The Importance of Having a Key for Emergencies

I’ve been caged around the clock since 2018, spending the last two years in a Holytrainer Nub. Typically I only step out for about fifteen minutes weekly to handle “maintenance” (washing up and giving myself a quick shave). My partner lives nearby in the same city; we usually meet on weekends and also see each other one or two times during the week. She holds onto the key, naturally, but I possess an emergency backup. It sits inside a small metal tube that is sealed with a numbered plastic tag to prevent me from “cheating” (though not that I would, still).

That sets the stage. The value of having that emergency key became obvious when I had a stroke some months back. It took a moment for everything to click into place after it happened, and then I dialed an ambulance, fully aware of how critical speed is in getting to the hospital. This left me with just under ten minutes to make two brief phone calls, toss a few items into a small bag, and escape from my cage. That part was straightforward—I simply snipped the plastic seal and removed it. I reached the hospital about thirty minutes after the stroke struck, and treatment began immediately following the standard CT scan.

My experience might serve as a timely reminder to everyone: you must be able to exit your chastity device rapidly during an emergency. Had my partner hidden her key somewhere in our home, escaping so quickly would have been impossible. Absolutely not. And nobody wants to find themselves trapped inside their chastity device while rushing for hospital care.

So gentlemen, whatever else you decide, ensure that getting out of your chastity device is incredibly fast!

Incidentally, I had to remain in the hospital for six days. The moment I returned home, the cage went right back on …:D All good now; I still deal with some residual effects, but nothing major.

While I understand your point, honestly the last thing on my mind if I had a stroke would be the embarrassment of emergency and hospital staff discovering me wearing a chastity cage. They have seen MUCH worse things before. I stopped carrying an emergency key about three years ago, but MsM keeps one attached to her ring so by the time she caught up with me at either the doctor's office or the hospital (we live in quite a small town), she would easily be able to hand over that key. That said, I certainly see why you were glad to have your key available. Wishing you a quick recovery!! MsM’s ld

> slave d wrote: ↑Thu Jun 25, 2020 5:52 pm > While I understand your point, honestly the last thing on my mind if I had a stroke would be the embarrassment of emergency and hospital staff discovering me wearing a chastity cage. They have seen MUCH worse things before. True enough, they’ve witnessed much stranger scenarios without doubt. However, there are two caveats: 1. Depending on your profession, you might not want to be exposed - even within the walls of a hospital. 2. If you wear a metal device, an MRT scan could cause issues. In my case, they started with just a CT because it’s significantly faster. The MRT came the following day.

As I mentioned, I understand your position but let's be real; there are plenty of accidents and other incidents that could leave you unable to reach or unlock with your key. You might end up trapped in a car, unconscious, etc., so your specific situation was somewhat unique. Still, the system you described worked well for you, which is great. Trust me, the equipment they use to remove piercings and similar items can handle even a stainless steel device very quickly. Honestly, if I were truly worried about this issue, I’d likely stay unlocked all the time unless I was with MsM at home, making permanent locking impractical for me. As noted before, I’m glad you had a setup that functioned well during such high-stress times in your life. MsM’s ld

I keep a key at my desk. It stays there so I can verify the lock still turns—these mechanisms have a habit of seizing up—and to remove the pin for a thorough cleaning if it’s been about a week and odors start becoming more noticeable than desired. The device can also trap urine. But I don’t carry mine with me daily. What would be the point? If I’m admitted to the hospital and they need an MRI or catheterization, they can just cut the thing off. Mine is 3D-printed plastic, so it’s not a huge deal if damaged. I see the logic in carrying a key to prevent destruction of the device, but it would also need clear labeling. Hospital staff won’t sift through every single key on my ring trying to find the matching one.

As a child, our next-door neighbor worked as an emergency room physician. One day I watched him drive home wearing his scrubs. He stepped out of the car while it was still running, holding a pair of bolt cutters, and snipped off a seized padlock on his shed door. When I asked what he was doing, he explained that rather than buying new bolt cutters just to remove the lock, he had borrowed this specific pair from the emergency room. That day taught me that ERs keep hardware supplies for certain emergencies. Anyway, he got back into his car and drove straight back to work to return the tools before someone else needed them. I see the value in being able to take off a chastity cage without ruining it. Some of these devices are pricey, and replacements can take over a month to arrive. There’s also the aspect of not exposing this kink to those who haven’t consented to seeing it. Finally, there is the potential for embarrassment. Hospital staff are human and they chat with other humans. Privacy laws often fall short at times; I’ve heard stories about patients discussing their names and medical conditions openly among themselves. Healthcare workers strive to maintain confidentiality regarding others' issues, but it doesn’t always hold. All this being said, I lack easy access to an emergency key. If something happens to my wife, I’ll have to rely on bolt cutters or a hammer and chisel to retrieve the cage key. I’ve weighed the risks and consequences. If the cage gets snipped off and requires replacement, so be it; I accept that. Medical staff see strange and uncommon things regularly—I’m not deliberately exposing them to my kink. Finally, even if news spreads that my wife and I engage in a dynamic where I wear metal around my penis, what does it matter? We enjoy adding spice to our sex lives. We are having fun as two consenting adults. Yes, having access to an emergency key so the kink can be paused is prudent if you aren’t willing to accept the potential outcomes of losing that ability in a true crisis. However, it’s highly likely you won’t get the chance to remove it during a genuine emergency situation. I like knowing my wife is the only one who unlocks me; it makes the experience feel more real.

I frequently advise newcomers not to trust any keyholder who doesn’t provide access to an emergency lock. It’s quite easy to tell if it was used by checking methods like a signed coin envelope or simply looking for the numbered plastic seal attaching the key to something immovable. I’ve dealt with burning rashes and fungal infections, and once I had to rush to the hospital for serious surgery where I stayed in quarantine for eight days. Fortunately, I had my emergency lock available because they needed access through my urethra to remove a lodged kidney stone that impacted half of my chest cavity and collapsed one lung while affecting half of the other. Serious business requiring direct access to my penis. I’ve experienced various forms of fetish play and learned to prioritize safety and sanity. I also learned never to submit fully to someone who doesn’t keep your well-being foremost in their mind, even if it clashes with your idealized version of the fetish. For instance, lying on a surgical table after pegging with an overly large dildo once caused me to rip my colon, leading to infection.

We possess three keys. One is purely decorative and I doubt it would affect how tightly our set screw holds my configuration. My wife keeps an Allen-type key beside the bed for when she wants me unlocked, plus another one stored in a bag of ice inside the freezer. When traveling away from home, I lack that safety net entirely. I assume if involved in a major accident, there would be enough time for my wife to arrive at the hospital before a catheter or MRI becomes necessary during my daily commute. For trips out of town, we’ll need to discuss it. At thirty-five years old, I don’t dwell on such situations much, but perhaps something unforeseen could occur that warrants consideration.

If your device uses a standard padlock, here is an easy method to remove it. With laminated locks, the force shatters the shackle, for brass models, position the spanners next to the main body and the sides will split apart quite easily. Naturally, this process ruins the padlock so it cannot be done secretly.

> bondinchas wrote: ↑Sun Aug 16, 2020 10:44 am > If your device uses a standard padlock, here is an easy method to remove it. > > With laminated locks, the force shatters the shackle, > for brass models, position the spanners next to the main body and the sides will split apart quite easily. > Naturally, this process ruins the padlock so it cannot be done secretly. I have a few old locks lying around that won’t see use again. Might actually give that method a try!

Yes, they do matter as I discovered two weeks ago when EMS arrived just three minutes after my call to transport me. I barely had time to retrieve the emergency key and unlock before the crew got impatient because I made them wait while unlocking privately. Prior to that incident, I was rushed to the hospital with an infected kidney stone that collapsed one lung and triggered a severe infection on the left side of my chest requiring eight days inpatient care. That previous surgery required access through my penis to extract the lodged stone and insert a catheter. Had I lacked my emergency key, it would have caused significant delays allowing the infection to spread further. Many people struggle to picture scenarios needing an emergency lock usage. I try explaining that surprises catch you off guard; carrying the key in a sealed envelope lets your holder know if you’ve opened it.

That sounds incredibly painful and frightening. I hope you’re feeling better now.

Ouch!! I’m so sorry to hear that. I also hope you feel much improved now.