Introductions discussion

I’ve followed this place for ages and feel a strong pull toward chastity. I’m currently looking to weave some of that play into my conventional marriage, and since this group seems full of genuine, supportive people, it felt like the right moment to say hello.

I’m a man approaching 50, married for years to an incredible wife whom I love deeply. She has enriched my life immeasurably compared to how things would have been without her. After keeping most of my quirks hidden from her for so long, I’ve finally started helping her see who I really am and breaking down the barriers of shame that kept us apart.

To clarify, I’ve been seeing a counselor for some time to figure out how to do this without wrecking our relationship. A previous clumsy attempt at adding fetish elements nearly cost me everything, so I’m being careful about moving forward slowly. Also, don’t expect me to blindly follow every tip from random folks online!

One of my hopes is that we can integrate chastity into our marriage down the road. It’s still up in the air whether that will happen or not. For now, though, I hold the key myself: after several frustrating experiences over the last few years, I recently bought a Steelworxx Looker 1. This thing is fantastic! I’ve been training by wearing it to work daily and have managed some sleepovers with it when she (or should I say She?) was out of town. It’s definitely high quality. Much more comfortable than previous gear like an old CB-x or a steel tube from Mr-S Leathers, which were made of leather materials as well. It barely feels there—well, except for the hollow titanium rod pushing up my cock! That shaft is intense. I’ve experimented with urethra play before, but nothing quite like this. I’m not fully accustomed to it yet, but I’ve worn it through work weeks for nearly two weeks now. So far, everything is working well, and the sensations are great. Regarding security: I can’t say for certain if it’s technically impossible to escape. If pushed, I might be able to slide my cock up until free, though it would require pressing hard against my body. The process wouldn’t feel terrible at best, but likely quite painful and possibly injurious. Plus, sliding back in would be a nightmare. So practically speaking, for me, it’s secure.

Looks like this intro turned into a review of the device! Thanks for reading!

I brought my wife into chastity several months back. It went smoother than your experience (we've been kinksters from day one; she was always the submissive partner, so her reaction wasn't totally predictable). We had grown distant sexually due to kids and jobs, leaving little energy for intimacy between us. I framed it as me giving up masturbation to focus my attention on her. It worked nicely and didn't feel threatening. She's warming to it now; she isn't a strict domme but really likes controlling me sexually. Good luck with your journey, and happy to chat whenever you need someone to talk to.