JustChattin The Shoulder Devil Triumphs Again

Apologies. I got the forum mixed up. I wasn’t seeking answers to questions I hadn’t posed. Take care.

I’ve been exactly where you are. It took me two weeks of experimentation before I told the truth. I also looked at *Locked in Love by Key* Barrett. After sharing my desires with my wife, I stepped back and gave her room to breathe. I waited for her to bring it up herself. When she did—after about two days—I was completely surprised that she agreed to a two-week trial. During those weeks, I didn't push; I just let life unfold naturally. We went on and off like that for roughly a month until it eventually became our new normal. The day she suggested we try this was Jan 11, 2024. Almost a year later, what a journey it has been. Openness, honesty, and patience in communication are key. You might be pleasantly surprised by the outcome.

The first six paragraphs of your post explain your feelings and concerns very well. It is quite honest. I would start with that approach. Best wishes.

I wear a Kink3d Cobra and can confirm the packaging is discrete. You should be fine there. About five years ago, I was in very similar shoes to you. After years of trial and error—playing with it on and off my wife now keeps me locked 24/7. As *@Tongue+groove* mentioned, I approached the topic carefully. She was hesitantly open to it, and we spent those years testing and building our dynamic, finding what worked for us. Be brave, and have hope. 🖤

> JustChattin wrote: ↑Sat Nov 16, 2024 4:26 pm > I also have been masturbating much more frequently -- by far the most often while watching videos of men in various chastity-relevant situations. Lol, how ironic > I would be buying and using a sex toy behind my wife's back. I’ve done this before so no judgment here, but personally, I wouldn’t do it myself. Good luck with your adventure.

A wise KH has said. Communicate Communicate Communicate. Talk to her. Show her the cage TRY to explain your interest. It isn't easy though. Good luck

Apologies.

Be careful sending things to your work address. I worked with a guy who bought porn videos and had them delivered to the office. The mail room opened all packages before forwarding them to him. He didn't stay employed long after that incident came out.

> I need to figure out how to talk to my wife of 25 years about this. Another humbling thought. This will be just the first of many once you get past it, and you will. My personal advice (unsolicited) is to share your midlife crisis thoughts with her. When she sees all the effort you’ve made to protect her from the situation, she should hopefully become more understanding and sympathetic. The fact that you couldn’t finish the other night might be because your mind was consumed by this “crisis.” When I was in your shoes (and I definitely was), my wife was shocked but impressed that I had actually experimented without her knowing. When I finally broke the news, she felt relieved with what I told her. She expected me to say I had cancer or wanted out of the marriage. I asked her to consider helping me with a two-week trial and left it up to her. 36 hours later we were getting frisky and she asked to see it on me. So I locked up. She took a good long look, even touched it, asked about comfort, then suddenly said: “Well, I guess we just started a two week trial.” She had sex that night with me; my penis was not involved. Hopefully you will have a similar experience, and I think you will. Looking back, I wish I would have come clean sooner. Good luck.