Female led relationships discussion

Mistresses and subs alike, I’d love to hear how you balance the ordinary with the extraordinary. The past few weeks have seen two house moves, Christmas approaching, and family duties weighing down on me, so my kinky side has nearly vanished! I’m still happily holding the key, but that desire for kink is now shouting instead of whispering!

Happy Holidays to everyone as well!

It fluctuates. It fades and then returns. There's no use worrying about it.

Miss Red Dragon, I completely understand what you're saying; we face the same struggle with finding that balance, and sadly, I don't have a magic answer. It can be tough to get kinky when it's so much easier for her to find sexual satisfaction through vanilla means. I think she wonders why go through all the trouble of tying me up and whipping me around when she could simply use a vibrator or just eat out?

I really empathize with you, Miss Red Dragon. My Lady and I work different shifts. By the time I get home from my job, she is heading out for hers. We have four children, three of whom are in high school, keeping us constantly busy, not to mention that my Lady is also attending school herself. I feel quite deprived regarding the amount of kink in our lives, especially since I aspire to be a 24/7 collared sub hub all year round.

It feels like daily life always intrudes on what brings us together here. We each have different needs and levels of satisfaction, but family always comes first, without question. Our son will be home for Christmas, and we have a large extended family on the Mistress' side, so things remain relatively low-key for the next few weeks. However, the New Year is coming before we know it. I am deeply grateful that Mistress Suzan takes such good care of me in our kink dynamic and has respected my requests to avoid any tattoos or piercings that might show around family and vanilla friends. She plans to "change things up" after the holidays, but as long as I'm working, she lets me keep my submissive nature hidden from the ordinary crowd. Our journey into a femdom lifestyle has been wonderful, and her dominance is the greatest gift I could have ever imagined, all those years ago. Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays to everyone we've met through this lovely site that helps us share ideas and experiences. Suzan and dickie

I find it challenging at times. I recently started a new job (can't go into too much detail) which involves quite a bit of physical activity. While having my CB on isn't obvious, if I have to run with it, it can be somewhat cumbersome and get in the way. It's more about inconvenience than preventing me from wearing one entirely, but still. As for actual play sessions, they are rare because I live out in the sticks. Even places that are relatively easy to travel to seem short on Dommes. So, online interaction is often my best option. But when a chance to play arises, I seize it!:)

Planning ahead helps keep your mind in that kinky mindset even when the real world dictates the present and you must delay your desires. Having a clear vision of what will happen on that special future day does wonders for how you feel right now.