Naughtyinchastity Ending Self-Locking: Voluntary Handover of Control and Key Holder Authority in Chastity

My choice to stay chaste mainly stemmed from my tendency toward excessive masturbation, which had a clearly negative effect on both my everyday routine and work life. By removing the ability to masturbate, I hoped it would help me improve myself, focusing on more important, useful, and interesting aspects of life that I had neglected for fleeting pleasure.

It was a sound decision with no regrets; thanks to it, my daily existence has improved significantly. Although I initially worried about selecting the right chastity cage and how to restrict access to the keys, I adapted relatively quickly to being chaste. Despite the frustration from lacking release, I did my best not to seek relief and stick to a plan that was hard at first but became easier over time as I learned to focus on other tasks, exercising my strong will. For me, success meant going fifteen days without any relief before handing over the keys, compared to several times a day when I locked myself in.

Thus, I decided to be consistent and take the next step by giving the keys to my partner, who handles my discipline and control. We share a D/s dynamic as governess/charge, but we hadn’t discussed chastity before because I was ashamed of my habit. When deciding on chastity, I didn’t want to venture into unknown territory without being sure I could adjust to wearing a cage, since it requires acclimatization and training. I also wasn’t certain if she would agree to be my Key Holder (KH) and accept locking up herself. So initially, I locked myself in and hid the keys in a timed box without telling her, breaking our usual rules despite knowing I’d face the consequences.

Before we were set to meet over the weekend, I took a chance and told her about my desire to be chaste, admitting why I needed it and acknowledging that I had broken the rule of not informing her. A few hours before our meeting, I let her know I was locking myself in. She replied that we would have a serious talk and asked me to bring my device to our encounter, while forbidding me from wearing the cage beforehand so I could enjoy my final moments of freedom. However, she strictly prohibited any form of masturbation. It felt strange yet difficult; the urge for release tempted me to please myself. Still, I didn’t want things to worsen because hiding my state meant greater consequences if I broke her ban. Since I’m not good at lying and her punishments can be severe and painful, I held firm.

Upon arriving at her home and preparing to stay, I was invited for a talk. It went quite peacefully, which surprised me given that she didn’t know about my hidden state. She seemed pleased with the prospect of chastity in our relationship, noting it would elevate us, give her new ways to control me, and bring positive changes to my behavior. I agreed, reflecting on past self-locking experiences where I had to explain my reasons and share details about being locked up.

After questioning, she stated she didn’t approve of masturbation. Given my issues with it, she felt I shouldn’t hide this despite the shame, especially since my position in our relationship required me to avoid bad habits. She also emphasized that I should not conceal my desire for locking up. Furthermore, although her intentions were good, I had broken the rules and would face consequences—realizing my fears. After punishment, we would set new rules, and I would be officially locked.

This happened exactly as predicted. Following a painful penalty for breaking the rules, we spent the evening establishing my chastity guidelines. Once settled, my partner—who acts not only as governess managing control and discipline but also became my KH—officially locked me up.

We created these rules together, considering hygiene, safety, and discretion, balancing both our expectations through compromise:

• Chastity 24/7 with mandatory breaks for hygiene and checks every two days or more often if needed.
• Longer breaks are possible for doctor/hospital visits or meetings, provided there is prior arrangement and consent from the KH, involving constant observation.
• Hygiene after unlocking must occur at an agreed time. Once done, the cage must be immediately returned to its place, proven right away. Hygiene during meetings happens under the KH’s supervision.
• Orgasm is permitted once a month. Violating rules means losing that monthly orgasm opportunity until the next cycle.
• Wet dreams are allowed; if they occur, I must notify the KH.
• Changing the cage is allowed after informing the KH and specifying the type of new cage.
• Managing when to lock spare keys in the time-lock box falls to the KH. When a locking time is set, it must be confirmed immediately that the keys are inside with the correct setting and the box securely closed.
• Upon request by the KH, I must prove the cage is locked and in place within her specified timeframe from when the message arrives.
• Touching the cage is only allowed for hygiene, physiological needs, or control checks.
• Stimulating the cage via rubbing or other devices to achieve orgasm is prohibited.
• Any attempts to cheat and exit chastity to reach orgasm are forbidden.
• Opening the spare key box before the KH’s designated time expires is not allowed.
• In emergencies, I may open the box and exit chastity but must immediately notify the KH.
• Voluntary locking lasts indefinitely. I can withdraw anytime, though re-locking, control, and possession of keys by the KH will no longer apply.

If necessary, we can revisit and adjust these rules.

As of 30/08/2024, a new chapter in my chastity journey has begun—I am locked under the key holder’s control. This differs greatly from self-locking because I previously held control; now it belongs to the KH, impacting both behavior and our relationship dynamics. I’ve become more obedient, less oppositional, and no longer rebel as before even when punishment loomed. During self-locking, relief was possible though difficult; now that I’ve surrendered control and keys, escape is nearly impossible due to a well-fitted cage. Attempts to exit or stimulate for pleasure are prohibited and result in punishment plus an extension of the orgasm wait by another month.

Frustration remains but doesn’t make chastity harder; I try not to dwell on it and focus on beneficial distractions from temptations that are now impossible and forbidden. Especially since my la

It’s been nearly a month since my last orgasm, and the monthly relief period starts from when KH locked me up. I’d rather stay good, stick to the rules, and remain in my chastity cage as I intended and agreed upon. I hope this post isn’t too tedious for you. I’ll keep updating with news about my time in chastity. Feel free to share opinions, ask questions, or offer suggestions. Best regards.

Looks like you've got your masturbation issues sorted. How did that first month of chastity go for you?