Reward vs. Punishment

Many blogs cover this subject and related ones (thanks Dev and Tom as examples). My wife and I had a fascinating conversation over the weekend since we are both attempting to lose some winter weight. She proposed that I could enjoy an orgasm for every few pounds shed. We experimented with this approach during previous summers, and it was successful. However, I admitted that MC serves as a reward rather than something negative, meaning I do not view sex merely as currency. Consequently, we settled on acquiring a new devicer once I drop enough weight. Our arrangement works best when we establish shared targets and collaborate.

That is great! People frequently mistake MC for a punishment device instead of recognizing it as a rewarding relationship booster. Regarding myself, I simply wanted to be the most attractive person in my fifties on our street; orgasms were irrelevant. This reminds me that my winter break is concluding soon, so it is time to return to exercising at the gym.

Thank you. I make an effort to avoid passive aggression, but this situation allowed me to probe her thoughts regarding a suitable waiting period. She estimated it would take two to three weeks to lose five pounds through consistent and healthy habits (eating well and exercising regularly).

I struggle with using sex as a form of punishment. In fact, I generally dislike punishment when it is used to change behavior or motivate action. I am more of a carrot person than a stick person. This skepticism explains why some femdom practices involving elaborate training and retraining programs centered on sexual behaviors (including chastity) irritate me. Yes, I understand that their passion drives them, but much of what they do contradicts my beliefs about human nature and the people around us; therefore, it does not feel erotic or appealing to me. Some aspects seem genuinely abusive in my opinion. But that is just my perspective. Regarding TCS, good luck with shedding weight. An orgasm upon losing five pounds sounds like a wonderful reward -- far superior to the bowl of ice cream I usually treat myself to when hitting a milestone.:D D

That is encouraging news tcs! It is nice knowing you can collaborate and yes, MC acts as a reward;)

Chatelaine casually noted that she had heard 'aversion therapy' works best right after an orgasm. I responded that being spanked with empty balls would be unpleasant because it makes the sensation harder to sexualize, though I am unsure if this is her plan. Since she mentioned it less than an hour after bringing me to climax without taking further action, I attribute it to a mind-fuck (which she enjoys) where I wonder more about what follows my release rather than when it will happen. It just occurred to me that the children were home, so she could not have inflicted much pain anyway; perhaps it was meant as T&D but went slightly off course when told to cum over her breasts, which I did promptly.:o I will know for certain in a few weeks, but is the theory solid and does anyone here experience (couldn't resist) this version?

> member_4e3795d05d wrote:Chatelaine casually noted that she had heard 'aversion therapy' works best right after an orgasm. I responded that being spanked with empty balls would be unpleasant because it makes the sensation harder to sexualize, though I am unsure if this is her plan. I have found that while I dislike certain things happening immediately after climax, reflecting on them a few days later makes the idea incredibly appealing, and I desire repetition.

I asked her (considering what happened) if she intended stamina training. She confirmed that it was not the case. I am not overly worried; her comfort zones lie well within my limits and this is likely just a tease on her part.

Last night we concluded a monthly cycle. Chatelaine stimulated me to an erection, unlocked the front ring of my Steelworxx Dual Cock Ring, and placed her hand inside her panties. She demonstrated turning her rings inward and began providing manual stimulation. "If you want me to stop, just say so." I requested permission to cum and received it, but I had not considered asking to halt the activity. Thirty seconds after finishing my release, I was pleading for her to cease. She has apologized a couple of times today for being overly rough, though there are only minor scratches and sore balls arriving twenty days earlier than expected.