DirtyDoc Starting Fresh Together

Greetings to everyone here! I’m new around these parts, though I’ve been a long-time admirer of living chastely, at least partially. I am 63 and my wife is 49. We have dabbled with male chastity for a while now, and we both love how it enhances our bond. It isn’t the strict 24/7 lifestyle some folks here follow, but as I mentioned, we are just exploring. Usually, I would ask if she wants to play the game. The rule is simple: no orgasm, whether by me edging alone or her handling it daily without letting me come. She of course remains free to use her Hitachi wand whenever she likes and enjoy multiple fantastic climaxes on her own. She has never cared much for wearing a cage, preferring that I act with honor instead. I can honestly say I have kept my word. Recently, we found a slightly different approach to our dynamic together which she really enjoys. I am eager to see where this path takes us.

On New Year’s Eve, we had our usual sexual encounter and both thoroughly enjoyed it. HOWEVER, the next morning I felt compelled to do it again. Our typical rhythm is about once a week on average. However, because it had been over two weeks due to the holiday season, that NYE session didn’t reset my urge completely. With more holidays approaching, we hadn’t had much time together since then. Since NYE fell on a Saturday and Monday morning brought a strong desire for me to gift myself a good orgasm, I found myself at this crossroads. As I was savoring the feeling, I decided to hold back slightly to offer her a new twist. A few days later, I invited her for a full-body massage performed properly on our table. By proper, we mean completely naked. I also made it clear that this would be 100% her time alone. When she arrived, she absolutely loved the experience. During the session, I explained what had happened since our last encounter and how openly I was displaying my desire for her. She seemed to like hearing all of this. After receiving her massage, she asked me to lie on my back. She started teasing and pinching my nipples—a major turn-on for me—and massaged my testicles. As I remained hard, throbbing, and leaking noticeably for her benefit, she asked what was on my mind. We discussed it and both agreed that we were enjoying the increased attention and affection I have shown over the past week, and she wants this to continue. Her proper massage happened again a few days later; during the teasing afterward, she used her wand several times.

We are heading to Orlando next week for a conference combined with vacation. The first full day there will mark exactly two weeks since my last orgasm. If she prefers I wait until after our trip, it will be roughly three weeks total. At that point, I naturally think, why not go for a month? We haven’t discussed this yet, but we will talk soon once we arrive. I feel that if we pass the two-week mark, it might be wise for me to wear my cage when I am not actively caring for her. This is ultimately her choice.

So far in all of this, I have had no urge to cheat or complain about needing a release. So I do hope she wants to keep things going for a while longer. I am so glad I found this community around this time and plan to journal our adventures and progress here for you all to follow. I look forward to any comments the group might wish to share.

Sorry for such a lengthy opening! My typing just flowed, and I wanted to set the scene clearly for everyone. Until next update …!!

Well … we are almost ready to leave for our week in Orlando before dawn tomorrow. My fullness serves as a constant reminder of how much I hope she enjoys her daily massages if she chooses to have them with me. The first order of business will be discussing exactly how far she wants my denial to go. As with anything in relationships, and especially within the non-traditional choices found here, good communication is vital so that we both feel fulfilled. After two weeks of being denied while remaining free under my honor, I am quite torn about what length of time I hope she will choose for me. A full, strong **orgasm** would feel wonderful. But naturally, that ends these current feelings. At the same time, I strongly want to provide her with as much pleasure as possible at the cost of my own comfort. It is her decision. Tomorrow begins what could be a wonderful new path for our relationship.

It is indeed not necessary at all for a man to wear a **chastity cage** in order to practice **chastity**. Withholding a male **orgasm** has the same effect without wearing one. Miss R suggested the **chastity cage** to me, which I also considered carefully. I wear the cage that I do because Miss R thinks it looks nice and cool. And I also think it holds something special. We also view the cage as a beautiful piece of jewelry. I myself have come to love the feeling of being unable to get a full erection. You simply cannot replicate this feeling with anything else. For Miss R and me, good communication is also very important. And every time we experience something or want to try it out, we gather extensive information about it.

Oh yes waki!! I agree 100%. I saw somewhere here that even with a cage, we are all on our honor. No **chastity** device is so good that you couldn't slip it off if you tried. Now, putting it back on sneakily is a different matter. Compared to many in this community, we are only just starting out. Tomorrow marks two weeks of denial for me. I can feel the changes happening in my testicles and cock. My desire for my wife is building. As we fly to Orlando for our vacation, I am torn between happily accepting a nice strong **orgasm** or making it clear that she deserves to enjoy my attentions while staying as we are.

Indeed, wearing a cage requires discipline, to continue wearing it properly without cheating. **Chastity** is about being able to control yourself amidst the building tension. As a result of which you perceive your own changes and that your partner perceives them too. Which allows people to make a beautiful new journey together in the world of erotic desire and attention. As a result, people gain new desires and ideas together. That beautiful journey is different for everyone.

So true waki!! So difficult to maintain my **chastity** when I could just sneak one out. But then the whole effort is lost. And I am sure she would know. Last evening was our first night on vacation!! We were tired from traveling, so we went straight into her massage. When I do this for her, I am always naked to be open and vulnerable. After a good long time focused on her, she had me lie back and returned some attention to my testicles. Felt so good! Then she began to stroke me using only her thumb and one finger. OMG! I had to ask her several times to slow down or stop. I was so on edge. And she loved it. She grabbed her Hitachi wand, a clear signal that she won't need me for release. Told me to stand beside the bed and edge myself until she finished. So many strong **orgasms** for her. For me, it is becoming clear she enjoys my **chastity** and will likely continue enjoying it in the foreseeable future. She mentioned that if I am allowed a **release**, it will be a slow and careful perfect ruin. But even that is only maybe. She’s going to love this vacation; I can see it.

Well … vacation is coming along nicely, as expected. However, I am not cumming. Well, not the way a normal guy would while away with his sexy wife on vaca. On the second night, she decided after her massage that she wanted to tease me up again. I was throbbing and leaking heavily. It had officially been two weeks since my full **orgasm** on NYE, and my desires were on high overdrive. She knew this and enjoyed hearing me describe what I felt. After so many slow, soft strokes leading to multiple edges, she pushed one little stroke just a bit farther. I was at that point of no return! But she removed all touch in perfect time. And I felt the agony as my testicles tightened and my cum poured out uncontrollably. It would have been easy to grab it myself and pound out a full **orgasm**, but honestly, that didn't cross my mind. Only to endure the pity ruin that she chose to let me experience. Within an hour, desires and true chaste feelings returned, and she had a big smile of satisfaction from her handiwork.

We made it back home from our vacation tired but with lots to catch up on. It was an amazing time. A new adventure into what may become just the way things are for us. I am still **chastity** since that perfectly ruined pity **orgasm** she gave me a week and a half ago. My desires are getting so strong now, which is good because it places more focus on her and her needs. I notice myself jumping to help with tasks like grocery runs or house chores so that she doesn't need to worry about things as much. She notices too; as she has put it, she feels I am behaving much better. Life has been hectic since our return, but tonight we should get some quiet time together. My goal for the day is to give her a nice proper massage. By "proper," we define that as her relaxing naked on our table while I remain naked and putting all my focus into her pleasure. She usually wants me to place my **butt plug** (or **plug**) for this session, maybe giving myself an edge or two just to set the mood. She very much prefers to see me aroused and preferably leaking. Especially if we have made that foregone decision that I won't need a full orgasm right then. That reinforces the idea that all pleasure is directed toward her. She also likes feeling my **butt plug** as full while she gives her massage. Well, this is how I believe tonight will go for us. We shall see. I'll update after I know. In other news ... I want to really thank everyone on this board for all the posts and stories. They've helped in some way as we settle into this lifestyle. Especially those few folks who answered my PMs with personal words of wisdom.

Wow!! What a great night last night. I feel big steps in what seems to be becoming our new normal. Life has been so hectic since returning from vacation a week ago. Haven't even had time for simple cuddles. But finally, a quiet evening and my wife said she wanted a nice, proper massage. So after the dinner I prepared for us, we headed down to the **butt plug** room. She stripped down to just her yoga pants and stated that she wanted me to focus on her shoulders and mid-back. I also stripped down; by our definition of a proper massage, this means me completely naked with a **plug** placed. She likes seeing me half-erect and leaking as she gets her massage. This time is 100% for her, including my needy desire clearly in view. After a solid half-hour of relaxing her muscles, just as she was gathering her legs to get up, she told me to stay there in front of her. She proceeded to tease and pinch my nipples. This is an enormous on-switch for me. As she did this without doing anything else, she watched me grow fully erect and throbbing. My full testicles wished this might be the pity **orgasm** coming up. But I found that was not her intent. For about 15 minutes solid, I stood in front of her as she focused solely on my nipples until my knees started to get weak. She then said she wanted to go to our bedroom so she could enjoy her wand. As we lay back down, I just lay there without touching until she told me what she wanted done. She had me under her control and knew it. As her wand buzzed on her clit, she instructed me to start edging myself. This went for at least another half-hour. She climaxed repeatedly on that wand while I obediently edged over and over. I was close a few times; I feared losing it. But I remained good. Finally, she had enough just lay there watching me continue as told. After only a short bit more, she said "that's enough now, time to go to sleep." I asked if she wanted my cum left where it is and she quickly answered "well, of course." We lay there calming down from our evening and talked. I asked how long she wants me to stay backed up; her only reply was, "I'm not sure, probably a while." Now, she has never gotten very into this type of play before, so it is exciting to see her enjoying it like this. Part of me feels a bit cautious about what we are asking for. An obviously larger part of me feels high and excited. We drifted off to sleep leaving the conversation at agreeing that we need to talk about "the game" as we call it mainly so it's out in the open and both know what the other wants from this. I can't wait for this talk. Maybe tonight.

Good luck on your **key** conversation. Communication is key for starting off in the right foot. Hopefully you can get past the “game” and start living it. Maybe once she sees how she benefits from keeping you locked, attentive, and yearning, she will open up and spread her wings.