Surprised and Frustrated by Newfound Arousal in Chastity

Hello, let me first say hello. I’m new to chastity and have been living self-imposed using a micro cage device. I’ve had the cage on nearly around the clock, removing it only for cleaning in the shower. The ring has stayed put the whole time. I find myself in a constant state of arousal that caught me off guard. I’m not certain if being trans is the cause. I completely love how my member disappears visibly. However, this absence comes at the cost of making either the lock or even my testicles more noticeable. Being petite, this only bothers me when wearing tight dresses or skirts. In pants they are mostly unseen for the most part, yet I wish they were gone entirely. Now for the surprising bit: the arousal. I am constantly thinking about being taken in this way and can only sleep if plugged up. Today while napping, the arousal got the better of me, so I tried using other toys anally with the cage still on. The pressure of confinement both front and back, combined with stimulation from behind, made it easy to reach orgasm. It feels like cheating. Though, since there is no key holder or boyfriend involved, maybe I’m not really cheating after all. I am doing this for myself to experience life without a penis wondering if there are better options than just a micro device. Naturally my testicles prefer being tucked inside me, so having them exposed in the cage feels like psychological torture; I don’t want reminders of their presence. Wondering if there are other ways besides belts. It really makes me desire GCSs. Anyway, frustrated and confused but loving the confinement despite what it’s doing to my mind. Would love to hear from you all. PoodleGirl

Hey @PoodleGirl, welcome to the forums! The arousal is normal whether it stems from mental or physical factors due to the ring, or perhaps a mix of both. That can actually be one of the benefits of this play; “frustrated arousal” can be quite fun. I can’t speak much regarding your specific relationship with your genitals. The only thing that comes to mind is Angel’s perspective (a trans man who you can find on Google), who argues that plumbing is just plumbing, works well for pleasure, and advises against rushing into surgery whether one has innie or outie genitalia. I think he makes a valid point: a non-trivial amount of people aren’t happier after surgery, and it can leave folk with chronic pain and/or the inability to experience genital pleasure—a 3 in 10 outcome last time I checked. Surgical techniques may have improved since then. Certainly you’ll want to feel comfortable with your body and be able to love yourself. In my mind, surgery should be the absolute last resort after exploring other ideas like therapy, meditation, relabeling genitals, and so on, simply because it’s risky and cannot be reversed.

Hello @Schnoff, thanks for the warning regarding surgery. Yes, lots of therapy is certainly in order. Onto the chastity topic. I do love the feeling of being caged, confined, and not having a visible penis. It sure doesn’t stop me from achieving orgasm though; it just directs my pleasure to other parts. Men who don’t enjoy being bottoms probably would only have prostate massage options, but for true bottoms out there, de-lish is all I can say. I will broach the subject of caging me with future boyfriends and see if they are at all interested. PoodleGirl