Introductions discussion

Greetings to all ChastityMansion members. I’m a 22-year-old guy from Bristol, England!

I’ve arrived here out of curiosity and with hopes for some guidance. My romantic orientation is heterosexual; however, the prospect of servicing a cock when aroused appeals to me greatly. Being part of the kink community, one of my key fantasies/fetishes involves positive/negative reinforcement (behavioral modification) centered around chastity and forced-bi dynamics. Put simply, I imagine this means being conditioned into becoming an eager, enthusiastic sissy who loves sucking cock.

I’ve always appreciated the concept of wearing a cage, but for ages I doubted whether I’d enjoy the actual experience. At fetish gatherings, I often find myself focusing on women and have made friends with those who tease me about locking me up and compelling me to perform oral sex on men. The idea really resonated with me, yet I tend to lose that spark once the arousal fades (a major issue for guys!).

While I’ve performed oral on some men before and liked it—and would be open to doing so again—I often find my drive diminishes (I masturbate at least three times daily). That’s why I’m considering chastity. The goal is to remain locked up, keeping me in a state of arousal; release and the chance for an orgasm would only come after serving a set number of cocks. If this works out well, great! Even if it doesn’t, we’ll have learned something!

So, I have questions for those more experienced with being locked up who might help a newcomer:

• When kept in a flaccid state while wearing a padlock, can you maintain that aroused mindset (the feeling usually associated with an erection), or does sex feel less engaging? I know it varies by individual, but my hope is to stay in a frustratingly constant state of arousal, making me more eager to go out and serve!
• Secondly, perhaps even more crucial: I’m undecided and would value advice on which device type to start with. After extensive research, the design and look of the CB series really appeal to me. The issue is that I’ve seen negative reviews regarding their durability (even for the non-overpriced models). Will they break? Additionally, I need something secure. Even though it’s my first time, I want a serious setup.
• Are plastic CB devices easy to escape from? My concern is that yanking too hard on the padlock might snap them, or cutting through the pins and such. (Even if I want to be locked up, knowing the only way out is completing my ‘tasks’ makes it more enjoyable.)
• Do I need a metal device? If so, are there any metal brands that resemble the CB series?
• Is the chrome finish of the CB6000 more secure (is chrome a harder material?), or is its security equal to plastic ones? A price under £100 would be ideal, though I’m flexible.

Final question:

• Size. My erect length is about 7.5–8 inches, and my flaccid measurement from base to tip is around 4 inches (3.5 if I really squish it). Width might matter too; I’m fairly thick at roughly 2 inches across. Because of this size, I worry the CB6000 might be too small for me, and personally, I don’t care much for the Curve’s look (that curve is designed for men with larger endowments).

To summarize:

• Can you remain constantly sexually inclined without an erection when aroused?
• For something secure and unescapable, is metal necessary?
• Brand recommendations?
• What fits my size well?

Thank you so much for reading, and thanks in advance to anyone who replies with advice! I’d love to integrate chastity into my kink lifestyle. I identify as a switch; I enjoy topping my female (and sometimes male!) friends, but the bottom/sub/sissy side appeals greatly.

Hello and welcome! Yes, a **chastity cage** will keep you in a constant state of arousal. The CB series is an excellent starting point if you aren’t sure yet whether chastity fits your kink. If you are certain about this lifestyle, I suggest looking into steel devices right away. It depends... Personally, I’ve used my CB6000 for five years and it’s still intact. Some people break theirs every six months. Almost every device is escapable (including the CB6000). If you need absolute security, a piercing or a full belt setup is the way to go. I highly recommend steel. The chrome finish on the CB6K is actually just plating; it remains plastic underneath, so its durability is similar to the standard model. Enjoy your journey into **chastity**; you’ll find plenty of helpful information here.

I tried the HolyTrainer (which has a design similar to CB) but found it too narrow in diameter. For a beginner, I’m very happy with the Bird Cage. Yes, it is chrome-plated and doesn’t come close to the price or quality of more expensive steel devices, but at around $20 on Amazon, it’s ideal for newcomers like me. I was able to find it in both 1-3/4 inch and 2-inch ring sizes.

> -Can you still be horny and constantly sexually inclined without an errection when in the mood? > -Something secure and unescapable, is metal needed? > -Suggestions on brand? > -What works well with my sizing? > Click to expand... 1. When locked up, you can become much hornier and remain sexually inclined. It feels far more pleasurable. 2. A metal cage is essential if you want an inescapable device that doesn’t split open. I found mine very sturdy. 3. Opinions on brands vary. I bought my from It’s Chinese-made, but I’ve had no complaints over the last 18 months. 4. Regarding sizing: My experience suggests that a snug fit for your flaccid cock is key inside the cage. I tried a Jailbird with a longer length; it allowed about an 80% erection and let me masturbate. However, I switched back to my usual setup. That said, what matters most is staying locked up strictly 24/7 and letting your partner take control! Best wishes!!

I’ve worn the CB6000s for years and found them very comfortable. Given your size, you should probably start with a CB6000 as well. Yes, I have had to replace pins and glue the cage back together at times. The product comes with a one-year warranty, and offers great customer service! I believe their plastic option is an excellent starting purchase and worth the price. I probably should have switched to steel after that first year, but being cheap and procrastinating has held me back. I’m currently researching steel devices and expect to order a Jailbird soon. Hoping my CB6000 experiences will guide me on what size to choose. Good luck! You’ll likely find it a very pleasurable experience!