Hello I'm New Here. My Husband Needs To Be Locked Up! Do You Have Advice?

My husband and I have been married since 2014. We’ve had a mostly happy marriage until 2022, when I spotted him masturbating during a Zoom call with his co-worker. It caused a big fight. Long story short, I forgave him, and he insisted that the co-worker quit her job. Until recently, I caught him exchanging flirtatious messages with another woman again. I called him out on it. This time I stayed calm. I brought up chastity into the conversation, and he seems interested, suggesting maybe it could save our marriage if I let him cage his cock while holding onto the key. To be honest, it sounds exciting. I want to control his urges, and he says it might help! He claims he loves me but just can’t resist masturbating. The idea of me controlling when he gets to jerk off is awesome, and I think it ensures he won’t cheat again. What do you guys think?

First off, there are some underlying issues between the two of you that chastity alone won’t fix, but as adults, you can probably work them out. Then there’s the simple fact that unless he gets a PA piercing and uses a cage with a PA lock, he can always pull out of the cage to masturbate if he really wants to. I’m not trying to discourage this route for you, but it’s important to keep your expectations realistic. A properly fitted chastity cage—even without a PA piercing—can be a powerful reminder of your commitment and help him regulate his urges, but he needs to be as into it as you are. Probably even more.

He says he'd like to give it a try. I know things are difficult between us right now, but we've been together for over 15 years. He's never acted this way before, so I believe this is just a phase. We probably just need something new to spice up our marriage, and chastity sounds like a very interesting idea. We're planning to shop for cages this week. Do you have any suggestions?

I’m really sorry you’ve had to go through that, Lena Sweets. You sound incredibly strong and self-aware; if your husband doesn't see how beautiful you are, then there's something wrong with him! But I have to say it’s encouraging that your husband seems willing and even interested in the thought of chastity play. That tells me there’s still a door open between you two. My advice would be to talk through expectations and rules first before you purchase a cage. And when you do buy one, don’t rush into locking him up 24/7 right away. I would suggest that you choose the cage together so he ends up with one he actually likes wearing. Honey, remember you're not alone in this. Whatever happens, we’re here if you need support.

I’d recommend ordering several cheap cages with different sizes for the cage itself and the base ring. Measure his flaccid length and subtract about 15-20% when you order the cage. You’re almost guaranteed to receive a cage that will be wrong in one or more ways at first, but hopefully, this gives you a good idea of where to go next. I wouldn’t buy an expensive cage as your first one.

*@Lena Sweets* welcome here Lena! I saw this post as well on Chasity Mansion and you said that when you had him locked before that all he did was complain... ..how did you resolve that issue, if I may ask?

> denied_one wrote: ↑Mon Jun 23, 2025 7:14 am > @Lena Sweets welcome here Lena! I saw this post as well on Chasity Mansion and you said that when you had him locked before that all he did was complain... > ..how did you resolve that issue, if I may ask? Hey! Yes I'm on Chastity Mansion as well. The first time my husband and I tried a chastity cage, he did complain a lot. Mostly about pinching and not being able to sleep. Honestly, I didn’t resolve it right away… we just stopped after a couple of days and then weeks went by. Since then, I realized it was more about the cage we used than the idea itself. The cheap metal one from Amazon just wasn’t comfortable for him. We switched to a lighter plastic cage recently, and that’s made a huge difference.

has some cheap metal cages to experiment with

> Lena Sweets wrote: ↑Tue Aug 12, 2025 11:50 pm > > denied_one wrote: ↑Mon Jun 23, 2025 7:14 am > > @Lena Sweets welcome here Lena! I saw this post as well on Chasity Mansion and you said that when you had him locked before that all he did was complain... > > ..how did you resolve that issue, if I may ask? > Hey! Yes I'm on Chastity Mansion as well. The first time my husband and I tried a chastity cage, he did complain a lot. Mostly about pinching and not being able to sleep. Honestly, I didn’t resolve it right away… we just stopped after a couple of days and then weeks went by. Since then, I realized it was more about the cage we used than the idea itself. The cheap metal one from Amazon just wasn’t comfortable for him. We switched to a lighter plastic cage recently, and that’s made a huge difference. Where did you buy the plastic cage that worked for your husband?

Oh hey! We bought it from Lock the Cock. We paid about 40 bucks for it and it has electric features that James really liked. This is the link to the cage we bought ... 3696198710

It looks like you are going to have some fun.