Self-Locking Journey

Hello all, I’m a 43-year-old man currently on day four of my self-imposed chastity, and I’m feeling rather isolated. My wife (32f) doesn’t really take on the role of keyholder for me, and we have an agreement in place where I agreed not to press her about it. However, I feel like I need a voice when things get tough. I’m looking for someone to provide that sense of responsibility while I’m locked up. While I only want my wife as my primary kh, having another person hold me accountable could make this period much smoother. Is anyone interested in being that partner? Please send me a private message if you’d like to connect. Thanks!

I also practice self keyholding. It's certainly manageable. Having someone to discuss your experiences with is really useful. Self chastity can get tedious at times, but it helps you discover new aspects of yourself that are quite thrilling. Don't hesitate to DM me if you want to chat.

You made a pact with your wife where you promised not to bring it up?

Gdez82, Typically, this is a gradual and extended journey. It seems you are just starting out. You have quite a few potential obstacles ahead of you. Since your agreement involves keeping the topic quiet regarding chastity, try shifting focus to other areas instead. The best guidance I ever got was simply: communicate more, communicate often. Keep going strong. Ark

> Gdez82 wrote: ↑Fri Feb 20, 2026 11:18 pm > Hi everyone, > I (43m) and on my 4th day of self chastity but I'm finding it to be kind of lonely. My wife (32f) is not into being my kh and I've signed a contract saying that I wouldn't bring it up with her. I feel like I need to talk it, though. I need someone to talk to when I'm in need of some accountability. I'm not interested in anyone but her being y kh but I think an accountability partner might make getting through this a little easier. Would anyone be up for that? Feel free to shoot me a dm. Thanks! Was your agreement similar to a marriage contract?

No, it's just the standard chastity agreement we have. It outlines my duties within our relationship and sets out penalties for things like masturbation.