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Here I am at work, bored and with nothing on my plate, so I decided to start a blog. I’m not certain if anyone will care or if I’ll keep adding to it, but if there’s interest and people want more, I might continue. Here is what has happened up until now.

My partner and I have been together for just over 10 years (a month short of the decade). He is my everything. Since we started dating, our love life has had its ups and downs. We got into bondage early on, within that first year or so, and experimented with many things. I convinced him to dress up for me from time to time. The collection of toys expanded but sometimes sat unused as ideas came and went. I even installed hooks in the bedroom ceiling, though they didn’t see much use initially. We tried various approaches; some stuck, others faded away, but we kept moving forward happily.

A while back, I got him to dress up for me again, something I’ve always enjoyed and that he finds erotic. We started discussing other possibilities once more, focusing on sissification (connected to his dressing up). A key trait of ours is bouncing off each other’s ideas and taking things in different directions simultaneously. During a chat about dominance/submission and sissification, I pointed out the catch: if we went that route, he would have to follow orders. He didn’t seem thrilled by this prospect, as I expected. But then, almost casually, he suggested wearing a chastity device. It took me a split second to process what he was saying, and I immediately said yes with a huge grin! We jumped straight into online research to see what options were available.

Further discussions revealed that he had been masturbating more than he liked and harbored a secret wish for change. He also wanted to give control of his sexual life to me. While our sex life was good, I usually initiated it, though there was always the question of whether he would accept my advances. We had some minor issues; for instance, telling him “come to me if you want sex” didn’t work as planned because it made him feel pressured rather than welcomed—it actually turned him off slightly. He also noticed a fire in my eyes when he suggested chastity, which resonated with him.

In the first few days, he had to stop himself from masturbating. We aren’t 100% sure of the exact last date he did it, but likely no later than the morning of October 9th. However, we know his first device was a CB6000 that I purchased on October 11th. It arrived on October 16th and he got locked up promptly. Being new to this world and not fully understanding all the nuances, he did get released again on Thursday, October 17th (his birthday) because I thought it would be too cruel for him not to climax on his special day—though next year might see a different outcome!

This first device wasn’t entirely perfect and caused some issues, ranging from minor annoyances to more significant problems. It became clear he needed a larger size (or at least that’s what we thought). So, I ordered a Curve model. He hasn’t climaxed since then, although medical issues mean he isn’t completely locked up all the time. The Curve worked well overall, but the back ring broke due to our lack of knowledge about proper fitting initially.

We started looking at other devices available online. We bought several and tried most out (now choosing based on my preference). One was a metal device similar in shape to the Curve; it was good but allowed too much erection movement, causing discomfort. We also discovered the benefits of lubricants, which have been very helpful.

I also bought another one that you can see in my photos—it’s relatively short with mesh along the shaft. Although shorter than others we tried, it has proven more successful. He gets let out every few days for cleaning and to check his new piercing but isn’t allowed unsupervised freedom or any solo play.

One nice aspect of this process is that we talk about our sex life much more now than ever before; I think openness is good. We’ve never been dishonest, just overlooked discussing things we deemed unimportant previously. Now, every detail matters.

I briefly mentioned his new piercing earlier—it was amazing. At one point, he asked what else I could do to him if given the chance. My thought went immediately to a Prince Albert (PA), but I didn’t bring it up because he had been strongly opposed to piercings or “body mutilations” in the past. When I said yes, he clarified, asking about piercings specifically, and I confirmed: yes, a PA. And if we were doing that route, I wanted some new ones too (I already have others). He also found out that certain devices work well with a PA, which partly inspired the idea, though neither of us remembers exactly how it happened.

After several days of “if you get yours done…” and other prompts, I decided to get two more piercings on my birthday (November 13th). Then he said when his was being done… I asked if he had decided to get one too? He said yes. I nearly fainted from surprise! When I asked what persuaded him, he explained that he felt a need to please me and thought it would make me happy. Did it ever! It is the most amazing thing he has ever done for me. I still can’t quite believe it. He actually has a hole in his cock right there for me because of me—to please me! We went out together, both got our piercings done (I also had two inner labia piercings placed at the same time). Now we joke about having “his and hers” piercings. We are just starting to discover how amazing they are. Ladies reading this: if you can get him to do it, trust me, it is wonderful. He is proud of himself, but not prouder than I am of him!

Thanks for sharing your story! I have been thinking a lot about getting a PA recently too. The device I own is designed to accommodate one and would make it completely escape-proof. It would be lovely if my wife insisted on me having one, as that would add an element of submission to the act and likely push me to go ahead with it.

My wife is currently deciding whether I should get a PA or not. Personally, I love the idea of having a truly inescapable device and am somewhat hopeful she will say yes. She just needs to become comfortable with both the permanence and safety aspects.

Very jealous of you all for having such amazing and understanding wives!

If you don't use a PA or similar piercing as part of your locked security setup, you can't imagine the mental struggle of knowing that (without drastic measures) there is no way out. Once you have experienced this added level of security, wearing just a device feels pale in comparison. If your partner ever had any doubts about your commitment to being locked and denied, utilizing a PA like this will dispel them all. Without the key, she knows you aren't getting out. If your partner really dislikes the idea of a piercing staying in place, you can always remove it during the unlock/lock procedure as part of that routine. Although I've never had a partner who didn't enjoy some aspect of my having a PA even before entering chastity (pun intended!), penetration is the obvious one. There are also numerous variations for bondage and control applications; the list is limited only by imagination. One time: She released me from my cage, we showered together, things progressed to the bedroom. I gave her several orgasms with my tongue, then she bid me move up the bed where she took hold of my penis and guided it into her soaking wet pussy—you can imagine how that felt for me as I prepared to enter. Then she grabbed the ball (it was a 20mm one) and masturbated using it. It drove me crazy with anticipation; I couldn't wait for the moment when she pulled me deep inside her. She had a tremendous orgasm, then told me to put my cage back on. Once secured, she kissed me goodnight, asked me to spoon her, and went to sleep. It was incredible; I felt so owned. Sometimes she would have me remove my PA, masturbate with it, and give it back for reinsertion before being locked up again. It sent such a powerful message that our sex life was always going to be primarily about her pleasure. There are many good things about having a PA once it is fully healed.

PA is definitely the way to go. A heavy gauge ring through the cage bars makes removal nearly impossible without proper pliers (and even difficult with them, especially for segmented rings). I've had a similar experience using CBR during masturbation except I was made to stay on my knees leaning forward and do all the work. Got a thank you when done. That sealed it.

Over the years the relationship grows; that's what is so neat about Domination and Submission. Many years ago I remember sitting down with my wife sharing my views on dressing up and using a strapon—it has grown since then alongside being locked up and all the other things that make our love worth living. I know what you're saying, Mistress Bitch. For us 43 years total (20 of those as her slave), the latter period is definitely the best.

I really enjoyed reading your account.

I have wanted a PA for a long time but have always worried about the healing duration. It sounds like it takes several months to fully heal. Any thoughts on that?