don't want to come. > Because that feeling actually feels euphoric. Very much so... I think it is very similar to edging or being edged. You're on the edge, wanting hardly to cum but at the same time wanting that "high" to last forever. You feel like cumming will take something away from that feeling (and it generally does).

The plastic cage went OK. Only a little dry skin and irritation, so I think it hadn't been long enough to clear up fully. Had to remove it last night as I literally fell out of it while lying down:oops: Am I getting smaller?

Well Merry Christmas to one and all. It's been a few months of trying things out. It does appear that I can now only manage between 8 hours and 15 hours in the metal cage. Previously, I managed weeks and even a month. Lord knows what has changed. I've ordered a Cobra Cage V2 3D Nylon Resin Male Chastity Device Nub (see image). It should be here within the next few days. Thoughts on this please? Happy New Year.

I really like the Cobra Nub. It's comfortable and allows good hygiene while locked. My only issue with the resin version is that I go to the gym daily; I broke three of them before switching back to metal. Have been locked in a metal Cobra Nub for most of the last two years.

> Thoughts on this please. I have one of these. I had to size down the rings because the ball gap is a bit wide. I got mine back in early summer due to working outside; metal gets too heavy in extreme temperatures. I wore it for several months like it was never there, then one day out of the clear blue sky it started irritating my skin; been in metal since mid-September or so. FWIW my KH/wife liked it a lot. That's why she says it looks cute as a nub. She also says it reminds her of a masked superhero:lol:

I have a Cobra N which looks extremely similar. I wore it for months straight, 24/7 aside from sex and hygiene. It’s a great cage.

> InversionOfControl wrote: ↑Mon Dec 30, 2024 6:18 am > I have a Cobra N which looks extremely similar. I wore it for months straight 24/7 aside from sex and hygiene. It’s a great cage. Thanks. That's reassuring. I'll try something to prevent rubbing/chaffing. > Tongue+groove wrote: ↑Sun Dec 29, 2024 5:21 pm > > Thoughts on this please. > I have one of these. I had to size down in rings some because the ball gap is a bit wide. I got mine back in early summer because of the heat working outside. Metal got too heavy in extreme outside temperatures. I wore mine for several months like it was never there then one day out of the clear blue it started irritating my skin, been in metal since mid September or so. > FWIW my kh/ wife liked it a lot. It’s why she says it looks cute in the nub. She also says it reminds her of a masked superhero:lol: I'll try each of the rings that come with it and get the best fit. Thanks for the help. > Sam3655 wrote: ↑Sun Dec 29, 2024 5:08 pm > I really like the Cobra Nub. Comfortable and can keep good hygiene while locked. My only issue with the resin version is I go to the gym daily. Broke three of the resin cages before going to a metal one. Been locked in a metal Cobra Nub for most of the last two years. Thanks. I seem to be having an issue with metal recently. It's due on Jan 2nd or 3rd. Wife and I are away on the 4th, so apart from an initial test I'll probably wait until Jan 6th to try it properly.

The new Cage has arrived. Cobra Cage V2 3D Nylon Resin Male Chastity Device Nub My first impression was OMG it is VERY lightweight. I had to try a few times to get the lock in place but managed it I selected the ring that suited best and matched my current metal one. The Ring fit easily. The first thing I noticed after putting on the ring is its curve. I've never used a curved ring before and it seems comfortable. I compared the Cobra cage part to my metal one and it is smaller. It took five attempts to get the cage and the ring together enough for the lock to go in ok. A couple of times the skin got caught but nothing too bad. One problem with the metal cage is that it juts out a little and can scratch the pubic area. I never got a chance to file the sharp edges. Once the Cobra is on it is very comfortable and I don't realise it is on. The metal one I notice straight away but it fades after a few hours. The Cobra - it's like it is invisible. Not encountered an erection as yet (damn you ED) so I will have to see how that goes. Maybe time for a few of Tom's captioned images and a delve into the video sites. I'll be taking it off to allow a little respite. Not too much too soon. We're away this weekend so that will allow time to adjust. Now been wearing about 20 minutes and having a little issue behind the scrotum so some Vaseline needs to be deployed (now done and waiting for the issue to die down a little). All in all it's a nice cage.

> Want2B_Locked wrote: ↑Fri Jan 03, 2025 10:39 am > Once the Cobra is on it is very comfortable and I don't realise it is on. > The Cobra - it's like it is invisible. Welcome to the "Deep vacuum of outer space". Enjoy the Nub.

So far I like it. As I say I'll start a little bit at a time. Next week I'll be trying it more often and for longer. I'm also going to try (next week) using the cage with all foreskin pushed back so only the gland is in the cage. Lube required to do this.

> . All in all it's a nice cage. Nice cage is one way to put it. Just a few words of caution. 1. Baby oil helps with the plastic rubbing. 2. With the plastic you will forget what it was like to own a penis because you will forget you even have one. 3. If your kh ever refers to it as cute then your future is sealed. 4. Once you accept being in the void, you will always want to return home to the void, when your not nubbed. It gives meaning to the hotel California lyrics. Welcome to the nub club. When herbi told me those words so many months ago I had no idea what I was in for.:D

Afternoon all, Interesting 24 hours. So yesterday I started with the new Cobra Cage. I lasted 18 hours 45 Mins. The reason I had to remove it was some rather bad discomfort under the Scrotum. I'm back home and relocked. a generous amount of Vaseline in the area and all feels comfortable at the moment. Over night it felt fine sleeping in but I awoke at 03:45 with a raging erection which went off after a trip to the toilet. Lets see how the next 24 hours go.

Morning from the UK, Hope everyone is well. Well let's recap the locked times since my last post. 1 days, 9 hours - Removed due to pain under scrotum. 16 hours, 30 minutes - locked a few days later then removed as used larger ring and getting a ball trapped somehow while at work. 1 days, 11 hours - Removed due to pain under scrotum. 2 days, 18 hours - Removed again to due to pain under scrotum. Lock up started 05/02/2025 and still going today. This time I seem to have hit the right ring, the right amount of vaseline. So far! LadyS and I have had a few disagreements over the past few weeks but last two days it's been settled. While I was on an Unlocked period she suggested a bit of PIV. which was good. When I suggested a few days later I got rebuked and it became a bit of tension between us for days. I think we need to sit down somewhere neutral and discuss things. Maybe I can even introduce her as my KH. She's terrible about talking about sex. Thoughts please

> She's terrible about talking about sex. Tough one to comment on. Mrs. G and I live by the motto that “the lack of communication Is the source of all problems “. We committed to this before we married as a part of our marriage commitment. My initial thoughts are: Don’t make the neutral location a public one. Go for a walk or a picnic in the park. Don’t talk about a sex plan. Talk about the growth of your relationship. Don’t force the conversation topic. Do go off topic occasionally when you see her withdraw. Don’t expect to get what you want with one conversation. Plan to spend this kind of dedicated time with her multiple times. Most of all don’t make it about you. Make it about her, be honest but not negative, only bring up the positives without the b.s. she will see through that. Oh, and don’t mention chastity specifically unless she does. Just a few thoughts of mine. No relationship counselor here, just been working with her for 40 years. It is interesting that relationships need continuous stirring and attention like a pot on the stove. When left unattended the product gets ruined. Sorry to babble.

Yooo this is hot! 🥵 I'm gonna check your stuff out

T&G has some really good advice. I am in the same boat as you. Trying to convince my wife to this lifestyle. Take baby steps. Mr. P’s motto, One step forward, two steps back.

Hi all, Well I managed a 8 day session then a 7 day session. It's the being almost forced to stop these sessions that is the problem. I would quite easily continued on the 8 day session but on two occasion my right nut slipped through the ring twice the second time causing a fair bit of pain hence having to stop. That was the 48mm ring. The7 day session I started on the 48mm ring and was ok until a slip through. Although no pain this time I had my 45mm ring with me and I swapped over. Now in the past I have used a 45mm ring with my metal cage and apart from the skin irritation as a reaction to the cage itself I had no issues with it. With the Cobra nub the ring causes problems at night only. I've tried using Vaseline at night and initially it is ok but by 3 or 4am it can be painful. The first night is usually ok but the second night or third night can be really bad. I'm sort of at a loss. On the LadyS front. We're away next month for a few days. The following month she is away to her friend (female) for a night. Another friend (male) is going also to be there and I know she really likes him as a friend. I will be trying to encourage her to lock me while she is away. Maybe even let loose if she desires. Who knows? She's been grumpy as hell past couple of weeks. Maybe our break will help.

Well she blew up on me just now. Cage repulses her ... more shouting.