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Since I joined this site about 48 hours ago, as far as I can tell, BlueEyes has launched a rather odd campaign against me regarding my Avatar photo. To make matters worse, he has branded me a fraud and made numerous claims. Moreover, he has done so across various parts of the forum, which suggests his goal is to undermine my credibility over just one picture. I want to express my gratitude to those members who have messaged me with welcome notes and support because I feel unwelcome here. Many have expressed their irritation at these persistent attacks against me. People act for many reasons, whether right or wrong, and everyone has different motivations. I decided NOT to defend myself directly to BlueEyes because his criticisms felt insulting and unnecessary. However, after speaking with several members on the site, I’ve decided to issue a formal statement to clear up any confusion. The photo serving as my avatar is NOT an actual picture of me. Yes, I did tell another member that it was, and now I wish I hadn’t. There are reasons for using this image that you can take or leave. In truth, I do look like a younger version of the person in the photo; actually, there’s a very close resemblance. The reason I don’t use my real picture is to protect my privacy due to my job. I work as a relief teacher with five-year-olds today. While many people are open-minded now, most still aren’t. If parents found out their child was taught by a woman involved in sexual slavery, chastity, BDSM, feminization, etc., there would be all sorts of reactions, and I’d likely lose my position. The fact that my personal preferences don’t affect my professional duties wouldn’t matter much; I’d still be labeled unfit to teach. So, I use an image that resembles me but could easily pass as someone else if needed. I guard my privacy not just for myself but also to avoid the uproar from some people and media attention should my private life become public knowledge—I make no apologies for this. It’s true I lied when I said the photo was mine; I’m sorry about that, and I hope my reasons above explain why. I am real, not a fake, with nothing hidden except my actual identity in photos for the reasons explained. BlueEyes even posted his own picture claiming it is him. One might reasonably ask, “How do we know that photo isn’t one of his friends or stolen from the internet?” I’m NOT suggesting he lied; you could ask that about anyone’s photo here. Several members have admitted their pictures aren’t genuine. Lastly, I feel my recent treatment was very uncalled for, public, and unpleasant—certainly unwarranted. BlueEyes has acted as a self-appointed site policeman to suit his own purposes, which is fair enough. It wasn’t the nicest way to greet a new member! To anyone reading this, please know I am genuine and will answer questions honestly and openly. Please respect my privacy regarding my true identity just as I respect yours. Feel free to email me directly if you have anything to ask; I’ll reply. Judge for yourselves who is real and who isn’t. Using a photo does NOT mean someone is fake or dishonest. I trust other members are more understanding, open-minded, and considerate than BlueEyes has been in his ongoing criticism. I welcome contact with members and honest discussion; I’m an open book if given the chance, so why not judge for yourself? My apologies to anyone who was offended by the posts concerning my identity. Kind regards Governess Stephanie

I get your reasoning regarding the use of the picture. Roughly twelve years ago, I worked in the adult film industry (behind the scenes). One girl who loved performing on camera was a university student; after graduating, she became a secondary school teacher. At that time, she stepped away from porn. She enjoyed sex and found it thrilling to perform with someone she’d just met moments before, but she believed pornography clashed with being an educator. What happened is the moral guardians realized her past as a performer and pressured her until she couldn't find work anymore. They ruined this young woman's life. The tale we heard was that one of the strict women from the moral majority spotted her husband masturbating to a DVD movie and recognized the actress as Miss ........., who taught at the school where their child went. This sparked a campaign involving appeals to the education minister for her dismissal on grounds of moral unfitness; similar moves toward the headmaster; and even protests outside the school gates by some devout Christians. The outcome of this display of Christian love was that working in a brothel became the only way this poor girl could earn money to eat and live, rather than sleeping on park benches. I doubt those concerned Christian figures truly grasp they have pushed someone away from 'sin' back into it just to survive because their legitimate income source vanished.

> cth96190 said: > I get your reasoning regarding the use of the picture. > Roughly twelve years ago, I worked in the adult film industry (behind the scenes). One girl who loved performing on camera was a university student; after graduating, she became a secondary school teacher. At that time, she stepped away from porn. She enjoyed sex and found it thrilling to perform with someone she’d just met moments before, but she believed pornography clashed with being an educator. > What happened is the moral guardians realized her past as a performer and pressured her until she couldn't find work anymore. They ruined this young woman's life. > The tale we heard was that one of the strict women from the moral majority spotted her husband masturbating to a DVD movie and recognized the actress as Miss ........., who taught at the school where their child went. This sparked a campaign involving appeals to the education minister for her dismissal on grounds of moral unfitness; similar moves toward the headmaster; and even protests outside the school gates by some devout Christians. > The outcome of this display of Christian love was that working in a brothel became the only way this poor girl could earn money to eat and live, rather than sleeping on park benches. > I doubt those concerned Christian figures truly grasp they have pushed someone away from 'sin' back into it just to survive because their legitimate income source vanished. > Click to expand... Thank you very much for your note. Your points are indeed accurate. Society can act superior while simultaneously shooting itself in the foot simply due to misunderstanding. I really empathize with that girl, as her predicament mirrors exactly what frightens me about being too visible. It is lovely to read a courteous post instead of an attack!

RESPONSE TO OPEN LETTER - or let's call it a summary I do regret that I didn't just make one single alert here about @Governess Stephanie initially saying something seemed right. It all escalated quite a bit yesterday. **But 4 things still keep me from having severe regrets:** 1. The way her message about giving away slaves flooded six different threads plus her profile page within twenty minutes. (Let's call that somewhat unusual, shall we?) 2. The fake photo itself wasn't huge, but @Governess Stephanie claimed in a reply to @Mistress B that the picture was indeed hers! (That is quite unusual—I'd say lying about the photo to one of the well-known mistresses here hurts her cause significantly since she apparently wanted to address mistresses like @Mistress B with her giveaway.) I HAVE read the above letter from @Governess Stephanie where she now apologizes for lying—that's very good. Maybe a bit late, but still... We are on track. 3.The fact that all she did yesterday was swear at me—and others—without correcting the lie to @Mistress B and everyone else. (I find this rather peculiar.) 4.And now the OPEN LETTER, where she tries to pay me back for pointing fingers at her somewhat suspicious whereabouts and gathering supporters. Well done—I’ll leave it to you all to decide if the so-called facts in the letter are valid. It is certainly a beautiful story:-) I wonder why the avatar photo hasn't been replaced yet? It remains one of those well-known UK hardcore porn stars. A somewhat odd choice for someone teaching five-year-olds and working as a relief teacher. Instead, we get a long tale explaining how close the resemblance is to her appearance. Hopefully not so close that it gives her away;-) Regarding my photo—it is valid, verifiable by more than one of the very well-known mistresses here who know me personally. See .... that was fact! -Verifiable fact! I certainly don't demand members reveal their true identity to stay here; that would be absurd! So all that in the OPEN LETTER goes a bit far! That wasn't my point at all! So please everyone, hide away if you like—even I wear dark sunglasses... But I do not claim a fake photo is actually mine. I just wanted to show the difference between talking about unverifiable facts and delivering verifiable ones. For all these reasons, I stand by what I wrote. However, I regret the amount of space and time spent addressing it. The reason everything became so big was @Governess Stephanie's heavy flooding across numerous threads simultaneously yesterday morning. I should have gathered all alerts into one single post stating which threads received her "blessing" with the giveaway offer... But at the time, I felt not every member or visitor seeing her posts in other threads would visit the Off You Go thread. So I decided to be just as careful about getting my message out as Governess Stephanie did—even if it meant being accused of flooding CM too. At the time, I found my methods justified... and I still do. Thank goodness there are members here who know me for my honesty; I also happen to know for a fact that more than one well-known mistress knows my true identity. I am no fake, standing by my beliefs. Yes, we all should behave—including myself. I could have done better yesterday;-) We must not lie or exploit each other excessively. But we also realize too often scams and gold diggers appear here. The Off You Go! thread is hard evidence of that. So naturally, we have to watch out—to help one another. I appreciate some did this for me when I joined, so now I pay back the community. Some might even say I pay too much.:-) And Yes, sometimes we can be wrong. We honestly don't always know. Often circumstances are all we have... But if you look back at the members spotted in the Off-you-go thread, you'll find hardly anyone does anything but try to justify themselves with more cover-up lies and swearing before disappearing... A rather common yet counterproductive approach from someone claiming innocence... Glorious morning and a good day to all! BlueEyes ( This is mainly a repost from the off-you go thread.)

@BlueEyes I think you need to halt this Now. @Governess Stephanie isn't the only person or Mistress here with a fake photo, and your attacks are unwarranted. If you wish to object to her member status please use the correct channels. Otherwise please stop posting. Thanks Phil (admin)

> philfred said: > @BlueEyes I think you need to halt this Now. @Governess Stephanie isn't the only person or Mistress here with a fake photo, and your attacks are unwarranted. If you wish to object to her member status please use the correct channels. Otherwise please stop posting. > Thanks > Phil (admin) > Click to expand... Sure Phil. I am finished here - and there. I didn't start this thread myself, but I should have let it pass. My apologies! Still, this isn't really about a fake photo, but.................. I will go pack for my holidays instead! Sincerely BlueEyes

Live and let live! There are fakes and genuine people on all websites, and it can never be stopped when participants wish to guard against adverse publicity of one sort or another. The reasons someone might want to remain private vary, but generally speaking, we have preferences—both sexual and otherwise—that aren't socially acceptable by the majority, at least superficially. I too have an occupation where my inner desires would make it very difficult for me to continue if known. I only wish that I was normal. A sad thing to say perhaps, many might think, but it would make life easier. I live a double life: one of professional and social acceptance—a prominent professional person you could say—and the other is an inner struggle with desires seldom satisfied due to lack of others craving the same things. I am not afraid to admit that I am lonely. If someone finds some relief from loneliness by pretending to be who they are not, then I do not criticize them. They may be genuine and they may not. Over the years I have found very few ladies share my desires; many fakes, but fewer genuine ones. I appreciate the motivations behind both. My life and that of many others with similar desires is marked by loneliness, frustration, and struggle. Let us here accept people as fake or real. I can say for certain that my pictures are of me. That I am what I am: Lonely, pathetic even, but me. Please let us live and let live; let this one go along with the next, using our own intelligence to decide who we want to talk to regardless of fakeness.