Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

RANT Alright. I’m going to voice it and let you call me the “lightning rod of hate” if you want… I really dislike wearing my chastity belt - specifically the CB3000 - while dressed in typical men’s streetwear. I own a couple pairs where it’s barely bearable, but generally, just being uncomfortable is enough. It isn’t a good kind of discomfort.

My main complaint is that my clothes and underwear push the A-ring into my pelvis, causing pain. This leads to an achy back, groaning joints, and even a f*cking headache! Grrr… The issue seems to be mostly due to tight inseams on my pants. Even when I tuck everything perfectly, the CB doesn’t sit right under my clothes. It’s frustrating. I usually stick with blue-jeans and don’t plan on changing that habit. I avoid super-tight emo-style trousers (who in their 40s wears those?) and I certainly don’t drop them down to my knees like teenagers do… My pants sit at a “normal” height, so there you go! It just isn’t working for me. I doubt there are any men’s pants that offer comfort with the CB underneath - at least not for my body.

Sure, I’ve tried going commando with similar results, so it’s not my boy underwear (Hanes) to blame. I’ve also experimented with panties of various shapes and sizes. It really comes down to the pants.

If only I could wear women’s clothes all day, I’d be in paradise. I love sleeping with just my CB because that’s the only thing on me. I enjoy wearing it under skirts or minis with flimsy panties, or even just a garter belt and stockings with nothing else… But when it comes to mixing the CB with men’s attire - this girl is not pleased!

I truly want to be a sissy, stay chaste, and serve someone - oh yes. I’m open to D/s dynamics and some degree of pain, but not that indirect discomfort caused by wearing a CB under male clothes - there’s no sexual thrill or turn-on from this specific type of ache. I just wish I could go cold-turkey and be a girl like some of you all are - constantly! You inspire me, but right now I’m sitting here feeling quite frustrated. cry, tears, sniffle

Go ahead - call me a wimp, or a half-hearted puss or whatever it is. It’s just not working out, and I feel sad about myself for feeling this way. Maybe I’m simply not suited for all this CB business if I can’t endure the pain? (I enjoy pain sometimes, but not this particular kind). But as I said, if I could be fully feminized 24/7, this wouldn’t be an issue at all. Whhaaa!

I find that the best approach is to wear lycra shorts-style underpants. That keeps everything secured in place and comfortable throughout the day.

I agree with you Lauren! Jeans just don't work so well unless they are very loose. Try either baggy jeans or dress pants; those would be my suggested answers. Good rant though, heh

Hmm. It’s funny because I have no issues at all. I’m not rail-thin, but neither am I very chunky - my waist is 37". I don’t usually wear skin-tight pants and I'm doing fine. Are you perhaps super-skinny? mikecb

Have you shaved your nuggets and sack?I shave the entire area once a week and havn't had any problems.

**Have you tried....** Have you considered angling the tube so the belt hangs off to one side? I found this made a huge difference. Is it possible that changing to a smaller ring size would help? Reducing the pressure might work. Again - I found this helped. Good luck! Choc

I have a 30" waist and wear pants with either 30" or 31" waists. I'm not SUPER skinny, but certainly slender. Yes my giblet sack is shaved, though I am not completely baby-smooth all over - let's just say that I lack sideburns or goatee hair, while keeping a full head of hair on top:) It’s not skin irritation; rather it is the crowding. The end of the CB tends to hang toward one side of the inseam. My pants force the A-ring back into my pelvic bone and sides (groin?). If I align it with the inseam it REALLY pushes inward. Perhaps it's how Levi's are constructed (thickness). If I wore something with less fabric, it might be more comfortable, but then I’d get cold and worry about visibility at work or in public. 501s are actually not bad. Dress slacks are fine too, though they make me look way too dressed up for my daily routine. Maybe I should take up bagpipes?

> lauren1fem said: > RANT > Okay. I'm going to say it and so go ahead and make me the "lightning rod of hate"... **I really do not like wearing my chastity belt - the CB3000 - when I'm in male street clothes.** > My biggest gripe is my clothes/underwear shoves the A-ring into my pelvis and that hurts. That causes my back to ache, my joints to groan and it gives me a f*cking headache! Grrr... It is mainly because the inseam of my pants are too tight. > **I mostly wear blue-jeans** > I don't believe that there are pants that are comfortable with the CB on underneath - at least for me. > **It's really just the pants.** > Go ahead - call me a wimp, or a half-assed puss or whatever. It's just not working and I'm sad with myself that I'm feeling this way. > Click to expand... Dollyanne feels your pain, lauren! Having the A-ring press into you so hard is no fun. The 2000 and 3000 models are different, but dolly had the issue of the top part of the A-ring pressing against her guide pins when sitting down--especially when leaning forward. Not enjoyable at all! This appears to have been resolved by cutting those pins. The bottom part of the ring seemed to fare slightly better after dollyanne sanded down the tiny pin mark at the base. It apparently had a sharp edge that was gouging dolly in a sensitive spot! Aside from occasional pinching, it's doing OK. (Do yours have a pin-mark or is it the cuff-style ring? If it’s the latter, maybe there’s an issue with the hinge pressing into you as well.) Then, there was the chafing of the tessies against her thighs problem that dolly had for a while, which has since lessened due to stretching. She also started using baby-oil gel on critical spots and applying hydrocortisone to her tessies. Plus, the tessie skin may have strengthened over time. One issue after another!:mad0235: However, dolly doesn't seem to share your pelvic bone problem because of the type of pants she wears. Dolly wears casual corduroy trousers--usually with front pleats. These don’t have tight inseams and are loose enough to effectively hide the 2000 model while providing adequate room--except sometimes when sitting. Pleated pants are often worn by men with a bit of "extra" weight to conceal it well.:character0028:(Dollyanne's "extra," of course, is the chastity device--otherwise, dollyanne could wear something skin-tight without issue!) Dolly has noticed a "back-ache" problem too and concluded it was due to extra weight in front shifting her center of gravity slightly. Dolly hopes to solve this by losing some weight around the middle to compensate! When dollyanne wore a tight girdle, she didn't notice the type of issue you describe either because dolly isn't as slender, or perhaps because other problems at the time were masking it. Dolly will have to try wearing her girdle now that those issues are better and see what happens. Perhaps a steel belt device like the neosteel or arch would be better long-term solutions for you. Meanwhile, there probably isn't a perfect solution for you except limiting the device-wearing time to skirts and dresses. It sounds like you need to wear panties, minis, and skirts as often as possible for comfort! Can you wear a skirt to work, then remove the device, put on pants, and change back into your skirt on the way home?:character0182: If you can't switch pant types or change devices, you may have to create a schedule that maximizes wearing time while optimizing comfort. Being a chastised sissy gurl definitely isn’t easy!:gen085: Huggs,:manga_bath: ***dollyanne***

*Of course... one alternative is not to wear pants - just skirts!* :anim_46:

No problems with cb6000 and girdle-type panties along with pantyhose..... I agree with Miss D; skirts should be mandatory! You are just punishing yourself by wearing briefs and trousers (or whatever male clothes you choose). Just see what happens!

what underwear are you wearing. i wear things and have no problem.

**chastity belts** and that is one of the reasons why I only want to wear normal belts and not devices!! i mostly tide jeans or regular lady trouthers! reg.. GWENY:party-062:

OMG, i just looked at my last post...LOL...thongs...not things...LOL!!!!

I have the same issue as the OP (and roughly the same waist size too). luckily most of my jeans are loose.